No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
Jake Kastleman
What have you tried so far to quit porn? Accountability buddies, talk therapy, internet filters, church or religious programs, or mindfulness techniques to 'get rid of cravings'... Many of these have merit, but they're often missing key elements for long-lasting sobriety. It isn’t enough to just “stop watching porn”. Porn addiction is a symptom of deeper, underlying challenges that I address using evidence-based psychological and behavioral practices.
My mission isn't just to help people overcome porn addiction, but to give them each step to establish a recovery mindset and lifestyle. This is done using hands-on, daily exercises that retrain the brain and forge new habits that last a lifetime. Once this mindset and lifestyle are established, the desire for porn naturally fades.
To discover how to stop porn addiction, join my Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program at nomoredesire.com/program
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56: Keys for Confidence, Self-Worth, and Recovery | Mark Collins
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
06/12/24 • 56 min
If you're battling with pornography addiction, you're not alone, and there's a way out. I've been there, and I've come through the other side. Let's talk about how you can break free from porn addiction and reclaim your life.
In today’s episode, I speak with Mark Collins, a Coach and Mentor who helps men uncover their true identity so they can build confidence, self-worth, and a life of deep meaning.
Through my years of addiction, I often wondered what was driving this destructive behavior. For a long time, I thought it was simply sexual urges and desires; that I had a high libido and a need that had to be filled.
How wrong I was.
What Mark and I discussed can make a major difference for you in your path to overcome porn addiction.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
- FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
- FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
- Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
- Set Up a Free Call with Jake
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68: From Porn to Peace | Recovery Mindset Practices to Stop Watching Porn
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
09/19/24 • 40 min
What if you had mental tools you could use in an instant to remove your desire for porn?
What if you could stop watching porn because you had a recovery mindset that replaced your need for it?
What I often hear from my clients when they begin my intensive porn addiction recovery program is that cravings for porn and sex feel instant and automatic. They see a woman, and immediately the lust and fantasizing starts.
I remember exactly what that was like during the years I was addicted to porn.
Many men feel out of control and unable to change the way they think about sexuality, romantic relationships, and women. They feel they have no choice whether they get dragged along by their sexual urges, and so much of what they want to accomplish or become is drowned out by these on-going sexual cravings.
They have a powerful drive to do great things with their lives, but so much of that just doesn’t feel possible with this monkey on their back.
It's difficult to quit porn. Sexual drive is a powerful force, and it can feel exhausting trying to fight it all the time; trying to be a responsible man, husband, and father. Sometimes we might wish we could just turn our sexual attraction off! Flip a switch and make the desires go away.
That’s the same way I felt for many years.
Today, I’ll teach you to stop watching porn by building a recovery mindset that replaces your desire for porn with a new, fulfilling perspective that enables you to love the people around you and yourself. Not in some cheap, boyish way, but in a mature, masculine way.
This perspective takes work. It’s not some freaking magic trick to “quit porn in 30 days” (those are scams). Instead, it’s a practical and psychological approach you can use throughout your day.
Read on to learn how you can grow this recovery mindset and replace your desire for porn with a fresh, new perspective that serves you and your loved ones.
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75: Quit Porn Using IFS | A Powerful New Approach to Psychology & Addiction Recovery
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
11/13/24 • 29 min
What if your brain pushes you towards porn addiction because it’s trying to help you, not hurt you? What if you could quit porn using IFS, an approach that helps you effectively understand and speak with the part of your brain pushing you towards porn, and you could redirect it? What if you could work alongside that part to overcome porn addiction, rather than feeling exhausted trying to fight it all of the time?
Since the dawn of western psychology, we have believed in a “mono-mind”. Meaning you have one brain and one personality. Seems pretty obvious, right? This is an assumption we’ve made based on hundreds if not thousands of years of tradition.
But what if this is incorrect? What if there is a more effective way of viewing the mind that results in accelerated mental healing and repair?
Internal Family Systems, “Sub-personalities”, and Porn Addiction Recovery
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a psychological modality that was founded by Dr. Richard Schwartz in the 1980’s. Over the 2010’s and 2020’s it has accelerated rapidly into the mainstream due to its extremely effective approach for helping clients and individuals with addiction and mental illness.
IFS denies the assumption of “mono-mind” (that we have one personality and one identity), and instead posits that our mind is made up of multiple "parts" or sub-personalities, all contributing to our psyche and individuality.
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26: Can I Actually Learn Humility? | Porn Recovery Mindset
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
09/20/23 • 36 min
Have you ever been told that addiction recovery requires humility?
Do you wonder how in the world being humble could possibly help you quit porn?
Perhaps hearing that gets your defenses up. Perhaps it fills you with anger. Or maybe you just don’t understand what it means to “be humble”. You try to humble yourself in order to overcome porn addiction, but you wonder what that really means??
Humility can be an ethereal and seemingly unattainable virtue. Afterall, if I think that I’m humble, I’m probably not...so, how do I become humble?...
Well...I’m still working on that myself, so I really couldn’t tell ya. That said, I do think that we can talk about some perspective shifts and actions steps we can take each day that can help us learn humility, which will empower our porn addiction recovery.
Why? Practicing having an attitude of humility in everything that we do will invite more of God’s light in. Without humility, God cannot get through to us. Our heart must be OPEN. This attitude enables us to learn, grow, and be open to help. If we aren’t humble, we simply won’t learn, and therefore we won’t be able to stop porn addiction. So, we aim to practice it in ALL that we do.
I'll give you perspective shifts that can help us learn humility and break free from porn addiction.
I'll give you action steps that can build a humble attitude so you can get rid of porn addiction.
If we want to quit porn, it requires us to humble ourselves before God and Jesus Christ. This doesn’t mean that God is up there demanding our submission or wanting us to feel ashamed of ourselves. Rather, God knows that the only way for us to overcome unwanted behaviors is to live according to the ways of truth and peace.
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36: My Spouse & I Just Fought. I Feel Triggered. How Do I Stay Clean?
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
12/20/23 • 47 min
How do I come out of an argument with my spouse and NOT relapse? For many of the men that I’ve spoken to, they can get really triggered to go to their porn addiction after an argument or a fight with their spouse. It’s super common.
Today, I want to talk about why fights or arguments can be so triggering for us to go look at porn - leading to slips and relapses - and how we can better handle the shame, anger, and intense emotions that might come after a fight, so we can stop watching porn.
We can not only come out on the other side clean and sober, but heal our relationship with our wife or significant other at the same time.
I’ll teach you a 3-letter acronym that gives you a step-by-step process for how to do this.
Listen to the episode to learn this 3-step process for staying clean after fights and arguments.
So, let’s pretend that you’ve just had a heated argument with your spouse. You both acted bull-headed. You both said things that you probably didn’t mean. And you’re both worked up.
Maybe you’re even charged for more conflict if they say one more freaking thing that rubs you the wrong way...
Then, the addiction cravings come... Could be for porn, alcohol, food, video games, TV... Whatever it is, your mind wants to soothe or escape your difficult feelings through self-destructive methods.
STOP Right there!
This is the moment that you need to halt your trajectory that is leading to a relapse. Don’t wait. Don’t let craving turn into planning or deciding to give in to your pornography addiction. You need to step back and process through your feelings with God as your companion.
I’m going to give you 3 practical steps to do this, so you can quit porn and improve your relationship.
Those steps are S.I.R.
To find out what these 3 simple steps are, listen to the episode.
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34: 4 Simple Practices to Overcome Porn Addiction Cravings
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
11/28/23 • 46 min
When porn cravings hit, what do you do? Do you fight the porn addiction? Resist it? Try to just not think about it and distract yourself?
I’m here to tell you that none of these options work. At least not long-term. Willpower is finite. It runs out. To overcome porn addiction requires a completely different approach.
So what can you do instead? Today I’m going to give you 4 Simple Practices you can use when you face pornography addiction cravings.
So, imagine you’re experiencing an addiction craving or a trigger. What do you do? You need to build a habit of being aware of your mindset and what your brain is focused on. It’s easy to let your mind wander and fantasize before you even realize what’s happened. To get sober, you need to go from unconscious to conscious.
When we crave porn, drugs, alcohol - whatever it is - our limbic system, or the rewards-centered part of our brain is leading the show. We want to get our prefrontal cortex - the logical, moral director of our brain back online. In other words, we want to go from the “natural man” or “ego” running the show, to the soul or the light of Christ running the show.
To do this requires us to build new habits. It doesn’t come without effort on our part. But it isn’t about trying hard, it’s about trying right. It’s about centering our efforts on things that actually work.
Remember, porn addiction stems from resistance - our resistance to challenging emotions and to the truth within our souls that we want to live according to. We can’t quit porn by using the same mentality of resistance that got us there in the first place.
Instead, we build a mentality of acceptance - an acceptance that we’re addicted to porn? No. An acceptance of challenging emotions, pain, insecurities...and an acceptance of the truth within our souls that comes from God and acceptance of His love and help in all things - EVEN when we believe we don’t deserve it. We accept His grace to help us change. We surrender our weaknesses to Him.
We’re going to lay out 4 Simple Practices to help you get rid of porn addiction; practices that are aligned with this mentality of acceptance and surrender.
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8: How to Quit Porn in 30 Days | 15 Tips for Porn Addiction Recovery
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
01/31/23 • 63 min
I'm going to tell you how to quit porn in 30 days using 15 tips for porn addiction recovery. You probably know I’m not a fan of big, bold claims, but...
After 8 years of sobriety, I’ve learned a few things about how to quit porn. Secrets for porn addiction recovery that have helped me out...and now I want to share them with you.
I know your “hype detector” is probably sounding the alarm right now. I’m not here to tell you that I have all of the answers, nor do I think that quitting porn in 30 days is a realistic endeavor.
BUT... I do believe that you (just like I did) can get a really excellent start for porn recovery in as little as 30 days.
A start that will help you get clean for months...and then years.
It’s hard to avoid porn these days. It is so easy to access, and there are so many things we face that don’t make it easy to avoid the temptation. I’ll give you 15 tips that are different from most of the buzz going around. Secrets that are genuinely helpful, some of which you may never have considered.
So, here are my 15 tips to help you stop watching porn...and start your recovery within 30 days...
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35: Winter Blues: Staying Sober During the Holidays
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
12/12/23 • 37 min
Do you feel like the holidays should be a happy time, but for you it’s a really triggering time for your addiction?
Do you feel like the winter drives you to engage with your pornography addiction or another addiction more, and that cravings are worse during the winter?
We’re going to talk about these things today, and some strategies you can use to stay clean and sober during the holidays, to overcome porn addiction long-term.
First, why can the holidays and winter time be so hard for some of us when it comes to addiction?
Remember that addiction is just a symptom of other underlying factors. If we want to quit porn, we need to understand these categories and seek to transform our mindset and lifestyle in order to lose our desire for addiction.
If we get our lives into balance (get healthy) in these 4 areas, then we will be less prone to the desire for addiction. Addiction comes as a result of one or all of these being out of balance.
So, during the holidays, let’s talk about some things you can do mentally, spiritually, physically, and in your relationships to live with a sober mindset and lifestyle.
If you want to get rid of porn addiction for good, check out my porn recovery coaching program. Link below.
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21: Religious Shame and Porn Addiction
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
08/17/23 • 25 min
Religious shame and porn addiction go hand-in-hand.
Why?
Because they are two sides of the same coin.
We often see addiction as an isolated incident: an issue all its own. We think that if we can just abstain from porn then we’ll eventually lose our desire for it.
We also think, “If I just have enough sex with my wife, then I won’t want porn.”
After nearly a decade of my own recovery, and working with other addicts, I can tell you that both of these lines of reasoning are false.
Why?
Because the underlying reasons for shame (the belief “I’m not good enough”, “I don’t match up”) are the underlying reasons for addiction. Shame leads to addiction.
Pornography addiction is not simply caused by “manly urges”, lust, impulsivity, or being a “pervert”. These have very little to do with the addiction.
Today, we’re going to discuss the root causes of both porn addiction and religious shame, and how we can work through them.
You'll learn how religious shame and porn addiction develop,
Many of us are under the impression that engaging in our addiction causes us to feel religious shame; to feel that God is displeased with us, and that we are unworthy in His eyes. This is not the case. We'll talk about this in today's episode.
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30: Overcome Social Anxiety: 5 Simple Mental Techniques
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
10/25/23 • 53 min
I was talking with a friend of mine the other day - a fellow recovering addict - and I was sharing about my past with addiction and how social anxiety was a big struggle in my life and actually fueled my addiction - in other words, I went to addiction in order to cope with the immense amount of nervousness and fear I felt in relationships and social situations.
I told this friend that I had some mental techniques and spiritual methods that I could teach her to help her overcome social anxiety and that I could share those with her.
But I also know, from personal experience and from listening to others, that neither I nor she are isolated in the struggles we’ve had with both social anxiety and addiction.
Addicts often struggle with social anxiety. Especially porn addicts. Do all of us addicts? No, of course not, but there is a connection between social anxiety and addiction to whatever degree.
So, for my friend, and all of those other people out there struggling with social anxiety, I wanted to make this episode for you.
What I’m going to share is based on principles of psychology as well as principles of faith in God.
Most of what I’ll teach you are thought patterns and mental habits you can adopt to change the way that you think about yourself, other people, and relationships so that you can manage and decrease social anxiety.
These are mental tools that you can use any time, anywhere, and they take PRACTICE. The more you repeat them, the more you will train your brain to think differently and form new habits.
So, let’s dive in.
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No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery currently has 97 episodes available.
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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Addiction Recovery, Mental Health, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education and Mental Illness.
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The episode title '56: Keys for Confidence, Self-Worth, and Recovery | Mark Collins' is the most popular.
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The average episode length on No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery is 42 minutes.
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Episodes of No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery are typically released every 7 days.
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