Nic Winslade of Virgin Mum / reflux, rectal prolapse, miscarriage, postnatal depletion, one-to-two transition, slow bonding, formula & breastfeeding
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04/29/20 • 92 min
In this episode, I speak with Nic Winslade, who is known on Instagram as Virgin Mum. Nic is a mother-of-two to son Marlo and daughter Blair, and today we chat through both of her Fourth Trimester experiences, including her birth stories, postpartum, all the lessons she learned along the way, and the wisdom that comes with being a second-time mum.
We cover her reflux experience with son Marlo, her thoughts about society’s sleep expectations for newborns, the transition from one-to-two, her contrasting breastfeeding journeys, and her trying physical recovery with a rectal prolapse which she recounts with the honesty and hilarity she’s loved for.
Nic also talks of the miscarriage she had between her two children and how leaving the emotions of this experience undealt with affected her bonding with daughter Blair later on. It's also what she attributes to her postnatal depletion.
Like Nic says throughout, when it comes to being a mum, especially with a baby, we just want to know that what we’re going through is normal and temporary, so I hope you find comfort in our conversation today if that’s what you’re seeking. Amongst the honesty, there's a lot of laughs about the realities of motherhood which many of us will be familiar with!
Just a warning before we begin: today’s episode contains strong language and mentions postnatal depression and pregnancy loss so if any of these things are triggering for you, please take care while you’re listening. If you’re worried about your own mental health or that of someone you love, visit mentalhealth.org.nz or call 0800 LIFELIFE to seek support.
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In this episode, I speak with Nic Winslade, who is known on Instagram as Virgin Mum. Nic is a mother-of-two to son Marlo and daughter Blair, and today we chat through both of her Fourth Trimester experiences, including her birth stories, postpartum, all the lessons she learned along the way, and the wisdom that comes with being a second-time mum.
We cover her reflux experience with son Marlo, her thoughts about society’s sleep expectations for newborns, the transition from one-to-two, her contrasting breastfeeding journeys, and her trying physical recovery with a rectal prolapse which she recounts with the honesty and hilarity she’s loved for.
Nic also talks of the miscarriage she had between her two children and how leaving the emotions of this experience undealt with affected her bonding with daughter Blair later on. It's also what she attributes to her postnatal depletion.
Like Nic says throughout, when it comes to being a mum, especially with a baby, we just want to know that what we’re going through is normal and temporary, so I hope you find comfort in our conversation today if that’s what you’re seeking. Amongst the honesty, there's a lot of laughs about the realities of motherhood which many of us will be familiar with!
Just a warning before we begin: today’s episode contains strong language and mentions postnatal depression and pregnancy loss so if any of these things are triggering for you, please take care while you’re listening. If you’re worried about your own mental health or that of someone you love, visit mentalhealth.org.nz or call 0800 LIFELIFE to seek support.
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In today's episode, I speak with sex therapist and relationship counsellor Jo Robertson - (MSc Sex Therapy, PGDip Counselling) about all things sex and relationships during the Fourth Trimester and beyond. Jo has worked in her profession for many years and specialises in postpartum. She is a mum to three beautiful boys so she knows first hand of the challenges couples can face after having a baby. Jo is also the co-director of Practical Parenting Antenatal classes with midwife friend, Grace Nixon.
Today, we chat about having sex for the first time after birth, intimacy without intercourse, managing expectations of ourselves and our relationship, causes of low libido and how to improve it, breastfeeding and the sexualisation of breasts, the analogy of seasons, advice for partners, and practical tips for prioritising your other half and therefore, your relationship.
Needless to say, no matter where you’re at in your parenting journey, we can all benefit from Jo's advice and feel empowered by the knowledge she kindly shares.
There were so many questions submitted by you all and I'm sorry if we didn't get to yours. If you'd like to work with Jo, please get in touch with me and I'll connect you directly.
You can sign up to her antenatal classes at www.practicalparentingantenatal.com. Jo and Grace are also hosting a one day antenatal webinar in association with OHbaby! on May 2, 2020. Spots are limited, sign up here.
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Kelsey Tatton-Brown / HELLP syndrome, code red c-section, slow bonding, postpartum emotions, false COVID-19 diagnosis
In this episode, I speak with Kelsey Tatton-Brown, a beautiful listener who has recently moved through her first Fourth Trimester experience and offered to share her unique story with us all.
Kelsey speaks of her HELLP Syndrome diagnosis following her code red emergency c-section where her son Boston was delivered while she was under a general anaesthetic. We talk about their first moments, her breastfeeding and pumping experience, her approach to sleep, how having a newborn and such a traumatic birth has affected her relationship, and a recent trip to the hospital for a UTI where Boston was falsely diagnosed with COVID-19. Much of our conversation, however, is dedicated to discussing Kelsey’s slow bonding experience with her son and her heightened emotions during her entry to motherhood. In this, she talks through the various experiences she attributes these feelings to, such as her birth and a previous miscarriage. I don’t know Kelsey personally, but I love and appreciate the rawness of our conversation today and how kind she seems to be to both herself and her family who she loves so dearly. So, thank you, Kelsey, for joining me.
Just a warning before we begin: today’s episode mentions pregnancy loss and depression so if any of these things are triggering for you, please take care while you’re listening. If you’re worried about your own mental health or that of someone you love, visit mentalhealth.org.nz or call 0800 LIFELINE to seek support.
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