#15 - How Lack of Self-Worth Silently Shapes Your Life (And How to Take Your Power Back)

04/08/25 • 11 min

Midlife Butterfly: Healing, Empowerment & Self-Discovery

In this empowering solo episode of Midlife Butterfly, Kena dives into the sneaky ways a lack of self-worth might be running your life without you even noticing. From people-pleasing to shrinking yourself in rooms, this is a loving wake-up call to midlife women who are ready to reclaim their joy, rewrite old programs, and live unapologetically aligned. Kena shares 3 practical mindset shifts you can start using right now to begin healing the unworthiness wound and coming back home to your truth.

Whether you're navigating divorce, life transitions, or simply awakening to your deeper self, this episode is for you.

🦋 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

What self-worth really is (spoiler alert: it's not self-esteem)
Subtle signs you may be operating from low self-worth
How your childhood, culture, and conditioning shaped your “good girl” programming
Why your people-pleasing, perfectionism, and over-apologizing are survival responses—not your truth
Three simple but powerful shifts to start reclaiming your self-worth today:
A reminder that you are already worthy, simply because you exist
An invitation to go deeper with Kena’s self-paced mini-coaching session: How to Stop Feeling Not Good Enough and Reclaim Your Worth.

🔮 Reflection Questions:

Where in your life are you still seeking external validation to feel worthy?
What’s one small boundary you can set today that honors your truth?
If you fully believed you were worthy—right now—what would you say yes or no to?

I created a mini-coaching session called "How to Stop Feeling Not Good Enough and Reclaim your Worth." It's a bite-sized coaching experience you can complete in about 45 minutes at your own pace to help break free from this cycle and embody your worthiness. Check it out here!

You can find all the podcast details right here: https://www.wellbeingproject.ca/podcast

If you're struggling with life transitions, download this FREE Guide with 5 Practices to Reclaim Your Power!
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Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Whether you're navigating divorce, life transitions, or simply awakening to your deeper self, this episode is for you.

🦋 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

What self-worth really is (spoiler alert: it's not self-esteem)
Subtle signs you may be operating from low self-worth
How your childhood, culture, and conditioning shaped your “good girl” programming
Why your people-pleasing, perfectionism, and over-apologizing are survival responses—not your truth
Three simple but powerful shifts to start reclaiming your self-worth today:
A reminder that you are already worthy, simply because you exist
An invitation to go deeper with Kena’s self-paced mini-coaching session: How to Stop Feeling Not Good Enough and Reclaim Your Worth.

🔮 Reflection Questions:

Where in your life are you still seeking external validation to feel worthy?
What’s one small boundary you can set today that honors your truth?
If you fully believed you were worthy—right now—what would you say yes or no to?

You can find all the podcast details right here: https://www.wellbeingproject.ca/podcast

Request a Free Empowered Call with Kena if you're interested in working with her: http://www.wellbeingproject.ca/empowersession

Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Previous Episode

#14 - Sisterhood in Midlife: The Power of Female Connection

Female friendship isn't just a luxury—it's essential for our growth, healing, and transformation at midlife. In this extraordinary gathering, Kena welcomes five remarkable women from her podcasting community for a powerful conversation about sisterhood and connection.
Through laughter, vulnerability, and profound insights, these women share their personal struggles with isolation, the competitive mindset many of us were conditioned to adopt, and the transformative power of finding your true tribe.
Key Points:

Female friendships often become harder to maintain in midlife due to family responsibilities, work demands, and shifting priorities
Many women experience a competitive mindset with other women that stems from patriarchal conditioning around scarcity
Research shows children benefit tremendously when they observe their mothers maintaining strong female friendships
Breaking the ice with potential new friends requires courage but can be as simple as offering a compliment or suggesting coffee
Female friendship "breakups" can be as painful as romantic ones but often signal necessary growth and evolution
The most powerful relationships come from showing up authentically rather than trying to be perfect
Midlife brings clarity about which relationships deserve a "seat at your table" and the confidence to release those that don't align
Younger generations of women model unapologetic self-celebration that many midlife women weren't encouraged to embrace

Reflection Questions:

Who are the women in your life that truly see and celebrate you? How can you nurture those connections?
What kind of sisterhood do you crave in this season of your life? What would it feel like to be fully supported?
What’s one step you can take today to call in your soul-aligned tribe—whether it’s joining a new community, reaching out to someone, or showing up more authentically?

Reach out and make the first move! Also join the Midlife Butterfly Community in Facebook.

Where can you find our guests?

Casey Taton

Instagram: @cataton
Facebook: @casey.taton
Podcast: Inner Spark

Dana Hunter Fradella

Instagram: @girls.who.recover
Podcast: Girls Who Recover

Jama Patel

Website: www.jamapantel.com
Instagram: @ja

You can find all the podcast details right here: https://www.wellbeingproject.ca/podcast

Request a Free Empowered Call with Kena if you're interested in working with her: http://www.wellbeingproject.ca/empowersession

Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Next Episode

#16 - Discovering Who You Truly Are: Stop Hiding and Shine with Andrea Karlovich

Host Note: This talk was a real gift for me because I’ve struggled with this for decades. I learned and understood so much about myself in this talk, and I hope and trust that will help you stop hiding and embrace your true self!
In this powerful episode of The Midlife Butterfly Podcast, I sit down with the luminous Andrea Karlovich—a somatic spiritual counselor and soul alchemist—to explore what it truly means to stop hiding and start living as your fully aligned, unapologetic self.

We unpack the emotional layers that keep midlife women stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt—and how to lovingly return to your essence. Andrea shares her personal story of healing deep childhood wounds and offers metaphors, somatic practices, and reflections to help you rediscover your light and reclaim your joy.

Whether you’ve been living on autopilot or feel disconnected from who you are, this episode is your invitation to come back home to your truth, your body, and your soul.

This episode is for you if you’re ready to:

Reclaim your voice and stop outsourcing your worth
Heal childhood patterns that keep you stuck
Understand how your nervous system affects your authenticity
Embrace your shadow and your light
Live with courage, truth, and alignment in midlife

We talk about:

The 5 P’s of Hiding: Perfection, Performing, Pleasing, Pretending & Proving
The power of nervous system awareness and somatic healing
How we abandon our true selves to feel “safe” or “worthy”
Why midlife is your next level and how to embrace the transformation
A beautiful mirror exercise to reconnect with your soul
Shadow work, inner safety, and finding your soul gifts

Connect with Andrea:

Website: www.andreakarlovich.com
Instagram: @andreakarlovich

Reflection Questions:

Where in your life are you hiding parts of your truth?
How can you start creating more safety within yourself today?
What small, soulful shift can you make to reconnect with the real you?

Need Guidance?

Want to learn more? Check this page: www.wellbeingproject.ca/mini-coaching

You can find all the podcast details right here: https://www.wellbeingproject.ca/podcast

Request a Free Empowered Call with Kena if you're interested in working with her: http://www.wellbeingproject.ca/empowersession

Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Midlife Butterfly: Healing, Empowerment & Self-Discovery - #15 - How Lack of Self-Worth Silently Shapes Your Life (And How to Take Your Power Back)

Transcript

Kena Siu00:00:01.161

Hello , beautiful soul , welcome back to Midlife Butterfly Podcast , where you break free from all stories and step into your fullest , most radiant self .

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Today we're talking about something that might be running the show in your life without you even realizing it

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your self-worth .

Kena S