249. The Gift of Limitations (with Sara Hagerty)
02/27/24 • 30 min
This week, I get to share a conversation I had recently with Sara Hagerty -- and it's one I think you'll love and be deeply inspired by! I know I was! Sara is the author of The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries and I resonated so deeply with her story and this book. In fact, it is my first 5-star read of 2024!
In this episode, Sara and I take a dive into her inspiring journey of facing limitations, from a challenging road to motherhood, 13 years of infertility, adopting four children, birthing 3 unexpected biological children, navigating a wide age range and seven kids, and dealing with chronic illness. Sara shares her wonderful wisdom on how to embrace and find beauty in the roadblocks, unexpected, and limitations of life.
We tackle tough questions and discuss the incredibly transformative power of acknowledging and grieving our limitations. Sara's insights into incorporating pauses into our daily lives and allowing God to work through our limitations rather than against them spoke deeply to my soul and it's something I've thought of multiple times since this interview. We also chat about the practical steps you can take to navigate the tension of feeling like there's not enough of you to go around and the importance of trusting God in those moments.
I hope this conversation helps to shift your perspective on limitations and reveal the unexpected gifts that they can bring. There can actually be blessing in boundaries!
In This Episode
[0:35] - I have Sara Hagerty in-studio today to talk about her book The Gift of Limitations!
[2:03] - Sara begins by diving into her journey and her experience with limitations in her life.
[4:03] - Despite chronic illness and years of infertility, Sara discovered God's presence in the now and urges others to live fully.
[7:06] - Sara discusses how motherhood presents challenges in balancing personal dreams.
[8:43] - How did Sara get to a place where she was able to accept her limitations?
[12:33] - Sara explains that taking a few minutes daily to sit in grief and then into God's comfort has helped her so much.
[13:41] - Naming and grieving underlying emotions in frustrating moments cultivates patience, easing family dynamics and expectations.
[16:21] - Amid life's chaos, being present requires addressing underlying narratives through reflective pauses.
[19:47] - The profound question of God's identity in our lives when one feels inadequate.
[23:48] - Allow God to work through life's limitations.
[27:50] - Don't push against limitations might hinder God's work.
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This week, I get to share a conversation I had recently with Sara Hagerty -- and it's one I think you'll love and be deeply inspired by! I know I was! Sara is the author of The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries and I resonated so deeply with her story and this book. In fact, it is my first 5-star read of 2024!
In this episode, Sara and I take a dive into her inspiring journey of facing limitations, from a challenging road to motherhood, 13 years of infertility, adopting four children, birthing 3 unexpected biological children, navigating a wide age range and seven kids, and dealing with chronic illness. Sara shares her wonderful wisdom on how to embrace and find beauty in the roadblocks, unexpected, and limitations of life.
We tackle tough questions and discuss the incredibly transformative power of acknowledging and grieving our limitations. Sara's insights into incorporating pauses into our daily lives and allowing God to work through our limitations rather than against them spoke deeply to my soul and it's something I've thought of multiple times since this interview. We also chat about the practical steps you can take to navigate the tension of feeling like there's not enough of you to go around and the importance of trusting God in those moments.
I hope this conversation helps to shift your perspective on limitations and reveal the unexpected gifts that they can bring. There can actually be blessing in boundaries!
In This Episode
[0:35] - I have Sara Hagerty in-studio today to talk about her book The Gift of Limitations!
[2:03] - Sara begins by diving into her journey and her experience with limitations in her life.
[4:03] - Despite chronic illness and years of infertility, Sara discovered God's presence in the now and urges others to live fully.
[7:06] - Sara discusses how motherhood presents challenges in balancing personal dreams.
[8:43] - How did Sara get to a place where she was able to accept her limitations?
[12:33] - Sara explains that taking a few minutes daily to sit in grief and then into God's comfort has helped her so much.
[13:41] - Naming and grieving underlying emotions in frustrating moments cultivates patience, easing family dynamics and expectations.
[16:21] - Amid life's chaos, being present requires addressing underlying narratives through reflective pauses.
[19:47] - The profound question of God's identity in our lives when one feels inadequate.
[23:48] - Allow God to work through life's limitations.
[27:50] - Don't push against limitations might hinder God's work.
Links & Resources
Books
Social Media
- Crystal Paine on Instagram
- Crystal Paine on Twitter
- Crystal Paine on Goodreads
- Money Saving Mom
- Money Saving Mom on Facebook
- Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group
- [email protected]
Our Sponsors:
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248. Losing and Rebuilding Trust With Your Teens
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We also discuss the two-way street of building and maintaining trust, encouraging parents to invest time, keep promises, and set positive examples. We wrap up by emphasizing the importance of parental introspection, checking our hearts, and seeking guidance from the Lord.
For more encouragement, I highly recommend checking out my free online class: "10 Days to a Happier Mom," designed to help parents shift from frustration to a place of calmness and peace, ultimately parenting from a foundation of understanding how much you are loved by God and pursuing relationship with your kids instead of seeking to protect your reputation with others.
In This Episode
[0:35] - What do you do when your teens break trust?
[1:35] - We recently dealt with our first broken bone for one of our kids -- after 19 years of parenting!
[3:28] - I discuss a painful arm injury from my childhood that heightened my sensitivity to possible fractures in my children.
[12:16] - Am I actually considering becoming a gardener?? Or at least having a container garden??
[13:36] - I have been immersed in a book that has deeply resonated with me – Sara Hagerty's The Gift of Limitations.
[16:26] - Reflecting on trust challenges with children prompted deep contemplation after a question on Instagram.
[22:32] - Before addressing any anger that I might be feeling toward my child, stop and assess your heart.
[25:18] - Engaging in open conversations with our children about trust builds understanding and fosters growth.
[27:10] - Before implementing consequences, talk with your kids, ask curious questions, and lean in and listen to seek to understand your child's perspective.
[30:27] - Rebuilding trust is serious; show understanding, sadness, and love, and actively participate in rebuilding efforts mutually.
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[5:23] - Jesse highlights Kaitlynn's unexpected layover in San Francisco due to flight delays.
[7:25] - I discuss upcoming trips, including Kaitlynn's 11-day adventure and Jesse's chaperoning role for Silas's DC trip.
[10:39] - I am currently reading Susan Meissner's Only the Beautiful which explores societal stigmas and hidden historical realities.
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[24:38] - I get schooled on bag phones and we talk about our first phones.
[29:37] - Have we changed the way we parent and interact with people because of cell phones?
[32:31] - Metal slides and Merry-Go-Rounds!
[35:51] - We reminisce about free internet courtesy of AOL discs.
[38:00] - Cassette players, CD players, iPods, and planning our wedding on a PalmPilot.
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