Mastering the Drop! A Real View of Recovery - Mastering the Drop with Special Guest Allison Hammond

Mastering the Drop with Special Guest Allison Hammond

10/19/22 • 42 min

Mastering the Drop! A Real View of Recovery

This week, join Tricia as she listens to Special Guest Allison Hammond share her journey through alcohol addiction and into recovery! Buckle up for this one! You aren't going to want to miss out on this transformative story!

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Hello. Hello everybody. Welcome back to Mastering the Drop, A Real View of Recovery. This is going to be, Well, I just, I just like to say this. These are some of my favorite interviews because they are, Not necessarily, um, on something specific that we need to learn, but we get so much enrichment from them, and that's because I have some amazing friends and connections and, and people inside of this, this whole recovery world that is so vast that, that are kind enough and generous enough to, to enter into this space.

And, and share their journeys, their stories, whatever that might look like, however long or short or whatever it is, um, come in and share it with us. And, and to me it's such a blessing because it, it normalizes it for so many people. So today, We have again, Allison Hammond. She is back. We've heard from her before, but today, she's gonna share with us more about her personal side of this, but just to reintroduce you to her; Dr.

Allison Hammond has a dancer's heart. And loves to help people actually choreograph their life inside their community through graphic facilitation of people centered planning. And it is such an amazing, beautiful thing. And she will tell us, um, later on, you know, how her recovery journey actually carried her or brought her into the beautiful work that she does. But for now, we're just gonna say hello to Allison. Hi. Welcome back. Thank you so much for coming and being open to share your recovery journey because so many people keep it tight to the vest. And, you know, I, I think, I don't know, we all know there's, there's those people that are, you know, are real loud.

And out, out loud, I should say, about their journeys. And then there are some, so many that, that just don't, don't really know how to share their voice to help another. So anyway, I thank you so much for being here.

Thank you so much Tricia.

So how long have you been on this thing called a A recovery journey?

Well, the recovery journey really started about three and a half years ago. Um, when I, um, well, do you want me to start from the beginning? My whole journey?

Yes, go for it. Let's, let's hear about that.

Yeah. Because the, actually my recovery's part, the shortest part of my journey, but the best part, um, and I have found that with my other, some of my friends that I have shared my story with, it's been very important because they too, were struggling and, um, didn't, didn't want to admit it or were afraid.

And when they hear my story as you. It normalized it or it take, took, takes away some of the stigma, I think because the way I presented myself in the world when I was drinking was very few people knew how much I drank. So anyway, um, I do like to start my story by saying that alcohol, cuz that's, that's my addiction, that's my disease.

Um, alcohol's a family member, um, when I was a little girlin the 60's, my grandfather used to give my sister and I cocktails starting about when I was probably around eight years old because they were gonna teach me how to drink. And so looking back on it, now that I've explored more in my journey with alcohol, I realize that.

I liked it and it wasn't because I got attention, it wasn't because I felt like I was a big girl. I just liked the feeling. And as I look back over my journey, there were times when I had, um, alcohol, like in high school and back then the drinking age was 18. So somebody's older sibling always. Was buying US wine or something.

And I really liked it. And if I look back over it, I, I drank probably more than my friends, but I didn't know that. I thought everybody else.....

In college I would take those little quizzes in magazines too, cuz I was thinking maybe I've got a problem.

But the way I would answer the questions, I mean, I knew how to answer the questions. I wasn't an alcoholic. So , um, moving forward then I, um, I got married and my husband and I were trying to have children. And so during those years I really did not drink that much because I was aware that, um, I wanted to be pregnant.

I, I was very aware of how the effects of alcohol on during a pregnancy, et cetera, so I didn't, and. But my husband and I, we had, we did, we've got our beautiful son. It took us five years to have him, and then we were trying to have another baby and that didn't work. And when my son was about four, looking back, I really fell off a cliff.

My husband traveled a lot and so I was home. Um, I did have a job, but I was home ...

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Thank you so much Tricia.

So how long have you been on this thing called a A recovery journey?

Well, the recovery journey really started about three and a half years ago. Um, when I, um, well, do you want me to start from the beginning? My whole journey?

Yes, go for it. Let's, let's hear about that.

And I really liked it. And if I look back over it, I, I drank probably more than my friends, but I didn't know that. I thought everybody else.....

In college I would take those little quizzes in magazines too, cuz I was thinking maybe I've got a problem.

My husband traveled a lot and so I was home. Um, I did have a job, but I was home ...

Previous Episode

Mastering the Drop with Jenny Dilts - Grief and Finding Gratitude

In this episode, Tricia is joined by guest, Grieving Coach, Jenny Dilts. Jenny shares some insight and wisdom on the importance of the grieving process and finding gratitude within it.

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Hello. Hello everybody. Welcome back to Mastering the Drop, A real view of recovery where we don't just talk about the standard soci societal view of what addiction and recovery are. We talk about all of life recovery. This week is absolutely no exception. In fact, this this week, um, is probably one of the most prevalent spaces where we find that people need to have a life recovery journey.

In fact, I know many of you who are listening, you're listening for that very reason because we had the conversation about, Wow, you need to hear what my guest has to say in this episode. And, and so you know that that situation is grief and we grieve so many things. We grieve the loss of loved ones. We grieve the loss of relationships.

We grieve having to change our relationship with food and alcohol. , we grieve, you know, just the changing, ever changing thing called life and how things morph. What we don't know and what we most of us don't do is when we grieve, find that space of gratitude to add in. In fact, most people look at me and they're like, What the heck?

Gratitude. How am I supposed to find gratitude in this space? Don't you know I'm hurting here? Like I'm struggling. Like I, there's nothing to be grateful for. So, Instead of listening to me who's not an expert on grief , um, but, but an expert on finding gratitude. I, you know, I wanted to bring Jenny in here, um, to, to share with us on a deeper level.

She's been here before, but I wanted her to come and share with us exactly what we need to know about how, how grief and gratitude can coexist, Right? So with, with no further ado, everybody, this is Jenny.

Um, and, and she, I'm gonna, Jenny, I'm gonna let you introduce yourself because it's just easier that way I don't have to mutilate anything. Um, but, uh, Jenny, introduce yourself. Thank you again so much for coming back to share more of your wisdom with us. I loved hearing your story the last time, but wow.

We're so ready for your wisdom.

Thank you so much for having me on again. It's such a pleasure. Um, I'm Jenny Dilts and I'm the founder of Grieving Coach. I'm also the host of the podcast, "Share Your Story, Exploring Humanity, One Heart at a Time". And I stand as a lighthouse for grief. Um, I help people convert grief into growth in whatever way that looks like for them.

One of my biggest passions is helping people find their own way to grieve in their own time, in their own way that's unique to them because all of us are unique. . And so I do this through educating, supporting, and inspiring people in the field of grief.

That is so amazing. That is so amazing. And I, I think my favorite part of what you just said is that we are all unique.

And, and so, you know, I've seen so many people trying to go in order of the book, right? Like mm-hmm. the different stages, and they try to force themselves to go into order, right? Like, I should be at this stage and I'm, I'm at this stage, and then I thought I was at this stage and now I'm at this stage. And they, they, they try so hard to do their grieving process perfect.

Um, and, and that perfection that they're striving for in their grieving process. Is based on somebody else's you know, version. And the part that they're not hearing is that you are unique and how you are experiencing this grief is going to be unique to you. Absolutely. And, and that it, it's not gonna go in any specific order and, and it may ebb and flow and it, and it may bounce around and you may be in one stage more than once.

In fact, I think the last time we chatted, we, you know, we were talking about how it doesn't necessarily end mm-hmm. , it just changes. Mm-hmm. . Um, so, so let's talk about that because I know everybody's dying to hear. So we'll just cut to the. Right. Um, and so to speak, right. But gratitude in a, in a state of grieving, like how, how does that, how does that, in its simplest form, how does that translate?

So if you're not at that stage of gratitude, that's. It's okay to be in the very raw, painful, dark place of grief that's actually very healthy. If we, and I'm, I'm going to preface this with, if we jump to that gratitude stage too quickly, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to really grow from our grief to really experience it.

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"That's the key, facing it. Facing it every single day because when we feel the pain, when we experience the pain, That's when the growth and the healing occurs." - Jenny Dilts

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Next Episode

Mastering the Drop with Moyra Gorski - Improving our Strategies & Methods for Self-Soothing!

Join Tricia and Guest Moyra Gorski this Wednesday as they discuss stress, coping and improving our strategies & methods for self-soothing!

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Hello. Hello everybody. Welcome back to Mastering the Drop, A real view of recovery where every week I have a wonderful special guest come in and have a, an amazing conversation with me about. The different in various ways that we recover from whatever it is that's holding us hostage and keeping us from really experiencing the life that we so desire to be living.

Um, and also sometimes they share their stories. But today I have my very special guest, Moyra Gorski, and, and we are gonna be talking. All about, Hmm. Who, the stressors of the season, uh, coping, effective, self soothing, but really, you know, just leaning in and putting ourselves in a position of first place.

And, and really looking at what we are doing for self care, especially for a recovery journey. But first I wanna invite Mora to say hello and introduce herself and tell you a little bit about herself. Hi, Moyra.

Hi. Hi. Thank you for having me. Such a thrill. It's always, always wonderful to have a conversation with you.

Um, so thank you for having me here. Uh, my name is Moyra Gorski. I am a retired nurse, um, entrepreneur and podcaster. Um, I have been, uh, branded together with, um, a natural wellness company for the last 22 years. So I help people live healthy lives, um, and I also mentor emerging entrepreneurs to have their own online wellness

business. And during this journey of entrepreneurship in life, I also, um, well, we're gonna talk about, you know, has gone, have gone through a tremendous amount of stress and had to learn how to cope with that and in the midst of life. Um, in college I recovered from an eating disorder and my daughter has been on a seven year journey of her own, where I stand by her side and cheer her on.

Um, but because of that, Started a podcast to share stories of hope in recovery, um, and my journey through watching a loved one. On their, um, on their recovery path. And so I do, uh, host that podcast to have for two and a half years. And just really my message to everybody is that, you know, we can live abundant, happy lives.

Um, if we have a smile and a little bit of juggling, um, we can just, again, live those, live a good, um, abundant life. So really thrilled to be here, um, to just have a, another conversation with you about this.

I know when, when we get on a roll, we get on a roll and I promise y'all we're gonna, we're gonna try, try to keep it to, you know, a, a nice condensed space.

But man, sometimes we get in there and it's good and it's meaty. But, you know, right now, and we were talking a little bit beforehand about this, you know, the, the funny phenomena of the holiday season, um, and how, you know, Right now we're sitting in that space where it's like, Oh, we're, you know, we're going into the holiday season.

And, and I always kind of chuckle because, you know, that that holiday season looks like, you know, uh, starting with Halloween and then, and then you go to, you know, Thanksgiving and then, and then you have, you know, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day. And then, you know, if, if you know you're listening and, and you do Hanukkah, then of course, you know, you've got an, you know, an extra week in there.

But we're really looking at, you know, very isolated days, right? very isolated days at best a week. Right? And, and we, we truly get so immersed and so engolfed. And so, you know, overtaken by these things, right? So, I mean, I, I just, I'm in awe, like social media, you know, just all the things in, in every area of my life.

Like September, people were already rolling out Halloween and, and here we are, you know, Yesterday was, um, the ninth of October, depending on what day, but you're listening to this, um, you know, I was at Home Depot and, and they were playing Christmas carols and had all the Christmas stuff out and a very small section for Halloween, like it had already been pilford over.

And, and I'm like, Wait, you know, like, what's going on here? You know? And then so I was thinking about it and. As, as social beings, you know, we tend to lean into this holiday season and we get really stressed out. So I was thinking about it and really we get down to it. We have, you know, these spaces, but I was trying to think of a month where I don't hear from somebody that there is something going on, right?

That that is an ' I will, when or if' situation about improving their lifestyle, about reducing their stressors, about, you know, getting into a life recovery journey of some sort. Or just, you know, in, in regular conversation isn't feeling overwhelmed about something. Because if y...