75: Quit Porn Using IFS | A Powerful New Approach to Psychology & Addiction Recovery
11/13/24 • 30 min
What if your brain pushes you towards porn addiction because it’s trying to help you, not hurt you? What if you could quit porn using IFS, an approach that helps you effectively understand and speak with the part of your brain pushing you towards porn, and you could redirect it? What if you could work alongside that part to overcome porn addiction, rather than feeling exhausted trying to fight it all of the time?
Since the dawn of western psychology, we have believed in a “mono-mind”. Meaning you have one brain and one personality. Seems pretty obvious, right? This is an assumption we’ve made based on hundreds if not thousands of years of tradition.
But what if this is incorrect? What if there is a more effective way of viewing the mind that results in accelerated mental healing and repair?
Internal Family Systems, “Sub-personalities”, and Porn Addiction Recovery
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a psychological modality that was founded by Dr. Richard Schwartz in the 1980’s. Over the 2010’s and 2020’s it has accelerated rapidly into the mainstream due to its extremely effective approach for helping clients and individuals with addiction and mental illness.
IFS denies the assumption of “mono-mind” (that we have one personality and one identity), and instead posits that our mind is made up of multiple "parts" or sub-personalities, all contributing to our psyche and individuality.
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What if your brain pushes you towards porn addiction because it’s trying to help you, not hurt you? What if you could quit porn using IFS, an approach that helps you effectively understand and speak with the part of your brain pushing you towards porn, and you could redirect it? What if you could work alongside that part to overcome porn addiction, rather than feeling exhausted trying to fight it all of the time?
Since the dawn of western psychology, we have believed in a “mono-mind”. Meaning you have one brain and one personality. Seems pretty obvious, right? This is an assumption we’ve made based on hundreds if not thousands of years of tradition.
But what if this is incorrect? What if there is a more effective way of viewing the mind that results in accelerated mental healing and repair?
Internal Family Systems, “Sub-personalities”, and Porn Addiction Recovery
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a psychological modality that was founded by Dr. Richard Schwartz in the 1980’s. Over the 2010’s and 2020’s it has accelerated rapidly into the mainstream due to its extremely effective approach for helping clients and individuals with addiction and mental illness.
IFS denies the assumption of “mono-mind” (that we have one personality and one identity), and instead posits that our mind is made up of multiple "parts" or sub-personalities, all contributing to our psyche and individuality.
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74: Being Self-Critical Fuels Porn Addiction | How to Stop Perfectionism So You Can Stop Watching Porn
Porn addiction and perfectionism go hand-in-hand. If you want to stop watching porn, you need to understand the underlying relationship between porn addiction and these self-critical tendencies.
One of the great misconceptions out in the world is that porn addicts are selfish, lazy, or simply don’t try hard enough. But in working with these men one-on-one, I don't see this at all.
What if I told you that men who struggle with porn addiction are some of the most self-critical and perfectionistic people there are? What if I told you that porn addicts aren’t people who are lazy, selfish, or don’t care, but are actually sensitive, caring, and deeply want to do the right thing?
When we talk about porn addiction, we often focus on willpower and restraint, imagining that the answer is simply "trying harder." But for many of us, perfectionism is an underlying issue that drives the cycle of addiction.
When we set impossible standards for ourselves, we inevitably fall short, and it’s in those gaps between our expectations and reality where shame, judgment, and addiction thrive.
Through self-acceptance and self-compassion, addicts can heal and overcome porn addiction. They can quit porn by digging deep into the underlying insecurities and mental mechanisms that keep them stuck.
Today, I'll teach you how to spot these insecurities and mechanisms so that you can break porn addiction for good.
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76: Anger, Porn Addiction & One Simple Mental Technique to Overcome Both
Anger and porn addiction—what do they have in common? At first, it might seem like the answer is nothing.
But think about it: how many times have you been angry, and shortly afterward found yourself relapsing on porn?
Or maybe you felt stressed or frustrated after a hard day at work, only to come home and slip up.
Doesn’t the shame you feel after watching porn feel similar to the shame after losing your temper in a big fight?
In this episode, I’m going to show you the connection between anger and porn addiction, uncover their root causes, and share one simple mental technique to overcome both.
Anger and Porn Addiction Are Symptoms, Not the Cause
We often view anger as the problem. We tell ourselves:
- If I could just get my anger under control...
- I just need to breathe, think positively, or be more disciplined...
- Why can’t I stop being so selfish?
The same pattern shows up with pornography addiction:
- If I could just stop watching porn, my life would be so much better...
- I need to distract myself, stay busy, or focus on exercise...
But here’s the truth: anger and porn addiction aren’t the real problem. They’re symptoms of something deeper.
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