Black girl, you know you can‘t do that: a look into the overly critical views of Black women in America

09/08/21 • 75 min

Have you ever been told by parents and loved ones: girl you can't do that, people will think you're ghetto and have no home training!

Black girls and boys spend their childhood learning how to behave and speak in public, school, work, and predominantly white spaces. As if who we are is tainted and not good enough. The history of America and its Black people is filled with images of promiscuous and angry Black women. For many of us, a few lessons on how NOT to be what the media portrays us is just as important as earning a college degree.

In this episode, the ladies of BWH discuss what contributes to or causes the overly critical views of Black women and girls. How these stereotypes affected them as children and adults. Why do White people refuse to "fix" what was created by their Ancestors, how Black men and women can heal and thrive as a collective.

Articles mentioned:

A.) The Misunderstood Schema of the Strong Black Woman: Exploring Its Mental Health Consequences and Coping Responses Among African American Women

B.) Frankly, We Do Give a Damn: The Relationship Between Profanity and Honesty

C.) Jim Crow Museum of racist memorabilia

D.) The Black Kings of Europe

Time Stamps

00:00:00- Intro
00:01:30- Listener Reviews and the Top Countries & States for August.
00:07:51- Black girl, you know you can't do that.
00:13:04-Articles and studies about profanity and Black women.
00:15:38- What contributes to the negative imagery of Black women?
00:19:19- Negative stereotypes Black children/young adults experience.
00:25:30- Embarrassing me in front of all these white people.
00:28:46- Oversexualization of Black girls and Black women.
00:33:34- The Black woman is the most disrespected in America.
00:39:43- The Black community is powerful; they just don't know it.
00:42:55- Societal pressures and body image.
00:48:20- So tired of being told what I can't do.
00:51:14- Why don't white people want to fix/dismantle the racist systems that they benefit from?
00:52:56- Black women do not feel protected by Black men.
00:58:06- Can the Black community do better as a collective?
01:03:02- Even when we fuck up, we should work together to heal and cancel culture.

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Have you ever been told by parents and loved ones: girl you can't do that, people will think you're ghetto and have no home training!

Articles mentioned:

A.) The Misunderstood Schema of the Strong Black Woman: Exploring Its Mental Health Consequences and Coping Responses Among African American Women

B.) Frankly, We Do Give a Damn: The Relationship Between Profanity and Honesty

C.) Jim Crow Museum of racist memorabilia

D.) The Black Kings of Europe

Time Stamps

00:00:00- Intro
00:01:30- Listener Reviews and the Top Countries & States for August.
00:07:51- Black girl, you know you can't do that.
00:13:04-Articles and studies about profanity and Black women.
00:15:38- What contributes to the negative imagery of Black women?
00:19:19- Negative stereotypes Black children/young adults experience.
00:25:30- Embarrassing me in front of all these white people.
00:28:46- Oversexualization of Black girls and Black women.
00:33:34- The Black woman is the most disrespected in America.
00:39:43- The Black community is powerful; they just don't know it.
00:42:55- Societal pressures and body image.
00:48:20- So tired of being told what I can't do.
00:51:14- Why don't white people want to fix/dismantle the racist systems that they benefit from?
00:52:56- Black women do not feel protected by Black men.
00:58:06- Can the Black community do better as a collective?
01:03:02- Even when we fuck up, we should work together to heal and cancel culture.

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-Follow on IG and tag us to let us know if you enjoyed today's episode!

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-Write to us at [email protected] with your questions or anonymously for BWH-Two Cents with letters about your own life experiences for a possible feature on the show!!!

Previous Episode

Spiritually stuck and sh*t: pushing past spiritual stagnation

Are you in a place spiritually where everything is okay on the surface level but, you're having difficulty tuning in spiritually? Yeah, us too! In this episode, the ladies discuss how it feels to not feel connected to God/Source/Universe for a short period or sometimes a long timeframe. What it's like when you feel like you can't tap into your spiritual gifts and you aren't receiving any messages from the other side. How they have and are currently getting through this period, imparting spiritual practices within their children, using the Universe's gift of nature, animals, and plants to get grounded again, and what they believe is happening during this period of silence or disconnection.

They also advise you, family, not to worry about your spouse's/partners spiritual journey/walk, lead by example, it's the greatest teacher.

Time Stamps:

00:02:55-Welcome Family to the show!

00:05:51-I just need a work Lord, please.

00:07:57-Fine-tuning your spiritual shit.

00:09:27-When the numerical synchronicities be synching.

00:11:28-Animals feeling it.

00:13:55-Working in a peopley environment & the need to get grounded.

00:15:33-Spirit is trying to ground you through nature/plants.

00:18:40-Spiritual practices that keep me grounded as a mom & wife.

00:30:05-I can show my spouse better than I can tell them.

00:32:07-Everyone won't see the vision & connecting with those who. vibrate on the same frequency.

00:40:21-What people say about you, isn't your business & social media is filtered.

00:42:00-Research the roots of your spiritual practices and religion.

00:44:36-Not cutting them soul ties fuck with your spiritual shit too.

00:47:38-Don't beat yourself up, shame & guilt in religious organizations, stay grounded.

00:50:05-We don't have to be perfect at it, for it to be effective.

00:54:40-Spiritual perfectionism that social media portrays and the societal matrix.

00:58:27-Technology is not natural & clearing spiritual stagnation.

01:11:05-Do what works for you without comparison.

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Important Shit:

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Next Episode

When you‘re in love with the lesson and not the blessing

You know how it is family; you meet someone, have a lot in common with this person, the two of you are having a blast, and then something triggers your red flag signals. You begin to see the signs you missed, and the veil is lifted. You feel like a fool and search for ways to disconnect from this person and cut the soul tie. Realizing they were sent as a lesson and the romantic relationship should have been severed many months or years ago.

Audio Time Stamps:

00:00:00- Intro
00:01:48- Goddam, I'm in love with the wrong m'fer.
00:02:32- I felt like a whole asshole.
00:07:18- My family tried to warn me and giving yourself grace.
00:12:28- Return to sender & wolves in sheep's clothing.
00:14:20- It's fun until it's not & ignoring the red flags.
00:23:35-Continuously falling for the b.s.
00:24:36- I wish my husband would.
00:29:14- Yeah, it hurts, but I had to touch it anyway.
00:31:01- Friend, you don't really want a solution.
00:36:06- Human love is so conditional.
00:37:28- The lessons hurt like a m'fer; but you'll grow out of it.
00:40:46- Benediction

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-Write to us at [email protected] with your questions or anonymously for BWH-Two Cents with letters about your own life experiences for a possible feature on the show!!!