No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
Jake Kastleman
What have you tried so far to quit porn? Accountability buddies, talk therapy, internet filters, church or religious programs, or mindfulness techniques to 'get rid of cravings'... Many of these have merit, but they're often missing key elements for long-lasting sobriety. It isn’t enough to just “stop watching porn”. Porn addiction is a symptom of deeper, underlying challenges that I address using evidence-based psychological and behavioral practices.
My mission isn't just to help people overcome porn addiction, but to give them each step to establish a recovery mindset and lifestyle. This is done using hands-on, daily exercises that retrain the brain and forge new habits that last a lifetime. Once this mindset and lifestyle are established, the desire for porn naturally fades.
To discover how to stop porn addiction, join my Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program at nomoredesire.com/program
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68: From Porn to Peace | Recovery Mindset Practices to Stop Watching Porn
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
09/19/24 • 40 min
What if you had mental tools you could use in an instant to remove your desire for porn?
What if you could stop watching porn because you had a recovery mindset that replaced your need for it?
What I often hear from my clients when they begin my intensive porn addiction recovery program is that cravings for porn and sex feel instant and automatic. They see a woman, and immediately the lust and fantasizing starts.
I remember exactly what that was like during the years I was addicted to porn.
Many men feel out of control and unable to change the way they think about sexuality, romantic relationships, and women. They feel they have no choice whether they get dragged along by their sexual urges, and so much of what they want to accomplish or become is drowned out by these on-going sexual cravings.
They have a powerful drive to do great things with their lives, but so much of that just doesn’t feel possible with this monkey on their back.
It's difficult to quit porn. Sexual drive is a powerful force, and it can feel exhausting trying to fight it all the time; trying to be a responsible man, husband, and father. Sometimes we might wish we could just turn our sexual attraction off! Flip a switch and make the desires go away.
That’s the same way I felt for many years.
Today, I’ll teach you to stop watching porn by building a recovery mindset that replaces your desire for porn with a new, fulfilling perspective that enables you to love the people around you and yourself. Not in some cheap, boyish way, but in a mature, masculine way.
This perspective takes work. It’s not some freaking magic trick to “quit porn in 30 days” (those are scams). Instead, it’s a practical and psychological approach you can use throughout your day.
Read on to learn how you can grow this recovery mindset and replace your desire for porn with a fresh, new perspective that serves you and your loved ones.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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56: Keys for Confidence, Self-Worth, and Recovery | Mark Collins
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
06/12/24 • 56 min
If you're battling with pornography addiction, you're not alone, and there's a way out. I've been there, and I've come through the other side. Let's talk about how you can break free from porn addiction and reclaim your life.
In today’s episode, I speak with Mark Collins, a Coach and Mentor who helps men uncover their true identity so they can build confidence, self-worth, and a life of deep meaning.
Through my years of addiction, I often wondered what was driving this destructive behavior. For a long time, I thought it was simply sexual urges and desires; that I had a high libido and a need that had to be filled.
How wrong I was.
What Mark and I discussed can make a major difference for you in your path to overcome porn addiction.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
- FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
- FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
- Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
- Set Up a Free Call with Jake
MARK COLLINS: FREEDOM FOR LIFE
- BOOK: Life Mastery | Live by Design, Not by Default
- Freedom for Life Website
- YouTube Channel @_freedomforlife_
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43: Ease Stress in 5 Steps
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
02/21/24 • 24 min
One of the main reasons that we struggle with porn addiction is we have not yet learned how to manage stress effectively.
Managing stress is not an easy task, especially with how many challenging emotions and decisions face us today.
Most people are more stressed than they’ve ever been, with the political, economic, and societal context.
But all this does not need to lead to addiction.
Rather than escaping through pornography addiction (or other addictions), we can learn how to stop running from discomfort, and start leaning into it.
We can handle difficult situations and emotions with peace and acceptance.
By doing this, we can develop the skills to quit porn long-term.
In today’s episode, I’ll teach you the 5 steps to ease stress.
If you want to take recovery seriously, join my coaching program. You’ll experience:
- One-on-one sessions with someone who has both personal and professional experience in recovery.
- Daily Check-ins that help you understand what’s really leading to your addiction so you can break free of porn for good.
- Personalize Plans and Goals we work on step-by-step to transform your life and well-being.
- Recovery Curriculum that teaches you the mindset and lifestyle you need to be sober.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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70: What to Do When Your Wife is Triggered | How to Hold Boundaries and Use the Language of Safety in Your Marriage When You Have a Porn Addiction
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
10/09/24 • 51 min
If you’re married and you struggle with a porn addiction, we’re going to talk about what to do when your wife is triggered.
I have seen a recurring trend with my clients who struggle with pornography addiction. Many have no boundaries with their partners. They face some very serious struggles and confusion in their marriage, trying to figure out how to react when their wives with betrayal trauma are triggered. In other words, when their wives become angry, defensive, lash out, become critical and insulting, or they shut down and give their husbands the silent treatment.
Very common these days - even in circles of recovery - is the tendency to believe that the porn addict can have no expectations or standards for how he is treated, because of the fact that he has betrayed his wife by watching porn, and that ALL of the issues in their relationship stem from his behavior. His wife can berate and put him down, and it is “justified” because of his porn addiction.
This kind of treatment can deeply hurt the addict, who by the way, despite his self-centered behavior, is a human being. Betrayed wives will sometimes blame their addict husbands for everything that’s wrong, and this crushes their husband’s self-esteem, causing him to feel hated and worthless. This works against the very thing that the wife wants most, which is a capable, responsible, and selfless husband. Not to mention this does not help him stop watching porn.
An addict’s betrayal of their spouse is, without a doubt, selfish. But it is also personally devastating and traumatic for the addict to endure. To overcome porn addiction requires far more than willpower, motivation, or a decision to stop. The recovering addict needs the proper recovery mindset and lifestyle tools, and qualified help for porn addiction.
Part of building this recovery mindset and lifestyle is to learn how to effectively engage with your romantic partner. Today, we will discuss the following to help you do this:
- Understanding the trauma of porn addiction
- Understanding the what, why, and how of triggers for betrayed spouses
- Understanding a spouse’s betrayal trauma
- Taking ownership over your side of the marriage (and letting the other person’s go)
- What boundaries are and are not
- How to help your betrayed spouse through...
- Using the language of safety
- Holding appropriate boundaries
- Holding daily couple’s check-ins
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FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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31: Love vs. Control - Healing Marriage & Relationships | John Canaan
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
11/02/23 • 62 min
In this episode from the No More Desire Podcast, my friend John Canaan and I talk about overcoming the desire to control; putting aside the ego to improve marriage and relationships, overcome addictions, and just live an overall more excellent life!
John hits the nail on the head, talking about specific methods to heal marriage and relationships, helping you remove ego and put your spouse first. John and I also discuss God, addiction recovery, and surrendering to Christ.
John has been doing personal coaching and speaking on marriage for over 20 years now. He is truly inspired!
Sign up for John Canaan’s personal coaching, seminars, or workshops: https://www.pathofpeace.org/
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FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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30: Overcome Social Anxiety: 5 Simple Mental Techniques
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
10/25/23 • 53 min
I was talking with a friend of mine the other day - a fellow recovering addict - and I was sharing about my past with addiction and how social anxiety was a big struggle in my life and actually fueled my addiction - in other words, I went to addiction in order to cope with the immense amount of nervousness and fear I felt in relationships and social situations.
I told this friend that I had some mental techniques and spiritual methods that I could teach her to help her overcome social anxiety and that I could share those with her.
But I also know, from personal experience and from listening to others, that neither I nor she are isolated in the struggles we’ve had with both social anxiety and addiction.
Addicts often struggle with social anxiety. Especially porn addicts. Do all of us addicts? No, of course not, but there is a connection between social anxiety and addiction to whatever degree.
So, for my friend, and all of those other people out there struggling with social anxiety, I wanted to make this episode for you.
What I’m going to share is based on principles of psychology as well as principles of faith in God.
Most of what I’ll teach you are thought patterns and mental habits you can adopt to change the way that you think about yourself, other people, and relationships so that you can manage and decrease social anxiety.
These are mental tools that you can use any time, anywhere, and they take PRACTICE. The more you repeat them, the more you will train your brain to think differently and form new habits.
So, let’s dive in.
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FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
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28: My Conversion & Recovery Story | How I Quit Porn with God's Help
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
10/11/23 • 57 min
I’m going to tell you how I quit porn. I’ll talk about some very crucial turning points in my life that led to both my porn addiction recovery (and recovery from other addictions) as well as my conversion to Jesus Christ.
I grew up in a Christian family - traditional Christian values, parents dedicated to their faith, very conservative. Porn, to say the least, was not considered a “normal thing to watch” in my household.
At 13 years old I began looking at porn. It started slow and over the years became more and more extreme.
I knew that pornography could cause harm to the brain. I didn’t understand the true significance of that though - the things using porn could do like creating anxiety, depression, motivation issues, and screwing up views of women, relationships, and sex.
By 17 years old I was slowly going downhill. My addiction to porn had expanded into drugs, alcohol, sex, and also illegal behaviors.
I had a lot of potential. I grew up in a good family and plenty of advantages. But because of the many insecurities I had, my lack of knowledge of how to deal with them in a productive way, and my subsequent use of porn to escape, I was destroying my capacity to do good in the world.
I was so far gone and didn’t know how to get back. I was so far that I really didn’t know I needed TO GET BACK. To where? I thought I was doing just fine.
I wasn’t.
To overcome porn addiction was an immense task, filled with complexities and challenges. I lacked the capacity to do it myself. When I was 17 years old, I had an experience that would change the trajectory of my life forever.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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29: A Change of Heart
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
10/18/23 • 60 min
How do we lose the desire for addiction? Is it possible?
During the decade I spent addicted to porn, I dreamed of a day I could finally be free of the chains of addiction.
That I could finally have my confidence around women back
That I could finally be free of the social anxiety I suffered with
That I could finally have my motivation and drive back that pornography addiction, alcohol, and drugs had robbed from me.
That I could finally be clear-headed again and get rid of the brain fog that these addictions had cursed me with.
I WANTED to be sober. I wanted it bad.
I was told that if I could just be motivated enough by all of these things that I wanted, then I would finally get sober. The world said that porn addiction recovery was just a matter of will.
I thought, “I must be weak, or lazy.”
“Something must be wrong with me.”
“What kind of man am I if I can’t just stop looking at these pictures and videos? I mean, shouldn’t it be EASY to stop doing? Just STOP LOOKING!”
It wasn’t that simple. It isn’t for anyone.
To truly lose our desire for addiction - to break free of porn addiction - requires a massive shift in lifestyle and mindset. It requires a change of heart.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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37: Mindset Shift: 3 Thought Strategies to Beat Porn Addiction
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
12/27/23 • 40 min
Do you have incessant cravings for porn lately? In this episode, you'll learn 3 Mindset Strategies to Beat Porn Addiction.
Do you feel like once you’ve started craving you have no choice but to give in to porn addiction eventually? Even if you make it a day, a week, or a month, does failure seem inevitable?
You want to stop so bad, but you’ve lost hope.
I felt this way for years. Once momentum was moving me towards pornography addiction, I knew eventually I’d give in at some point.
It took me years to learn how to quit porn. It wasn’t just a matter of stopping; instead, my mindset had to change completely.
To stop watching porn I needed to adopt new resolutions: continuous mental practices that kept me in the right mindset to stay sober.
To overcome porn addiction, you don’t need to simply “want it bad enough” or just “try harder”.
You need to know HOW to try.
Today, I’m going to teach you G.A.P. It’s 3 mindset strategies to help you beat porn addiction.
Listen to the episode to learn these 3 mindset strategies that help you quit for good.
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FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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36: My Spouse & I Just Fought. I Feel Triggered. How Do I Stay Clean?
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
12/20/23 • 47 min
How do I come out of an argument with my spouse and NOT relapse? For many of the men that I’ve spoken to, they can get really triggered to go to their porn addiction after an argument or a fight with their spouse. It’s super common.
Today, I want to talk about why fights or arguments can be so triggering for us to go look at porn - leading to slips and relapses - and how we can better handle the shame, anger, and intense emotions that might come after a fight, so we can stop watching porn.
We can not only come out on the other side clean and sober, but heal our relationship with our wife or significant other at the same time.
I’ll teach you a 3-letter acronym that gives you a step-by-step process for how to do this.
Listen to the episode to learn this 3-step process for staying clean after fights and arguments.
So, let’s pretend that you’ve just had a heated argument with your spouse. You both acted bull-headed. You both said things that you probably didn’t mean. And you’re both worked up.
Maybe you’re even charged for more conflict if they say one more freaking thing that rubs you the wrong way...
Then, the addiction cravings come... Could be for porn, alcohol, food, video games, TV... Whatever it is, your mind wants to soothe or escape your difficult feelings through self-destructive methods.
STOP Right there!
This is the moment that you need to halt your trajectory that is leading to a relapse. Don’t wait. Don’t let craving turn into planning or deciding to give in to your pornography addiction. You need to step back and process through your feelings with God as your companion.
I’m going to give you 3 practical steps to do this, so you can quit porn and improve your relationship.
Those steps are S.I.R.
To find out what these 3 simple steps are, listen to the episode.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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The 4 Root Causes of Porn Addiction
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Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction
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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Addiction Recovery, Mental Health, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education and Mental Illness.
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The episode title '56: Keys for Confidence, Self-Worth, and Recovery | Mark Collins' is the most popular.
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The average episode length on No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery is 41 minutes.
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Episodes of No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery are typically released every 7 days.
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