Black Women Heal Show

In this episode, the ladies discuss common causes for intimate disconnect, communicating your sexual desires, and maintaining them. 

Restoring intimacy with your partner can be a difficult discussion, but it's a necessary one. It's often a taboo topic for many and an overlooked area that creates a healthy sex life. The need for emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical intimacy from your partner is sacred and shouldn't be taken lightly. Heck, even if your relationship is casual, you still need to form a connection in some way. Lack of intimacy in a relationship often feels like disconnection or distance. An invisible barrier or wall.

"Relationships don't die because of a lack of love. They die because of a lack of passion."-Tony Robbins

Article Mentioned:

MentalHelp.net https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-most-important-tool-for-restoring-emotional-intimacy-to-your-marriage

 Time Stamps: 

• 00:00:00- Intro
• 00:02:36- That thang ain't thangin no more.
• 00:04:20- You betta communicate what you need sis!
• 00:08:06- It's okay babe, I'm not trying to hurt you.
• 00:09:48- It's hard to tell when your man feels disconnected.
• 00:12:18- The act of sex is just a small percentage of what it means to have real intimacy.
• 00:16:34- Who's teaching hetero men how to be intimate with women?
• 00:19:50- It's a man's patience for me.
• 00:28:33- When hetero women are more sexually driven than their men.
• 00:30:34- Commercial break
• 00:36:38- I need my sex and breaking the ice to difficult discussions.
• 00:37:28- Women with low libido and cosplay.
• 00:38:48- When your man has low libido and methods he used to make up for it.
• 00:41:26- Let intimate conversations with your partner fuel your drive and ambition.
• 00:46:15- Holding yourself accountable and loving your partner in the love language they understand.
• 00:49:00- Give your partner the girlfriend or dating experience.
• 00:50:02- Benediction

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What's the first thing that comes to you when you read/hear the phrase: mind fuck me? Is it the idea of a love interest seducing you through intellectual conversation?

If you're tired of the club scene and local bar, you can attest to the yearning of wanting to deeply connect with a love interest. If you're married or in a long-term relationship, you were probably drawn to your partner because they bared all intellectually.

In this episode, the ladies discuss experiences with former partners and what their current husbands have done to stimulate them beyond the bedroom. They dive into whether single hetero men lack the patience or "know-how" to inspire a woman mentally. Times they've been attracted to someone who was not their usual "type," places single people can meet their intellectual match, and what it's like to be married and sexually aroused by their husbands' intellect.

 Time Stamps:

00:11:45-What comes to mind when you hear: Mind fuck me.

00:14:14-I've always been a personality person.

00:20:00-Culturally exposed men

00:24:14-If your partner is less culturally exposed; show them.

00:29:45-Become comfortable with self, first.

00:37:53-I prefer a man that's intelligent and swaggy.

00:45:29-Sapiosexuals in marriage.

00:48:47- Being equally yoked through intelligence and curiosity.

00:51:49-Lay down your ego and pick up femininity.

00:55:25-How heterosexual men/women present themselves to the world matters.

01:00:03-Sapiosexual weaponry and triggers.

01:11:03-I'm just a lil selfish, gotta check myself.

01:14:57-Nerdy dudes been in.

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Have you been "burned" by family, do you expect your family to ride or die for you, do you think people actually know when they need further healing, is healing truly attainable in the black and brown communities? The ladies answer these questions and more on this episode of BWH.

• *00:02:15-Seleta pulls from the moonology oracle deck and a new and exciting start is coming your way. Indications of a new start, new project, or overall positive energies will enter freely and abundantly. If you have been feeling stagnant, this week's reading reminds us that life happens in cycles, and now is the time to wipe the slate clean.

The ladies admit, at some point, they've been burned by family and family will be the first to throw fire at you. Seleta states that she finds closure by telling the other person how she feels and how she was hurt and then moves forward unapologetically. Sheena says that over the years she has stopped expecting anything from family, whether that's supporting her creative projects or just calling to check on her. By now you already know that Ashley's relationships are on a case-by-case basis, lol. 

Cheyenne says that she felt like the "black sheep" of her family growing up because she was raised by her grandparents in her earlier life and her experience with her mother was entirely different from that of her siblings. Monique reminds us that the revolution of black and brown people will not be televised, because healing starts within and we cannot heal our families or this nation until we stand in the mirror and seek it in our communities, first.

Passive-aggressive behaviors seem to be a common theme in this episode and the ladies all agree that getting things out in the air, even if it means relationships being severed. Unhealed trauma is widespread in the black and brown communities; is healing generational curses truly attainable? 

• *00:04:57- A little COVID talk and how it can affect our spiritual and mental state when there's a pandemic out in these streets.
• *00:09:58- For our, It's a vibe segment, Seleta suggests Snoh Alegra while Monique busts into a little riff of PJ Morton and JoJo: Say So. Seleta says we all need to take a trip down memory lane & listen to Ying Yang Twins to get our day started, as well as singer Kianna Lede's song: chocolate, which is for damn sure A Vibe. 
• *00:18:02-BDE/GPDE for the day is emotional Intelligence in intimate relationships and why you should never settle for being a concubine; aim for that "bottom wife" life. The ladies agree that it is not big d*ck energy for a man to have multiple wives and children without his wife's consent. A whole lot of men have toxic d*ck energy and leave women d*ckmatized and sprung. Fellas we hope you know your worth too and are staying away from toxic p*ussy energy.
• *00:27:55-Is blood thicker than water ya'll?
• *00:47:35- The Revolution will not be televised because it's in your mind.
• *00:53:23-Stop blaming others for your unhappiness, know thyself.
• *00:57:47-Shoutout to the Ancestors.
• *01:03:53-Black dollars and no unity.
• *01:06:59-It's time to get uncomfortable with family.

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Are you someone who only shows romance towards your significant other on special occasions you know; stuntin for the gram? What does a romantic gesture look like to you based on your love language or is it even important?

Communication and fertility were the cards that came up on the Spiritual Shit segment of the show today. This is the second episode that communication was pulled from the deck, which is an indication of how important it is. 

The communication card leads the ladies into a discussion about the presence of masculine energy that many modern-day women project in all areas of their lives. For the heterosexual woman seeking love; she's giving off big dick energy which is the opposite of what most men prefer in a life partner. But don't worry, the ladies offer simple and effective ways for you to tap into your divine feminine energy to create balance and heal your traumas.

*00:22:00-Sheena shares some not-so-big dick energy for the week and challenges with dating in the 21st century.

*00:35:00-After a few tangents, the ladies finally discuss what they perceive to be romantic, how often they expect romantic gestures, and holding yourself accountable when you weren't behaving at your best.

*01:04:00-The ladies ask how often should you be having sex with your partner? Sheena, Cheyenne, Ashley, and Seleta all agree that it should be daily, but Mo disagrees, #respectfully.

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-Write to us at [email protected] with your questions, topic ideas, or anonymously with letters about your own life experiences and we'll read it on the show. 

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Have you ever been told by parents and loved ones: girl you can't do that, people will think you're ghetto and have no home training!

Black girls and boys spend their childhood learning how to behave and speak in public, school, work, and predominantly white spaces. As if who we are is tainted and not good enough. The history of America and its Black people is filled with images of promiscuous and angry Black women. For many of us, a few lessons on how NOT to be what the media portrays us is just as important as earning a college degree.

 In this episode, the ladies of BWH discuss what contributes to or causes the overly critical views of Black women and girls. How these stereotypes affected them as children and adults. Why do White people refuse to "fix" what was created by their Ancestors, how Black men and women can heal and thrive as a collective.

Articles mentioned:

A.)  The Misunderstood Schema of the Strong Black Woman: Exploring Its Mental Health Consequences and Coping Responses Among African American Women

  B.) Frankly, We Do Give a Damn: The Relationship Between Profanity and Honesty

 C.)  Jim Crow Museum of racist memorabilia

 D.) The Black Kings of Europe

Time Stamps

• 00:00:00- Intro
• 00:01:30- Listener Reviews and the Top Countries & States for August.
• 00:07:51- Black girl, you know you can't do that.
• 00:13:04-Articles and studies about profanity and Black women.
• 00:15:38- What contributes to the negative imagery of Black women?
• 00:19:19- Negative stereotypes Black children/young adults experience.
• 00:25:30- Embarrassing me in front of all these white people.
• 00:28:46- Oversexualization of Black girls and Black women.
• 00:33:34- The Black woman is the most disrespected in America.
• 00:39:43- The Black community is powerful; they just don't know it.
• 00:42:55- Societal pressures and body image.
• 00:48:20- So tired of being told what I can't do.
• 00:51:14- Why don't white people want to fix/dismantle the racist systems that they benefit from?
• 00:52:56- Black women do not feel protected by Black men.
• 00:58:06- Can the Black community do better as a collective?
• 01:03:02- Even when we fuck up, we should work together to heal and cancel culture.

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