68: From Porn to Peace | Recovery Mindset Practices to Stop Watching Porn
09/19/24 • 42 min
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What if you had mental tools you could use in an instant to remove your desire for porn?
What if you could stop watching porn because you had a recovery mindset that replaced your need for it?
What I often hear from my clients when they begin my intensive porn addiction recovery program is that cravings for porn and sex feel instant and automatic. They see a woman, and immediately the lust and fantasizing starts.
I remember exactly what that was like during the years I was addicted to porn.
Many men feel out of control and unable to change the way they think about sexuality, romantic relationships, and women. They feel they have no choice whether they get dragged along by their sexual urges, and so much of what they want to accomplish or become is drowned out by these on-going sexual cravings.
They have a powerful drive to do great things with their lives, but so much of that just doesn’t feel possible with this monkey on their back.
It's difficult to quit porn. Sexual drive is a powerful force, and it can feel exhausting trying to fight it all the time; trying to be a responsible man, husband, and father. Sometimes we might wish we could just turn our sexual attraction off! Flip a switch and make the desires go away.
That’s the same way I felt for many years.
Today, I’ll teach you to stop watching porn by building a recovery mindset that replaces your desire for porn with a new, fulfilling perspective that enables you to love the people around you and yourself. Not in some cheap, boyish way, but in a mature, masculine way.
This perspective takes work. It’s not some freaking magic trick to “quit porn in 30 days” (those are scams). Instead, it’s a practical and psychological approach you can use throughout your day.
Read on to learn how you can grow this recovery mindset and replace your desire for porn with a fresh, new perspective that serves you and your loved ones.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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What if you had mental tools you could use in an instant to remove your desire for porn?
What if you could stop watching porn because you had a recovery mindset that replaced your need for it?
What I often hear from my clients when they begin my intensive porn addiction recovery program is that cravings for porn and sex feel instant and automatic. They see a woman, and immediately the lust and fantasizing starts.
I remember exactly what that was like during the years I was addicted to porn.
Many men feel out of control and unable to change the way they think about sexuality, romantic relationships, and women. They feel they have no choice whether they get dragged along by their sexual urges, and so much of what they want to accomplish or become is drowned out by these on-going sexual cravings.
They have a powerful drive to do great things with their lives, but so much of that just doesn’t feel possible with this monkey on their back.
It's difficult to quit porn. Sexual drive is a powerful force, and it can feel exhausting trying to fight it all the time; trying to be a responsible man, husband, and father. Sometimes we might wish we could just turn our sexual attraction off! Flip a switch and make the desires go away.
That’s the same way I felt for many years.
Today, I’ll teach you to stop watching porn by building a recovery mindset that replaces your desire for porn with a new, fulfilling perspective that enables you to love the people around you and yourself. Not in some cheap, boyish way, but in a mature, masculine way.
This perspective takes work. It’s not some freaking magic trick to “quit porn in 30 days” (those are scams). Instead, it’s a practical and psychological approach you can use throughout your day.
Read on to learn how you can grow this recovery mindset and replace your desire for porn with a fresh, new perspective that serves you and your loved ones.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
MORE ARTICLES
How to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse
The 4 Root Causes of Porn Addiction
The Living in Clarity Podcast, with Fish & CoachDo you want to live an awesome life and to also inspire others? Fish is a world...
Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify
The Balance of GrayGod, doubt, and proof walk into a podcast... it goes better than you’d expect!
Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify
Previous Episode
67: My Wife Won't Have Sex With Me - What Do I Do? | Side Effects of Porn Addiction in Marriage and Finding Sexual Healing
“My wife won’t have sex with me”, “Porn addiction has ruined our marriage and our sex life”, “My wife has gained 80 lbs since we got married, and I’m no longer sexually attracted to her”, “My wife dresses like a nun and wants nothing to do with sex”...
If any of these sound like you, and you’re in a marriage where sex is as frequent as a solar eclipse (or if that’s too generous), today’s episode is for you. Today, we’re going to talk about:
- Reasons your wife isn’t having sex with you (and they’re not what you think).
- Healing the side effects of porn addiction in marriage.
- Gaining compassion for the different challenges you and your spouse are facing.
- Creating sexual and emotional healing in your marriage.
If you want to overcome porn addiction, or if you have a spouse who is addicted to porn, know that you can both develop an amazing relationship together. You are not doomed to this, you are not crazy or horrible, and you can quit porn and live the life of your dreams. It simply requires building a recovery mindset and lifestyle so you can break free of porn.
God bless and much love.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from Porn
Stop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust Habits
Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction
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Next Episode
69: Journey Out of Darkness | A Porn Addiction Story of Healing Through Empathy & Compassion
In today’s article, I’m going to share a story with you. One that I believe every porn addict can relate to.
This story is going to teach you how to heal porn addiction using loving and compassionate methods that, in my opinion, people don’t talk about enough.
It’s also going to teach you the truth about the underlying psychology and root causes of porn addiction.
This story will be told from the perspective of a father who is watching their son struggle with a pornography addiction. And regardless of whether you’re a parent to an addict, a spouse of an addict, or the addict themselves, I believe this story will help you. Above all, I hope it helps you feel seen, understood, and loved.
I based this story on a therapeutic experience I had in an IFS therapy session, where I came face to face with an ‘addict part’ of my mind and had a sacred interaction as best I can describe it.
That addict part of me became addicted to porn and masturbation when I was 12-years-old and had remained stuck in the shame and belief that it was unlovable, alone, and perceived as evil.
Many porn addicts have a part of their mind that is still there in the past - stuck in that bathroom or at that computer screen - believing horrible things about themselves.
If we can truly see ourselves and get in touch with the pain behind the porn addiction - showing ourselves compassion and love - I believe we can start to unravel that pain and overcome porn addiction using the proper recovery mindset and lifestyle tools.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
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The 4 Root Causes of Porn Addiction
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