Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin

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This episode is an eye opening chat with John Ford, a seasoned coach and mediator with over 30 years of experience. We dive into the heart of conflict resolution and the transformative power of empathy. John shares his journey from South Africa to the U.S., emphasizing how empathy can shift us from a blame mindset to one of responsibility. We discuss practical strategies, like using feelings and needs cards, to navigate conflicts and foster deeper connections. This episode is packed with insights and tools to help you communicate better and grow personally. Tune in for a heartfelt and enlightening conversation!

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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Kate Gladdin introduces the podcast and highlights its focus on personal growth and conflict resolution.

Guest Introduction (00:02:49) John Ford, a mediator with 30 years of experience, joins the show to discuss conflict resolution.

John's Background (00:04:14) John shares his journey from South Africa to the U.S. and his discovery of mediation.

Importance of Empathy (00:05:52) John emphasizes the role of empathy in resolving conflicts and improving interpersonal relationships.

Shifting from Blame to Responsibility (00:06:50) Discussion on helping individuals move from a blame mindset to taking responsibility for their actions.

The Role of Self-Empathy (00:08:12) John explains the importance of self-empathy in mediation and conflict resolution.

Understanding Common Humanity (00:10:10) John discusses recognizing shared human struggles to reduce blame and victim mentality.

Validating Feelings (00:14:02) The significance of validating emotions in conflict resolution without necessarily agreeing with the other party.

Clarifying Perspectives (00:15:44) John highlights the importance of language in expressing perspectives during mediation to avoid misunderstandings.

Misunderstandings of Empathy (00:18:21) John addresses common pitfalls in understanding and practicing empathy, distinguishing it from sympathy.

Empathy and Its Dangers (00:18:41) Discusses the balance between empathizing with others and the risk of shifting focus to oneself.

Cognitive Biases in Empathy (00:19:37) Explores how personal biases can distort our perception of others' experiences.

The Pitfalls of Giving Advice (00:20:35) Highlights how offering unsolicited advice can undermine genuine empathy.

Evolution of Empathy (00:21:27) Examines the historical context of empathy and its growing importance in interpersonal communication.

Hollow Empathy vs. Action (00:22:18) Stresses the need for empathy to be accompanied by meaningful actions, not just words.

Personal Experiences of Empathy (00:23:09) Kate shares her experiences with differing levels of empathy during her time in university.

Emotional Literacy and Acknowledgment (00:24:28) Discusses the importance of recognizing and validating others' feelings to foster emotional understanding.

The Power of Labeling Emotions (00:27:22) Emphasizes how identifying feelings can aid in emotional healing and understanding.

Embracing Anger as a Valid Emotion (00:30:37) John advocates for recognizing anger as a sign of care and engagement rather than a negative emotion.

The Impact of Emotional Avoidance (00:32:20) Addresses societal tendencies to suppress emotions and the need for tools to reconnect with feelings.

Feelings and Needs Cards (00:34:08) Introduces a tool designed to help individuals articulate their feelings and needs effectively.

Podcast Episode Timestamps

Understanding Needs (00:35:51) Discussion on recognizing personal needs and the importance of asserting them for healthy relationships.

The Power of Prompts (00:36:47) Using prompts, like feelings lists, to help individuals articulate their emotions and needs more clearly.

Bonding Through Neediness (00:37:33) Exploring how acknowledging needs can enhance connections in friendships and relationships.

Preparing for Difficult Conversations (00:38:41) Strategies for approaching tough discussions using feelings ...

Tune in for a short & punchy pep talk on why you don't necessarily need more confidence to get over making mistakes or falling short, it's something far more powerful and helpful to get you through those messy moments.