My Modern Myth

Fresh back from vacation, we reflect on a variety of topics inspired by lessons learned on the trip. When to engage in conflict to stand up for your ideals and when it's not worth it, pushing yourself or children into discomfort when trying something new, sobriety, and the nature of discipline forced upon you versus chosen for yourself are just a few of the topics we covered in this freeform talk. Check show notes for more more topics.
0:00 - 1:47 Intro
1:47 - 8:10 Revisiting locations/activities and seeing your growth
8:10- 12:00 Sobriety on vacation
12:00 - 21:30 Good and bad crutches in dealing with addiction
21:30 - 24:38 Addiction to health versus alcohol
24:38 - 29:30 Is it growth and sacrifice or growth and destruction
29:30 - 37:50 Leaning into fear
37:50 - 1:01:00 How much should we push our children
1:01:00 - Reflection and Outro

In today's Episode, I reflect on the completion of my first year of Jiu-Jitsu. I ended this first year by turning 40, placing 2nd in a tournament, with two stripes on my white belt, and a whole lot of life lessons and new friends. So join me on a deep dive into this last year of lessons!

It's no secret that stress and strong emotion can bring up so terrible response trees in us. So, in this episode, I wanted to talk about a concept I developed called "Emotional Chasers." Just like a shot of whiskey, strong emotions can burn and keep us from seeing things clearly. So we take a chaser to help it go down smooth. Thinks like exercise and conversation are two such chasers. Utilizing them gives us the chance to take ownership of what's ours to own and understand how to re-engage with the inciting incident. So join Adam and I for a deep dive into this topic!
How do our emotions shape our lives? How do they impact our actions, our relationships, and ultimately, our journey of self-discovery and growth? As we embark on an exploration of these questions, we uncover the intriguing concept of emotional chasers and their role in our inner work and self-actualization. Your hosts, Adam and Eric, invite you to join us on this fascinating journey.
We'll share insights and personal experiences on how our emotions can become stuck and the parallels between using chasers for alcohol and using them for our emotions. Let's delve into the impact of destructive terminology and how we can transcend and heal our emotions. As we approach the milestone age of 40, we reflect on how our experiences in our 20s and 30s shape our actions and decisions. We’ll also touch upon the intriguing relationship between emotional constriction and seemingly unrelated actions like singing and crying.
While each of our emotional journeys is unique, the power of community, exercise, and meditation can be transformative tools for all of us. We'll share how these tools can help us gain perspective, find peace during challenging times, and even recover from addiction. Let's explore the delicate balance between offense and sensitivity in our society and how changing cultural norms have influenced this balance. We'll also examine the impact of emotional chasers on our interactions with others, and discuss the importance of understanding and controlling our emotions for healthier relationships. So, buckle up for an episode packed with thought-provoking discussions, meaningful insights, and real-life experiences, all aimed at helping us navigate our emotional journeys with more awareness and understanding.

Have you ever thought about the connection between your mind and body, and how they together shape your life story? Through my journey of practicing Jiu Jitsu for a year, I have embarked on a path of continuous self-improvement and growth. The beauty of Jiu Jitsu is that it's not about being good instantly; it's about pushing through challenges, learning from mistakes, and truly understanding your body's movements. It's about meeting your own expectations of self-improvement, rather than succumbing to external pressures of perceived perfection.
In this reflective episode, I draw parallels between Jiu Jitsu and emotional health, emphasizing the need for pressure testing, reflecting, and accepting criticism. I delve deeper into the importance of integrating new information and maintaining a balance between ambition and complacency. The journey might be marked with repeated failures, but remember, every stumble is a step towards learning and growth. So, let's embrace this journey together, connect our minds and bodies, and write the best life story we possibly can.

Building a solid foundation of competency leads to mastery. Even if it doesn't lead to mastery, the competency we gain will add to our confidence and further understanding of who we are at our fundamental core. Join us on the conversation as we discuss how unconscious narratives drive our reaction to our pursuit or avoidance of mastery. We also dive into the odd world of social media metrics that have unfortunately played a roll in many people drive to succeed, and subsequent downfall.