239. Emotional Mastery

12/19/24 • 35 min

**[0:00]** - Welcome and reflection: "Can you believe it's already mid-December? Let’s make this moment count."

**[1:00]** - Today, we’re diving deep into *emotional mastery*. You’ll learn how this transformative process can help you handle stress, build resilience, and create a life you love.

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### The Big Idea: Every Problem Is an Emotions Problem

**[2:30]** - I’ll show you why emotional mastery is the key to solving issues in relationships, parenting, money, career, and more.

**[3:15]** - By the end of this episode, you’ll understand why emotions are at the root of so many challenges and how mastering them can change everything.

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### A Client's Journey: Proof It’s Possible

**[5:00]** - You’ll hear how one of my clients went from feeling stuck and overwhelmed to confident and in control using the emotional mastery process.

**[6:15]** - I’ll share my own story too—how I broke free from constant pressure and perfectionism—and how you can do the same.

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### Understanding Emotions

**[7:45]** - You’ll learn what emotions really are (hint: they’re not thoughts!) and why understanding them is crucial.

**[8:30]** - I’ll explain the stress responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and how they might be running your life without you even realizing it.

**[10:00]** - You’ll start to see why emotional distress keeps happening and what you can do to stop it.

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### Step 1: Proactive Nervous System Regulation

**[12:00]** - Discover the difference between "911" nervous system regulation (what to do in the moment) and preventative practices (how to build resilience over time).

**[13:30]** - I’ll show you easy, practical ways to regulate your nervous system daily—without spending a ton of time or money.

**[15:00]** - You’ll leave with actionable tools to build emotional capacity so you can handle stressors without feeling overwhelmed.

---

### Step 2: Understanding and Guiding Emotions

**[17:30]** - I’ll teach you how to interpret emotions as messengers rather than fighting or ignoring them.

**[19:00]** - You’ll learn how to "ride the wave" of emotion without being overtaken by it—and how this simple skill can dramatically change your life.

**[20:45]** - By the end of this section, you’ll know how to stop reacting to emotions impulsively and start directing them intentionally.

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### Step 3: Creating Productive Thoughts, Beliefs, and Support Systems

**[22:30]** - Learn why your current thoughts may be keeping you stuck and how to change the way you think for good.

**[24:00]** - I’ll guide you through building beliefs about self-worth, lovability, and what’s possible for your future.

**[25:30]** - You’ll walk away with a clear understanding of how to replace self-criticism with self-advocacy and start living the life you truly want.

---

### What Emotional Mastery Will Do for You

**[27:00]** - By mastering this process, you’ll gain self-love, resilience, confidence, and fulfillment.

**[28:15]** - You’ll see how emotional mastery impacts every area of your life, from your relationships to your career, and even your day-to-day joy.

---

### My Coaching Program: Take This Further

**[29:30]** - I’ll share how my *Emotional Mastery Coaching Program* works and how it can help you create the life you’ve been dreaming of.

**[31:00]** - You’ll learn what’s included: one-on-one coaching, daily private podcasts, and access to transformative trainings—all designed to help you succeed.

---

### Actionable Takeaways and Next Steps

**[33:00]** - Before you go, I’ll help you reflect on how emotional mastery can shift your life—and encourage you to take the next step by booking a free consultation with me.

**[34:30]** - Don’t forget: Every change starts with a decision. Let’s explore together how to make emotional mastery your reality.

---

### Closing

**[35:00]** - Thank you for joining me today! Remember, a new episode drops every week. If you found this helpful, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.

** Ready to take the next step? Book your free consultation now at [amandahess.ca/bookacall](https://amandahess.ca/bookacall). Let’s create the life you’ve always wanted!

Interested in working with Amanda? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.ca

Want to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: https://amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourself?preview_theme_id=2160502340

Come find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

**[0:00]** - Welcome and reflection: "Can you believe it's already mid-December? Let’s make this moment count."

**[1:00]** - Today, we’re diving deep into *emotional mastery*. You’ll learn how this transformative process can help you handle stress, build resilience, and create a life you love.

---

### The Big Idea: Every Problem Is an Emotions Problem

**[2:30]** - I’ll show you why emotional mastery is the key to solving issues in relationships, parenting, money, career, and more.

**[3:15]** - By the end of this episode, you’ll understand why emotions are at the root of so many challenges and how mastering them can change everything.

---

### A Client's Journey: Proof It’s Possible

**[5:00]** - You’ll hear how one of my clients went from feeling stuck and overwhelmed to confident and in control using the emotional mastery process.

**[6:15]** - I’ll share my own story too—how I broke free from constant pressure and perfectionism—and how you can do the same.

---

### Understanding Emotions

**[7:45]** - You’ll learn what emotions really are (hint: they’re not thoughts!) and why understanding them is crucial.

**[8:30]** - I’ll explain the stress responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and how they might be running your life without you even realizing it.

**[10:00]** - You’ll start to see why emotional distress keeps happening and what you can do to stop it.

---

### Step 1: Proactive Nervous System Regulation

**[12:00]** - Discover the difference between "911" nervous system regulation (what to do in the moment) and preventative practices (how to build resilience over time).

**[13:30]** - I’ll show you easy, practical ways to regulate your nervous system daily—without spending a ton of time or money.

**[15:00]** - You’ll leave with actionable tools to build emotional capacity so you can handle stressors without feeling overwhelmed.

---

### Step 2: Understanding and Guiding Emotions

**[17:30]** - I’ll teach you how to interpret emotions as messengers rather than fighting or ignoring them.

**[19:00]** - You’ll learn how to "ride the wave" of emotion without being overtaken by it—and how this simple skill can dramatically change your life.

**[20:45]** - By the end of this section, you’ll know how to stop reacting to emotions impulsively and start directing them intentionally.

---

### Step 3: Creating Productive Thoughts, Beliefs, and Support Systems

**[22:30]** - Learn why your current thoughts may be keeping you stuck and how to change the way you think for good.

**[24:00]** - I’ll guide you through building beliefs about self-worth, lovability, and what’s possible for your future.

**[25:30]** - You’ll walk away with a clear understanding of how to replace self-criticism with self-advocacy and start living the life you truly want.

---

### What Emotional Mastery Will Do for You

**[27:00]** - By mastering this process, you’ll gain self-love, resilience, confidence, and fulfillment.

**[28:15]** - You’ll see how emotional mastery impacts every area of your life, from your relationships to your career, and even your day-to-day joy.

---

### My Coaching Program: Take This Further

**[29:30]** - I’ll share how my *Emotional Mastery Coaching Program* works and how it can help you create the life you’ve been dreaming of.

**[31:00]** - You’ll learn what’s included: one-on-one coaching, daily private podcasts, and access to transformative trainings—all designed to help you succeed.

---

### Actionable Takeaways and Next Steps

**[33:00]** - Before you go, I’ll help you reflect on how emotional mastery can shift your life—and encourage you to take the next step by booking a free consultation with me.

**[34:30]** - Don’t forget: Every change starts with a decision. Let’s explore together how to make emotional mastery your reality.

---

### Closing

**[35:00]** - Thank you for joining me today! Remember, a new episode drops every week. If you found this helpful, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.

** Ready to take the next step? Book your free consultation now at [amandahess.ca/bookacall](https://amandahess.ca/bookacall). Let’s create the life you’ve always wanted!

Interested in working with Amanda? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.ca

Want to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: https://amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourself?preview_theme_id=2160502340

Come find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Previous Episode

238. What Is Manifesting Really, & Why It Matters In 2025

**[3:25] Getting Started: Why Manifestation?**

I share a personal update about teaching spin class while recovering from a cold.

Introduction to the episode's focus: Manifestation.

Initial thoughts on manifestation inspired by a business coach’s TikTok content.

Connection between self-love and manifestation as a practical tool.

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**[8:45] What is Manifestation?**

Reflection on past trends like *The Secret* and how manifestation is often misunderstood.

A non-spiritual, practical approach to manifestation: focusing on what you want to create.

Identifying controllable vs. uncontrollable factors in life

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**[14:30] Manifesting Your Goals**

The importance of identifying where you are and why.

Using curiosity, not judgment, to examine current circumstances.

Emotions as the foundation of manifestation:

How emotions affect energy, actions, and interactions.

Examples: weight loss, relationships, financial goals.

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**[21:10] The Emotional Component**

Understanding and managing the emotional fuel needed for manifesting goals.

Why confidence is often unavailable for new challenges, and how courage and resilience fill the gap.

Emotions like love, care, and curiosity as drivers for relationship goals.

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**[28:00] Example: Managing Conflict Through Emotional Energy**

Story of resolving conflict with compassion during a challenging customer service experience.

Lesson: Diffusing situations with empathy and manifesting better outcomes.

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**[32:45] Emotional Literacy: Key to Manifestation**

Most people lack the vocabulary to describe nuanced emotions.

The role of an emotional thesaurus in identifying and processing emotions.

Examples: shades of anger (e.g., jealousy, resentment) vs. positive emotions (e.g., fulfillment, satisfaction).

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**[38:00] The Process of Manifestation**

1. Recognize and process negative emotions.

2. Build emotional capacity through nervous system regulation.

3. Generate emotions like courage or resilience to fuel forward motion.

4. Apply these skills to specific goals.

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**[45:15] My Framework for Manifestation**

Understanding manifestation as an emotional equation.

Practical tools to grow emotional capacity and create desired results.

Importance of small, actionable steps in coaching.

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**[50:30]

Manifestation is about energy, not manipulation or magic.

Invitation to book a free discovery call for personalized guidance.

Book at [amandahess.ca/bookacall](https://amandahess.ca/bookacall).

Upcoming free training on manifestation in the Facebook group "Self Love Club."

Join at [joinamanda.com](https://joinamanda.com).

Encouragement to leave a review and share the podcast to help more women.

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**[55:00] Final Thoughts**

Manifestation is a skill worth developing for anyone wanting to create meaningful change.

Gratitude for listeners and a promise of weekly episodes filled with insights and support.

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**Links and Resources**

Free Discovery Call: amandahess.ca/bookacall

Join The Self-Love Club: joinamanda.ca

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240. Overthinking Unplugged: Why Your Brain Won't Stop & How To Break Free

In this episode I dive deep into the topic of overthinking. I explore why we overthink, how it affects our lives, and most importantly, how we can overcome it. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a loop of obsessive thoughts or struggling to quiet your mind, this episode is for you. I also share exciting details about my upcoming free masterclass on December 30th to help you make 2025 your most empowered year yet.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Welcome & Holiday Reflections
I share some Christmas Eve thoughts and how I’m preparing to help you create an incredible new year.

[02:45] Announcing My Free Masterclass
Details about “A New Year, A New You: Let’s End Overthinking” on December 30th at 5 PM PT / 8 PM ET. (Register at joinamanda.ca)

[05:30] Why Overthinking Happens
I discuss the common triggers of overthinking, from circumstantial stress to low-level anxiety.

[08:10] The Tug-of-War Analogy
Learn why trying to “logic” your way out of strong emotions often makes things worse.

[12:00] Overthinking vs. Emotional Safety
How overthinking arises from feelings of shame, guilt, worry, or fear—and why battling these emotions with thoughts doesn’t work.

[16:20] The Key to Breaking Free: Nervous System Regulation
I explain the importance of feeling emotions in your body and regulating your nervous system to reduce overthinking.

[19:40] Why “Positive Thinking” Isn’t the Solution
Discover why replacing negative thoughts with positive ones isn’t always effective.

[23:00] The Role of Specificity in Solving Problems
How focusing on specific issues instead of trying to “fix yourself” can change the way you think.

[27:15] Why Overthinking Wastes Time and Energy
I highlight how overthinking stops you from solving problems and reaching your goals.

[30:00] How You Can Take the Next Step
Why 2025 is your year to master your thoughts, control your emotions, and create the life you want.

[33:30] Final Thoughts & Call to Action
I encourage you to join my free masterclass and leave a review to help this podcast reach more women like you.

Links & Resources:

Register for my free masterclass: A New Year, A New You: Let’s End Overthinking → joinamanda.ca
Book a free consult with me → amandahess.ca/bookacall

Interested in working with Amanda? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.ca

Want to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: https://amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourself?preview_theme_id=2160502340

Come find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess