Behind The Mask-ulinity
Christian Lopez
All episodes
Best episodes
Top 10 Behind The Mask-ulinity Episodes
Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best Behind The Mask-ulinity episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to Behind The Mask-ulinity for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite Behind The Mask-ulinity episode by adding your comments to the episode page.
From Hoop Dreams to The TED Stage with Pierce Brooks
Behind The Mask-ulinity
04/03/20 • 68 min
To join the conversation and be part of the community:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To connect with me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
Sports--baseball, basketball, football, hockey, soccer, tennis, golf--they're all around us. Well, not so much now with this Coronavirus pandemic going on.
Athletes are like gods to some of us. We study their every move, on the field and off the field, in order to model ourselves and our games after them in the hopes that we too will some day rise to the ranks of their greatness. We idolize them for their athleticism, physicality, determination, grit, motivation and work ethic.
But, what we rarely stop to think about is all the sacrifice, hard work, blood, sweat, tears and FAILURE that goes on behind the scenes that leads to their ultimate success.
We view these athletes as superhuman creatures who are different than us and are immune to the daily struggles us of mere mortals... but nothing could be further from the truth.
Join me as I sit down with Pierce Brooks--former basketball stud who had visions of playing in the NBA, scouts coming to his games, college coaches offering him scholarships as a high school freshman--as he opens up about going from feeling like he's on top of the basketball world to wanting nothing more than to put his career behind him.
Pierce is an empowerment speaker giving practical solutions for people to find meaning and lessons from trauma. He has transformed his career experience at CPG Brands and sports entertainment firms into a foundation for helping people across the professional and personal spectrum.
Growing Up Cuban with Jorge Emanuel Berrios
Behind The Mask-ulinity
03/18/20 • 105 min
To join the community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To connect with me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
"No llores coño, tu eres hombre!" aka "Don't cry damnit, you're a man!"
This is one of many phrases I heard growing up in a Cuban community in Miami, Florida, where if you're not Latino, you're a minority.
A community that is very big on masculinity, machismo and just men flaunting their peacock feathers to show how tough and manly they are. Where things like emotions and feelings and tears are reserved for women and children.
Where if you don't adhere to the strict rules of what it means to be a man, you run the risk of being labeled gay, feminine, weak, soft or many other disparaging insults that are thrown at men who dare venture into the softer side of being a man.
My guest Jorge Emanuel Berrios, like me, knows all about growing up in this macho atmosphere. An atmosphere where men are expected to take ownership of their women, expected to cheat on their women, and expected fight anyone who says otherwise.
Jorge is an actor, comedian and writer now residing in Los Angeles, California. He is part Cuban, part Puerto Rican. Join us as we reminisce on our lives of growing up Cuban and how those manly expectations shaped the men we are today. Listen in as Jorge shares some deeply intimate stories and feelings that he hasn't shared with many people, and how he's worked hard to become and express the man that he truly is and was born to be, and let's go of the man society told him he should be.
Why Gay Men May Be MORE Masculine Than Straight Men with Harry Lopez
Behind The Mask-ulinity
01/15/20 • 74 min
To join the community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To connect with me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
When we think of the ideal man, or when the archetypal man is pictured in movies or television, it's hardly, if ever, a gay man.
Why is that?
There are a ton of gay men who are brave, tough, can fight, are providers, protectors, the men of the house, can fix cars, are into sports and have a body like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his Mr. Olympia days.
For some reason, many people in our society view gay men as less than, as not enough, as flawed, as if there is something wrong with them and that they need to "pray the gay away" among other harmful and destructive things to make them a "real man".
What is a "real man" anyways?
Join me as I sit down with Harry Lopez and discuss how masculine norms and expectations of who a man should be not only negative impact straight, heterosexual men, but gay men as well, probably more so.
Harry is a personal and professional Success Coach, Consciousness Expert and entrepreneur. He writes and speak frequently on issues of personal an professional change, happiness, health and inspiration, mindful living and conscious business. He has coached and consulted leaders at Google, Amazon, Facebook and many other big companies.
But above all else, Harry is a very proud gay man.
Join us for this deep and intimate conversation.
What's Up with Bro Hugs?!
Behind The Mask-ulinity
12/05/19 • 32 min
To join our community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To connect with me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
What is a "bro hug"?
Urban Dictionary describes it as follows:
"A manly hug between two dudes who are cool with each other"... Isn't that just a regular hug? Aren't all hugs between people who are cool with each other?
"A manly and heterosexual hug between two bros"... What constitutes a "manly" hug? Can two gay bros not have a bro hug?
"An epic hug between brofriends"... What is a brofriend?? Aren't two males who are friends just simply friends?
Urban Dictionary also goes on to say there are a few ways to mess up a bro hug:
"Not being rigid or forceful enough." "Using both arms to hug (that's gay, bro)." REALLY? "Holding it too long (timing is everything, bro)." I don't know about you, but I love long embraces.
Since when did hugging become a thing that is only okay to do if you're a woman or a gay man? Hugging is one of the most intimate and human things we can do. It's one of the simplest and most meaningful ways to show love, intimacy and affection and to show someone that you're there for them, that you care, that they matter and that they're good enough.
It's not a gender or sexually-oriented thing, it's an every person thing! Hugs have so much power, they have the power to change someone's day, week, month, year or even life.
Join me as I discuss what hugs mean to me, why I love them so much, and how we need to make it okay for two heterosexual men to hug without feeling like they're any less of a man than they are.
From Foster Boy to Mature Man with Dimitri Dunn
Behind The Mask-ulinity
11/11/19 • 97 min
To join our community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To connect with me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
Did you ever have a dream growing up? Do you have dreams for your future right now? I think it's safe to say we all do. We all want to be the best we can be and make the best lives for ourselves.
That's exactly what Dimitri Dunn wanted as well. Only before he could figure out how to make his dreams come true, he first had to figure out how to survive. He had to figure out who he was, where he belonged and who the hell was on his team.
One of the most important things we can give a young person in their lives, whether a male or female, is love and care. Someone to show them that they matter, that they're worthy, that no matter what happens they'll always have that support system to catch them if they fall.
That is something Dimitri never really felt he had, at least not in any substantial way. It's something he's still struggling to find to this very day.
We all fall into the trap of complaining and nagging about certain things whether it's our job, our pay, our relationships or that the waiter got our order incorrect. But we hardly ever stop to realize just how damn lucky we already are to have the things we have, like food, water, shelter and a loving support system.
These are things that Dimitri was never really certain he'd have and if he did, he wasn't sure how long they would last.
Join Dimitri and I for a deep, intimate, vulnerable conversation as he tells us about his journey from foster youth, through boyhood and now to a young man, and all the ups and downs and lessons that he has learned along the way.
This conversation will fill you with a deep sense of gratitude.
From Caveman, To Brave Man with Dr. John Schinnerer
Behind The Mask-ulinity
09/19/19 • 68 min
To join our community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To message me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
Yes, it is true, we evolved from apes and animals. Yes, it is true, we learned how to behave and think in certain ways in order to survive and thrive and make sure that our genetics carry on when we're gone.
But, it is also true that we are almost in the year 2020! We have evolved as a species and as a culture, but we haven't evolved as much as humans and as individual men. We no longer need to be on the lookout for the dangers that once plagued us. We no longer have a need for the irrational fears that plague us on a daily basis.
There are so many men out there--I used to be one--that feel they still need to solely be that tough, macho, protector, defender, hunter, fighter that we once all were expected and needed to be. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being all these things, but why can't we be more?
Why do we just have to be relegated to what someone decided men are supposed to think, speak and act like? Why can't we evolve just like all forms of life do over time? Why can't we dig deep into who we really are and bring that truth to the forefront instead of living a superficial life?
Join me as I have a conversation with Dr. John Schinnerer about how we can all dig a little deeper, be a little more honest, mindful and vulnerable, and be better men.
Dr. Schinnerer graduated from UC Berkeley with a PhD in educational psychology. His areas of expertise range from high performance, to stress and anger management, to positive psychology, to creating happy and thriving relationships. He wrote the award-winning book "How Can I Be Happy?" He was an expert consultant on the Academy Award-winning Pixar movie "Inside Out". He is the host of the Evolved Caveman podcast.
What's So Toxic About Masculinity?
Behind The Mask-ulinity
09/11/19 • 32 min
To join our community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To message me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
You hear the argument quite a bit these days:
"Masculinity is not toxic! What's so toxic about being a man?! We can't teach our little boys that being a man is wrong!"
I hear you, and I don't disagree with you. There is nothing wrong with being masculine or being a man, nothing at all. What's wrong about providing for your family? What's wrong with protecting your family? What's wrong with being tough, brave and figuring stuff out on your own without any help? Nothing. Could we come up with a better term? Probably.
I believe the interpretation of "toxic masculinity" is what is a bit skewed. Those who speak up about it aren't saying that masculinity as a whole is bad... at least I hope they're not. What they are arguing is that teaching our young boys that this is the ONLY way to be a real man is detrimental to their emotional health. By burdening them with these essentially unattainable expectations, we fill them with the sense that if they fall short of our expectations of what a man should be then they're not good enough to call themselves men.
Telling someone they're not good enough just the way they are can do nothing but harm.
Masculinity is not toxic, even females embody some masculine traits... and men embody some female traits. Surprise!
What is toxic is imposing our will and expectations on these young men and sticking them in these "man boxes" that hinder their true growth rather than promote it.
Taking A Leap Of Fatih
Behind The Mask-ulinity
10/22/21 • 42 min
To join the community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To connect with me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
**************************************************
I'm happy to announce that I have signed on for a partnership/sponsorship with BetterHelp.
BetterHelp is an online portal that provides direct-to-consumer access to behavioral health services.
As much as I care about mental health, especially when it comes to men, I am not a licensed mental health professional nor will I ever claim to be (unless I become one someday).
But, I do 100% believe in the power of counseling, therapy, coaching or any service that provides you with a knowledgable individual who will be there to listen to you, especially in tough times.
I have become a user of BetterHelp myself and have gotten massive benefit out of it by getting paired with my ideal licensed expert who has immeasurably helped me with my own fears and insecurities that I've struggled with.
If you feel like you can use someone to talk to, BetterHelp is offering you, a Behind The Mask-ulinity Podcast listener, 10% off your first month if you sign up using this link:
BetterHelp.com/BehindTheMaskulinity
**************************************************
Have you ever wanted to make a move in your life--in work, in relationships, in physical fitness, in nutrition, anywhere--but were paralyzed by fear?
The fear of failure, uncertainty, not being good enough, what other people will think or say. A fear and hesitation that is so palpable that you can feel it and it ruminates in your mind non-top.
Have you ever faced that fear right in the face and said "fuck it" and just took that leap of faith anyways?
Listen in to this solo episode as I discuss a recent decision I made and leap of faith I took that scared the crap out of me for many months... and what happened when I finally took that leap.
It's good to be back recording an episode after a couple months off!
Why Men Don't Ask For Help... And Why We Should
Behind The Mask-ulinity
12/27/19 • 35 min
To join our community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Provate Facebook Group
To connect with me directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
Why is it so hard for us men to ask for help? Because "being a man" means being self-reliant, independent, a lone wolf and having all the answers to every question, and if you don't have the answers to every question, you do everything you can to find that answer and figure it out--on your own!
You do everything you can to figure it out EXCEPT taking someone else for advice, guidance or assistance in any way at all. That's what it means, according to our culture, to be a real man. A John Wayne, James Bond, Superman, Batman type of man. A man that doesn't get too caught up in is feelings but instead judges himself based on how much ass he can kick and how many bad guys he can defeat.
But, sometimes the toughest bad guy we can face is the bad guy staring back at us from the other side of the mirror.
When we really stop to think about it, even these epitomes of machoness had help. John Wayne had Doc, James Bond had Q, Superman had Lois Lane, and Batman had Robin. Whether a friend to talk to, words of encouragement, someone to share a softer side with, or someone to help defeat enemies, all these tough guys had help... and they weren't afraid to ask for it.
Join me as I discuss the importance of asking for help and how not doing so--and instead sticking to these outdated and damaging rules of masculinity and machismo--are causing us more harm than we may realize.
A Man's Guide To Meditation and 5 Benefits
Behind The Mask-ulinity
05/09/20 • 46 min
To join the community and be part of the conversation:
Behind The Mask-ulinity Private Facebook Group
To connect with directly:
E-Mail Me: [email protected] or Instagram Me
What are some of the thoughts that come to your mind when you hear the word meditation?
"It's too woo-woo... it's too 'out there'... it's for hippies... it's boring... I don't have time... I can't sit still... I'm not spiritual... it's for women... it's too feminine"?
Trust me, I get it. Those are the same thoughts, along with many others, that I had when I first heard about and was approached about meditation. It just wasn't for me.
But, I changed my mind once I gave it an honest shot and put those presumptions in the back seat. What I found that there are some legit benefits that mediation can offer, and not just anecdotal benefits, but benefits backed by science, study and research.
Join me in this solo episode as I give you my top five benefits of a meditation practice, a few ways to mediate without sitting in silence, some apps to get you started, and how you may even be meditating already without even realizing it.
The key to meditation is not to sit in silence without a single thought entering your mind, that's impossible! The key is to keep coming back to the present moment over and over and over. That is how you build mindfulness, which in my opinion is the best thing that meditation develops.
Show more best episodes
Show more best episodes
FAQ
How many episodes does Behind The Mask-ulinity have?
Behind The Mask-ulinity currently has 80 episodes available.
What topics does Behind The Mask-ulinity cover?
The podcast is about Courage, Health & Fitness, Empathy, Man, Mental Health, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education and Men.
What is the most popular episode on Behind The Mask-ulinity?
The episode title 'How To Build True, Long-Lasting Confidence' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Behind The Mask-ulinity?
The average episode length on Behind The Mask-ulinity is 60 minutes.
How often are episodes of Behind The Mask-ulinity released?
Episodes of Behind The Mask-ulinity are typically released every 7 days, 1 hour.
When was the first episode of Behind The Mask-ulinity?
The first episode of Behind The Mask-ulinity was released on Jul 26, 2019.
Show more FAQ
Show more FAQ