Raising Indistractable Kids: Empowering the Next Generation in the Digital Age with Nir Eyal-Building Men Podcast #200
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02/16/24 • 64 min
In this episode, we're joined by best-selling author and behavioral design expert Nir Eyal, as we delve into strategies for empowering children to thrive in a world saturated with digital distractions. Discover the essential psychological nutrients of competency, autonomy, and relatedness from Self-Determination Theory, and learn how to integrate them into parenting and educational practices to develop focused, resilient minds.
Key Points from the Episode:
The profound impact of Self-Determination Theory on understanding human motivation and its relevance in child development.
Exploring the balance between structured schedules and the autonomy children need for emotional health and resilience.
The role of family interactions in managing screen time and the establishment of no-phone zones.
Techniques and strategies to help children navigate digital distractions and make intentional choices about technology use.
The importance of natural consequences in parenting and how to involve kids in setting rules and understanding outcomes.
The Super Mario effect and how failure can be a learning tool to adjust approaches to challenges.
Time boxing as a method for setting priorities and intentionally using time for both adults and children.
Chapter Summaries:
(0:00:03) The Impact of Self-Determination Theory - Discussion on competency, autonomy, and relatedness as psychological nutrients and their role in combating technology overuse.
(0:08:12) Autonomy and Over-Scheduling's Impact on Children's Development - How modern society's over-scheduling can limit children's autonomy and the benefits of unstructured playtime.
(0:19:26) Technology's Impact on Family and Interactions - The importance of shared family meals, parental engagement, and creating new social antibodies to maintain core values amidst digital distractions.
(0:26:35) Managing Screen Time and Distraction - Understanding 'traction' versus 'distraction,' and how intent defines our engagement with technology.
(0:36:18) Parenting, Technology, and Natural Consequences - Addressing the language around technology use and promoting autonomy through understanding and natural consequences.
(0:40:35) Help Kids Manage Digital Distractions - Strategies for helping kids cope with digital distractions, including the Super Mario effect and environmental shaping.
(0:51:19) Time Boxing and Setting Priorities Power - The benefits of time boxing over to-do lists and modeling healthy tech habits for children.
(1:02:20) The Power of Being Indistractable - Embracing forethought as the antidote to impulsiveness and sharing the message of becoming indistractable.
About Nir:
Nir Eyal, a writer, consultant, and teacher, specializes in the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. He has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and is the author of two bestselling books: "Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products" and "Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life."
Get in touch with Nir:
The book, it’s: http://geni.us/indistractable
Indistractable bonus content: http://www.nirandfar.com/indistractable/
Indistractable summary article: https://www.nirandfar.com/skill-of-the-future/
Timeboxing article: https://www.nirandfar.com/timeboxing/
His free habit tracker tool: https://www.nirandfar.com/habit-tracker/
His free schedule maker tool: https://www.nirandfar.com/schedule-maker/
His list of my top articles: https://www.nirandfar.com/best-articles/
#IndistractableKids #DigitalAge #SelfDeterminationTheory #ParentingTips #ScreenTimeManagement #NirEyal #FamilyDynamics #ResilientYouth #FocusedMinds
Thank you for tuning in to this enlightening conversation. We hope you leave this episode with actionable insights and a new perspective on parenting and technology.
Don't forget to subscribe for more episodes like this and share with anyone who could benefit from these powerful discussions.
In this episode, we're joined by best-selling author and behavioral design expert Nir Eyal, as we delve into strategies for empowering children to thrive in a world saturated with digital distractions. Discover the essential psychological nutrients of competency, autonomy, and relatedness from Self-Determination Theory, and learn how to integrate them into parenting and educational practices to develop focused, resilient minds.
Key Points from the Episode:
The profound impact of Self-Determination Theory on understanding human motivation and its relevance in child development.
Exploring the balance between structured schedules and the autonomy children need for emotional health and resilience.
The role of family interactions in managing screen time and the establishment of no-phone zones.
Techniques and strategies to help children navigate digital distractions and make intentional choices about technology use.
The importance of natural consequences in parenting and how to involve kids in setting rules and understanding outcomes.
The Super Mario effect and how failure can be a learning tool to adjust approaches to challenges.
Time boxing as a method for setting priorities and intentionally using time for both adults and children.
Chapter Summaries:
(0:00:03) The Impact of Self-Determination Theory - Discussion on competency, autonomy, and relatedness as psychological nutrients and their role in combating technology overuse.
(0:08:12) Autonomy and Over-Scheduling's Impact on Children's Development - How modern society's over-scheduling can limit children's autonomy and the benefits of unstructured playtime.
(0:19:26) Technology's Impact on Family and Interactions - The importance of shared family meals, parental engagement, and creating new social antibodies to maintain core values amidst digital distractions.
(0:26:35) Managing Screen Time and Distraction - Understanding 'traction' versus 'distraction,' and how intent defines our engagement with technology.
(0:36:18) Parenting, Technology, and Natural Consequences - Addressing the language around technology use and promoting autonomy through understanding and natural consequences.
(0:40:35) Help Kids Manage Digital Distractions - Strategies for helping kids cope with digital distractions, including the Super Mario effect and environmental shaping.
(0:51:19) Time Boxing and Setting Priorities Power - The benefits of time boxing over to-do lists and modeling healthy tech habits for children.
(1:02:20) The Power of Being Indistractable - Embracing forethought as the antidote to impulsiveness and sharing the message of becoming indistractable.
About Nir:
Nir Eyal, a writer, consultant, and teacher, specializes in the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. He has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and is the author of two bestselling books: "Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products" and "Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life."
Get in touch with Nir:
The book, it’s: http://geni.us/indistractable
Indistractable bonus content: http://www.nirandfar.com/indistractable/
Indistractable summary article: https://www.nirandfar.com/skill-of-the-future/
Timeboxing article: https://www.nirandfar.com/timeboxing/
His free habit tracker tool: https://www.nirandfar.com/habit-tracker/
His free schedule maker tool: https://www.nirandfar.com/schedule-maker/
His list of my top articles: https://www.nirandfar.com/best-articles/
#IndistractableKids #DigitalAge #SelfDeterminationTheory #ParentingTips #ScreenTimeManagement #NirEyal #FamilyDynamics #ResilientYouth #FocusedMinds
Thank you for tuning in to this enlightening conversation. We hope you leave this episode with actionable insights and a new perspective on parenting and technology.
Don't forget to subscribe for more episodes like this and share with anyone who could benefit from these powerful discussions.
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Becoming your Best with Nick Carrier-Building Men Podcast ep199
Ever find yourself wondering how the culture of the South, with its rich sporting traditions and distinctive drawls, shapes the people who grow up there? Well, wonder no more. Join me, as I engage in a thought-provoking conversation with Nick Carrier, the fitness maestro and goal-setting guru. We meander through the charming eccentricities of Southern culture, chuckle over shared memories of college football fervor, and explore how our sports-laden pasts have carved out the individuals we've become today.
This episode isn't just about reflections; it's an odyssey through the power of self-confidence and the lasting impact of a supportive community. I share heartfelt stories from my days in Catholic school, where the values of resilience and self-belief were deeply instilled. Taking a page from my own life's playbook, I encourage you to recognize your accomplishments, big or small, and to embrace the profound transformation that comes from believing in yourself. Our discussion is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone eager to create a foundation for success, regardless of where you're starting from.
We round off our insightful exchange by tackling the intricacies of meaningful connections and how they can pivot the direction of our lives in ways we never expected. Nick and I examine the significant strides one can make in their health and fitness journey, debunking misconceptions along the way. We also highlight the unique aspects of Nick's coaching style and his 'Best You' podcast, which offers motivational content for anyone on the path to self-improvement. It's an episode packed with engaging anecdotes and practical advice, sure to resonate with those committed to forging their best selves.
Get in touch with Nick: https://linktr.ee/carrierbestyou
Instagram: @carrier_bestyou
(01:01 - 01:55) Exploring Southern Accents and Regional Differences
(09:19 - 10:16) Developing Self-Confidence Without Validation
(21:17 - 22:20) Building Workable Fitness Goals
(23:37 - 24:26) Goal Achievement
(28:24 - 29:29) The Flaws of a Temporary Transformation
(31:38 - 33:51) Building Confidence and Belief in Self
(39:13 - 40:05) Creating a Framework for Personal Growth
(44:54 - 45:24) Impactful Encounters and Life-Changing Moments
(50:46 - 51:14) Building Connections and Pushing Boundaries
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Overcoming Bullying to Become a Paralympic Medalist with Kevin Rempel | Building Men Podcast Ep.201
Welcome to another episode of the Building Men Podcast, where we dive into the powerful story of Kevin Rempel's; from facing the demons of his past to clinching Paralympic glory. This episode is not just about triumph over adversity; it's a profound exploration of the evolving definition of masculinity, the intricate dynamics of father-son relationships, and the relentless pursuit of identity and purpose.
Episode Highlights:
From Battlefields to Paralympic Gold: We open up with Kevin's early years, his battles with bullying, and the pivotal moments that led to his personal reinvention.
Redefining Masculine Strength: An honest look at the traditional constructs of masculinity and how they clash with life's unpredictable challenges.
The Journey of Overcoming and Embracing Vulnerability: Kevin shares the raw and emotional trials he faced after a family tragedy and his own debilitating accident.
Healing and Purpose: We learn about the role of physical activity in recovery, the importance of community, and the remarkable path to Paralympic success.
Unravelling Core Wounds: An intimate discussion on the subconscious patterns from childhood that affect our adult lives and relationships.
The Power of Taking Control: Kevin offers advice on finding your path, taking responsibility for your journey, and the importance of seeking help during dark times.
Key Moments in This Episode:
[0:00:02] Personal Growth and Triumph Through Adversity: Kevin recounts his childhood struggles and the conscious decision to redefine himself in high school.
[0:13:40] Manhood and Tragic Injuries: Host Dennis Morolda shares his personal story of navigating his relationship with his father and their bond over hockey.
[0:27:30] Navigating Dark Moments and Suicide Prevention: An honest conversation about coping with disability and loss within a family, and the critical importance of support systems.
[0:33:57] Overcoming Adversity and Finding Purpose: Kevin's gripping tale of battling addiction, choosing life, and finding a new direction through sledge hockey.
[0:42:53] Uncovering Core Wounds and Healing: Insights into how our upbringing shapes our behavior in adult relationships and the path to self-love and forgiveness.
[0:50:09] Navigating Past Trauma and Finding Purpose: Kevin discusses the impact of family conflict on his career and shares where to find his resources for resilience and mental health.
Resources Mentioned:
Kevin Rempel's Book: https://kevinrempel.com/still-standing-book/
Hoffman Process: https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/the-process/
Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/chat/
Connect with Kevin Rempel:
Email : [email protected]
Website : www.kevinrempel.com
Social Media:
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinrempel
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinrempel/channel
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/rempelinspires
Episode Quotes:
"Someone else's opinion of you does not have to become your reality." – Kevin Rempel
"Listen to your inner voice, shape your own belief about who you are." – Kevin Rempel
"You're in control of your own thoughts and do not allow someone else's thoughts about you become your reality." – Kevin Rempel
"Stop trying to fit in, go after what you really want. You're going to attract the people to you that you actually want to spend time with." – Kevin Rempel
Join us for this heartfelt episode that promises to leave you with valuable lessons on resilience, identity, and the essence of true strength.
Don't forget to subscribe and leave us a review if you found this episode enlightening. Share it with someone who could benefit from Kevin's incredible story of overcoming and redefining strength.
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