8: Be the best version of yourself with Freda Liu

08/17/19 • 33 min

FWEP0008 Be the best version of yourself with Freda Liu

In this episode, Be the best version of yourself we are very honored to have our very special guest Freda Liu. She is an author, Trainer, Moderator, Emcee Producer & Presenter of BFM89.9, Malaysia’s leading business station.

Being a Woman of influence

“Be a better person, not a bitter person” A statement from Freda.

Being an influence is quite hard especially if there’s a lot of people who looked up to you. You need to do your best not to disappoint them. But we can’t please everyone in the same way. Being a better version person is not that easy especially if there’s a lot of people who will grab us down and those are the bitter person.
(3:51) “I think it was something a down period in my life and I remember that during that down period I just said, God. I know I want to come out a better person, not a bitter person”.

How can we really be a better person physically, spiritually and how can we be a better person of ourselves? No matter what happens just do your best to be a good influence.

Position of influence

The position is good but how do we use our position? Is it for fame or for authority? We can’t ask people to follow us anytime because we have a position.
(5:08)“What do you do when you are given a position of influence? Do you then use your position of influence for good? Or hide under a shell?

(5:22)I've been placed in this position to let me see how else I can be of a positive influence on others. I have been given this opportunity I haven't just sort of arrived here. I have done the work. We shouldn't shy away from our contributions.

We all have something to give to other people. And we all have something to learn from other people as well.”

Fixing your goal

Every person has a goal and this goal will serve us our direction. If you are a person without a goal you’re just like birds flying without direction.

“The reason why you need to have goals in all the different areas is, imagine if you don't have goals for family and you're very successful in your career. And then after you look back, where's my family? Cause you never spent time setting any goals in your family area.

So all these little things will make your life a little bit more complete. If you have a goal make it a measurable goal.”

Challenges/Obstacles/Difficulties

Difficulties and challenges are everywhere. Sometimes the challenge that we encounter is self vs. self-wherein we fight with our mind.
(5:56) “One person suffers from is imposter syndrome we always feel like we’re not good enough. Of course, there’s a lot of difficulties but the question is how then can we improve? We shouldn’t hold ourselves back.”

Freda asks herself:
(6:33)“Am I really that good? Can I share everything?” But Freda is very brave and she used her experienced to proceed and continue to the next level and knowing that she leans on God every now and then. Freda is very dependent on God when it comes to her decision, she knew that God knows what the best is for us. And that God allowed you, us to experience challenges but remember that God placed here for a reason.

Secret sauce

As we live this life how can we be a better version of ourselves? Here’s a secret that Freda shared;
(9:24)“Better and not bitter. How can I improve myself spiritually, how can I improve ourselves financially, how can I improve myself mentally.”

What’s your priority?

We have a lot of tasks, works that need to be done right away. But the question is what is your priority and how do you prioritize your priorities?

(11:06)“Take more your priorities, when my son younger my priority was my family I was working at home very happy staying at home but the priorities change. I did have goals in different areas. But the focus was the more important goals.” Freda managed her time by prioritizing her priorities. And that’s very important one way maximize our time is to set our goals.

Key takeaways:
1. Be a better person, not a bitter person
2. Use your position to influence others
3. Set your goals
4. Prioritize your priorities
5. Always think for a means of how can you improve yourself.

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FWEP0008 Be the best version of yourself with Freda Liu

Being a Woman of influence

“Be a better person, not a bitter person” A statement from Freda.

How can we really be a better person physically, spiritually and how can we be a better person of ourselves? No matter what happens just do your best to be a good influence.

Position of influence

We all have something to give to other people. And we all have something to learn from other people as well.”

Fixing your goal

Every person has a goal and this goal will serve us our direction. If you are a person without a goal you’re just like birds flying without direction.

So all these little things will make your life a little bit more complete. If you have a goal make it a measurable goal.”

Challenges/Obstacles/Difficulties

Secret sauce

What’s your priority?

We have a lot of tasks, works that need to be done right away. But the question is what is your priority and how do you prioritize your priorities?

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7: Be a woman of influence with Deborah Bailey Women Entrepreneurs Radio

Be a woman of influence with Deborah Bailey Women Entrepreneurs Radio

Deborah Bailey, AKA “Coach Deb” on her Women Entrepreneurs Radio TM podcast, is a writer, coach, and creative entrepreneur. She offers coaching to entrepreneurs going through business and personal transitions with her Soul of an Entrepreneur coaching services. In addition, she’s a published author of several fiction and non-fiction books including, ”Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life.”

She’s the creator and host of the Women Entrepreneurs RadioTM podcast where she has weekly conversations with thought leaders and industry innovators. Deborah’s podcast was started in 2008 in order to promote women-owned businesses and support the women entrepreneurs community.

Her bylines have appeared in Baseline magazine, Dailyworth.com, Bankrate.com, More.com, Working World Magazine, and CNN.com. And, she’s been a guest on Good Day Street Talk on Channel 5 in NYC, ABC6 TV and WFMZ TV as an expert in career transitions and reinvention.

FWEP0007 Be a woman of influence with Deborah Bailey Women Entrepreneurs Radio

In this episode, Be a woman of influence we’re going to meet our special guest she is known as Coach Deb in her Woman Entrepreneur Radio Podcast. She is a writer and storyteller who loves to share real-life stories of her guests including their life experiences. Our special guest is Deborah Bailey.

The Power of influence

Coach Deb is well known for her passion for writing books and for her Woman entrepreneur radio podcast. Coach Deb emphasized the power of influence as a woman. She shared about her journey on how she became a woman of influence.
(4:14)“You could influence other people by just sharing your own story. And I wrote about my journey in the corporate, in how I had to change the way I thought, so I could now move out of that mindset, and really be trusting myself more, my intuition, trusting my creativity. That’s what I realized about influence. You never know how you could influence others”.

Being a person of influence starts with our mindset on how we think about things but we should not just stick to what our minds are dictating, especially if it’s holding us back.

What is a woman of influence?

Coach Deb said:
(5:06)“A woman of influence is someone who will help others and share what she knows, and mentor others and also be a supporter and someone who is really authentic like really knows who she is, doesn’t mind learning and making mistakes and really being a role model. Not perfect but someone who can say I’ve come to a certain place in my life and now I want to help other people as well, where I can.”

She emphasized that how we live our lives can influence other people without us knowing; because the most important thing about being a woman of influence is doing your best to help others and share what you have.

A typical reason why people fail to be a person of influence

Being influential doesn’t mean you have to be rich, famous, and powerful. But to influence is to set our lives as a good example to other people. Doing our best and taking seriously the things that we need to do. Coach Deb stated:
(8:20)“I think maybe because they don’t take seriously what they know, what they can contribute, and maybe they feel fear in a crowd, leads to a mentality of: “I can’t contribute” “I don’t know what I’m doing” “What I’m saying is not important”
You are not becoming influential because you are not stepping up, afraid that you will end up being a disappointment.

How to gain the power of influence

Confidence is the key!

Being influential is not that easy. There are obstacles that we encounter along the way. But how are we going to conquer it? What are the means that we need to do?
(9:01)“I think first we have to start with confidence. Appreciate what we’ve done and what you can share. Because without confidence it’s really hard to step up into anything.”
The lack of confidence will lead you to belittle yourself or thing that you are not enough or worthy. Sometimes we are afraid to take risks because we are not that confident of what we are going to do but we must push ourselves to go out from our comfort zone. That’s very important.

The role of mindset in becoming a woman of influence

How we act sometimes depends on what mindset or perspective we have. Sometimes we just have to change our mindset in a positive way so we can be productive.

“Changing mindset, to me is important. Because sometimes people are not sure what to do and maybe you can help them to see tha...

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9: Never give up with Carrie Lee Sze Kei Miss Chinese Cosmos International

FWEP0009 Never Give up with Carrie Lee Sze Kei

In this episode Never Give up, we have a very special guest Carrie Lee Sze Kei who won the Miss Chinese Cosmos International in 2004. She is the founder of Cosmo World a pageant organizing company based in Malaysia.

Being a Woman of Influence in the Pageant world

Carrie Lee is not just a woman with beauty but she is a woman that’s full of courage and ready to take every circumstance whatever it takes. When she was 20 years old she struggled with how she can pursue her studies. Eventually, Carrie chose to give up her studies. But when she gave up her studies she did not stop there. She used it to build her confidence and took a step to create and achieve new goals.
(4:03) “You must believe a lot of things... you must try! It's okay to fail when you fail you learn from all the mistakes. Whether you must believe in yourself, you still have to try”.

Managing our Choices

When it comes to choices, it’s very hard to choose especially if we don’t have any choice. Sometimes, we regret our choice but most of the time our choice will lead us to success. For Carrie, she chose to give up her studies and choose her career.

Carrie joined pageants when she was 18 and won the Miss Cosmo International at 19 and started a business at 20. So her choice in life leads her to where she is right now.

(5:36)“Everyone has a choice. If you take this what are the consequences? And you can learn from yourself.”
(6:26)"The choice that I made in my life is that I gave up my university and I chose my career, a faster path. The basics that you learn in University are very good but at the end of the day you still have to face the real world.”

Facing the Giants in life

As a businesswoman, we’re not exempted from challenges and struggles. As Carrie ran her first business, she also encountered and experienced challenges especially that she did not finish her university. Sometimes, it varies how we deal with our challenges and how we conquer them. According to Carrie, we will face different kinds of people but all of them will train us to be good people.

(8:41)“Sometimes we as humans we meet a lot of obstacles, we meet a lot of people, which is bad people. But it's okay because you never know until you've reached that circumstance. Actually these people will train you to be a better person, they will train you to be a smarter person, so I've learned from the obstacles that I have met.”

YOU CAN DO MORE
Productivity is not solely based on a degree it is a mixture of a lot of things, including perseverance and determination.

You can do more beyond your limitations.
(9:26)“You can do more and when you do more things that you learned is much more than the ordinary person. When you work more than 8 hours a day, the things that you have gained from yourself is much more than the people around you. Those are people smarter than you but if you put in the hard work you can actually get things done. I really worked hard for all the things that I want to. For me, nothing is free lunch. When you want something out there you still have to work very hard for what you want to achieve that is the goal that we need to set in our mind.”

How do you handle people’s judgments?

Sometimes we cannot dictate people’s mind as Carrie said
(10:34) “You cannot change people's minds. You have to prove to people. Time can prove everything, sometimes you don't need to argue with the person. Time can prove everything, just wait for the time!”

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