Donor Egg Support Conversations - 25. Jessica's story: From Depression, Finally To Joy. What It Was Like To Recieve A Diagnosis Of Premature Ovarian Failure At 24.

25. Jessica's story: From Depression, Finally To Joy. What It Was Like To Recieve A Diagnosis Of Premature Ovarian Failure At 24.

09/12/23 • 43 min

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In this episode, we are joined by Jessica, a wife, mother, and mental health therapist from Oklahoma, USA. Jessica’s path to motherhood was rough from the very start, as she received the devastating diagnosis of premature ovarian failure at age 24.

The fairy tale that we all take for granted of natural conception was shattered and she struggled with her mental health. The irony that she should be at the peak of her fertility in her 20’s was hard to bear and she sank into a deep depression.

After knowing about her condition, Jessica sought help from two doctors regarding her situation, and they provided contrasting advice. One convinced her that she can't conceive naturally, while the second one told her that she can still try for at least a month to see if it works. Jessica was not convinced that she could get pregnant naturally and made a courageous decision at 29 to embrace the donor egg pathway to parenthood.

Dedicated to being a mother, Jessica embarked on six trips over nine months, opting for donor egg IVF at CNY in New York.

It took her four transfers, and then she finally achieved pregnancy with her son, who is approaching his third birthday.

Jessica shared that the biggest help came from her husband and family's support. She said:

“ I think the biggest thing for me was I relied on my husband and my family for support. I talked to them about how I was feeling. And I think that was a big thing. I knew from my past that I don't want to talk about the things I'm struggling with and I found that it was best for me to reach out and talk about how I was feeling.”

Leaning on her faith also played a pivotal role in her journey. She found solace in being prepared for different outcomes, regardless of whether the path led to success or further challenges.

Jessica's journey ignited her passion for raising awareness about the donor egg pathway. She emphasizes the value of sharing stories, destigmatizing emotions, and helping others navigate their emotional complexities more efficiently.
Through her trials, Jessica found her inner strength and resilience. Shifting her mindset, she recognized her journey as a source of strength rather than brokenness, transforming her feelings of isolation into growth and healing.

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Dedicated to being a mother, Jessica embarked on six trips over nine months, opting for donor egg IVF at CNY in New York.

It took her four transfers, and then she finally achieved pregnancy with her son, who is approaching his third birthday.

Jessica shared that the biggest help came from her husband and family's support. She said:

Leaning on her faith also played a pivotal role in her journey. She found solace in being prepared for different outcomes, regardless of whether the path led to success or further challenges.

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24. Tracie's story: Sheer Determination and Bee Stings!

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In this episode, we had the pleasure of talking to Tracie, a 43-years-old woman from the Midwest USA who shares her experience with infertility and her decision to use donor eggs to conceive her daughter.

At the age of 34, Tracie and her husband began a determined quest for a baby hoping to conceive naturally. After a year and a half of trying, they sought medical help and tried various treatments, such as: acupuncture, IUIs, and IVF.

Tracie tried everything, including 'bee sting' therapy!

However, she had to face multiple unsuccessful attempts and many miscarriages. A doctor recommended using donor eggs, but Tracie initially resisted the idea, determined to conceive with her own eggs.

Eventually, Tracie found another fertility clinic with a great doctor who was able to retrieve eggs from her successfully. But the journey was still tough, again with many failed attempts along the way. It was not easy for her to stay positive in her journey as her problems were inclining every step.

However, Tracie shares that her turning point came when she was listening to a podcast where a woman discussed her own challenges and posed the question: 'What's more important to you - having your own genetics or having a baby?

She explained, 'That's when it just clicked for me. I realized, Oh my gosh, I just want a baby. So, I thought, okay, if this next attempt doesn't work, we're going to try donor eggs. At that point, I completely embraced the idea and felt an immense relief once I made that decision.' From then on Tracie decided to move forward with using donor eggs. They found a suitable donor, and the first transfer was successful, leading her to a healthy pregnancy and the birth of a beautiful and healthy daughter.

Tracie's path was marked by challenges. One of them was showing up day to day in a job she disliked for years, yet the outstanding insurance package meant she could continue with her fertility journey. She wouldn't quit until she got the baby in arms, that was on her heart.

She hopes that by sharing her story, others can find hope and strength on their own paths to parenthood.

Tune in to this episode to learn more about her inspiring journey!

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26. Rebecca's story: Family Completion Using Donor Eggs After A Long Fertility Journey Dealing With Blocked Fallopian Tubes And Premature Diminished Ovarian Reserve.

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In this episode I chat with Rebecca from Alabama who’s a 41 year old preschool director, happily married, mom to two, to her ‘own egg’ daughter, and her donor egg conceived son.

She found out at 28 that her fallopian tubes were blocked and that IVF would be her only way of getting pregnant and so her journey began.

After 18 months of TTC naturally Rebecca was recommended to a clinic in Colorado who had success helping women with diminished ovarian reserve.

She and her husband decided to view the IVF treatment as a holiday and opportunity to relax and enjoy another part of the States.

She credits the holiday environment as part of the success in conceiving her daughter.

Rebecca took a five year gap to get ready financially and emotionally to prepare for a donor egg cycle to complete her family of three.

She longed for a sibling for her daughter and knew that the only way forward was to use a donor egg.

She and her husband decided to travel interstate once more and have another IVF adventure, this time choosing San Diego Fertility Centre for her donor egg transfer.

After a setback with her first donor selection, they had a successful transfer and welcomed her son into the family.

Rebecca shares with us how she explained to her daughter and son the egg donation concept and the dynamics between her family.

Rebecca’s children are all well-aware of the process that led to their conception, and this transparency has nurtured a strong and trusting relationship within their family. For Rebecca, the essence of a family is defined more by the love, care, and dedication shared among its members than by genetics

Rebecca’s story offers valuable advice to others who might be on a similar path. She encourages parents to trust their instincts, embrace the uniqueness of their family dynamic, and above all, maintain open communication with their children.

A common concern that is voiced by many women who are looking to complete their family via egg donation is the worry that they may not bond with their donor conceived child nor love them the same as their own egg child.

Rebecca says, “When my son was born prematurely, I struggled initially due to the birth circumstances, but the bond grew strong as we spent time together. He's my son in every sense, and genetics don't define our connection.”

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