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Allyship is a Verb

Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them)

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People want to do better, but they don’t always know how. Allyship is a Verb is a 3x award-nominated podcast featuring conversations with LGBTQ+ community members of various lived experiences and backgrounds who share their stories and an allyship tip. The host is a silly, warm human who offers self-reflection questions and voiceovers to help deepen the learning for listeners. The host is Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), who has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/allyship-is-a-verb/support
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01/04/22 • 59 min

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Do you know how to actively listen? In this week’s episode, Dr. Leah Tidey (she/her) shares about how her definition of bisexuality has evolved since she first claimed it at the age of 12. Learn how intersections of bisexuality and consensual non-monogamy have created stigma she’s been pushing against. We also discuss Robyn Och’s definition of bisexuality and how Leah’s work as a sexual health educator can be tricky in terms of how much of herself she feel comfortable sharing with her students or overall in certain spaces due to bisexual erasure and biphobia. Have you ever wondered why people may use the term “partner”? Leah talks about how she doesn’t want to deceive people and doesn’t feel she is; she’s intentional about how it’s encompassing as a term and moves way from traditions we may have been taught, while recognizing the privilege in feeling comfortable enough to use it. We also talk about how COVID-19 and the pandemic overall has brought about lots of conversations that the polyamorous community has already been having for a long time related to bubbles and who we are seeing and when.

  1. Do you know anyone who practices ethical or consensual non-monogamy?
  2. If you know about it, where did you get your information from?
  3. Have you heard about it in any of your classes or throughout your education?
  4. Do any shows, movies, or other media you consume accurately portray it? Is it made to be a joke?
  5. Do you know of any love songs that aren’t strictly for monogamous couples?
  6. If you know of anyone who practices it, do you make sure to invite all of their partners to outings or events?
  7. If you don’t practice it yourself, have you examined your own beliefs around it and done your own research?

Resources, references, and full transcripts for each episode are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

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01/04/22 • 59 min

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04/12/22 • 47 min

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This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat

Do you support queer businesses? In this week’s episode, Charlie Sprinkman (he/they) talks about growing up in "small-town vibes" Wisconsin and how it's important for people to find the best language for themselves. Learn about what happened when he came out during the Trump administration. We also discuss how important it is to make things better broadly for future generations and nerd out over the power of LGBTQ+ camps like Brave Trails. Charlie talks about their resource, Everywhere is Queer, and how they got the inspiration for it while driving home from Brave Trails. He also talks about voice dysphoria, traveling across 40+ states, and what queer spaces can do for people. Self-reflection:

  1. Have I ever been in a queer space? What did that feel like for me?
  2. How would it feel for me or people I care about to have access to more queer spaces?
  3. Do I know who owns the businesses I support?
  4. Are there spaces I feel safer in? How often do I have access to them?
  5. Have I ever experienced voice dysphoria?
  6. When’s the last time I questioned my identities?

Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com/episodes/charlie-sprinkman

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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04/12/22 • 47 min

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04/26/22 • 86 min

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This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat

Are you open to other's paths? In this week’s episode, Dominic (he/him) talks about the first time he got hit on by a girl and how that started his sexuality (and later gender) journey. Learn about what shifts occurred in his life as he started to be read as a man in society and some decisions he's made as a result, including going stealth. We also discuss how he told his mom he's a trans man and some of her initial reactions. Dominic talks about how he's felt in LGBTQ+ spaces over the years and how he kind of misses them but it would contradict his decision to be private. He also talks about co-running a support group and some of the stressful moments that have come about as a result.

  1. When did I first hear about the LGBTQ+ community? Was it a positive experience?
  2. Has anyone ever come out to me? Looking back, did I potentially ask any invasive questions?
  3. Have I ever dated anyone who is trans? If not, would I be open to it? Why or why not?
  4. If I have a transgender friend and/or loved one in my life, do I make sure people know they are trans when talking about them or introducing them? Why?
  5. Have I checked in broadly with my friends to understand their boundaries?
  6. Have I ever dated anyone who is trans? If not, would I be open to it? Why or why not?

Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com/episodes/dominic

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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04/26/22 • 86 min

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08/16/22 • 60 min

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Content warning for mentions of George Floyd's murder and generally sensitive topics without details.

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Listen to minorities and thank them. In this week’s episode, Ra Ra Rollins (he/him) shares why he claims “queer” and “gay” and the difference in meaning for him between the two terms. He ponders if he’s Black first or gay, queer first, especially since not all spaces see him as a whole person with various, complex identities. Learn about how his work can be triggering as a Black therapist and what it means for him to hold space for clients at some of his same intersections. We also discuss how he pushed back in his grad school program because he learned from white professors who talked about white theorists and had white supervisors while seeing white clients. Despite that, he did gain two incredible mentors and friends for life. Ra Ra reclaims his energy by practicing boundaries, which did not come naturally to him, including by shutting down nearly all of his social media. There's also some discussion around rules and how he liberates himself from rules that don’t work or honor him. Some self-reflection:

  1. What’s the first physical thing I notice about people when I first meet them or see them?
  2. What’s the first physical thing people tend to notice about me?
  3. Do I notice who is not in the room or being represented at work or at times when big decisions are being made?
  4. At what age did I first hear an LGBTQ+ slur? Who said it? Which slur was it?
  5. Do I have access to a therapist who represents me?
  6. What are rules I follow that don’t serve me?

Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com/episode/ra-ra-rollins

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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08/16/22 • 60 min

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Do you talk over marginalized communities? In this week’s episode, Mon Malanovich-Gallagher (they/them) shares about being an LGBTQI+ speaker and facilitator and what some of their experience as an introvert can look like, including introducing the term “anchor.” Learn why they left Poland and the importance of language including identities that reflect our experience. We also discuss employment diversity questions and how data matters while recognizing the privilege of being able to answer as honestly as possible. Have you ever wondered why there’s gatekeeping within the broader LGBTQ+ community and subgroups? Mon talks about how we should be able to claim our own identities and that what we land on feels right to us as individuals without trying to fit any “standards.” We also discuss what it might look like to queer-ify relationships, an example of a supportive pronoun question, and being aware of our impact on and how we show up for marginalized communities. Some self-reflection:

  1. Do I attend educational or speaker events for marginalized communities?
  2. Have I thought about my identities recently, and if they still fit?
  3. What kind of changes might I want to make to my relationships? How might I want to redefine them?
  4. Do you think you could be an anchor for someone if they needed that?
  5. Have you ever thought about what you might need in a space or at an event to be more comfortable?
  6. Do you know when to stand in front of, next to, or behind marginalized communities?

Resources, references, and full transcripts for each episode are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Please consider following where you listen to podcasts! Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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02/15/22 • 59 min

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Listen to listen, not to respond! This week, Lianna Newman (name only) expands on carving out space in STEM, finding community, and creating resources. In this episode, you will learn 1. Some changes we'd like to see in tech. 2. The complexities of gender-neutral vs gendered awards. 3. How to use no pronouns and what we mean when we ask someone for their pronouns in the first place.

Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com/episode/lianna-newman

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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03/14/23 • 57 min

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Do you validate other people's experiences? In this week’s episode, Chris Tompkins (he/him) shares about being an LGBTQ inner advocate and practicing allyship toward himself. Learn how he found his way to sobriety while acknowledging that AA isn't for everyone. We also discuss the term "Guncle" and how being one was part of the inspiration for his book, Raising LGBTQ Allies. Have you ever heard of "machismo?" Chris talks about how it influences Latin American culture and what it meant for the messages he received as a young gay child. We also discuss what it's like sharing our stories on PFLAG panels, spirituality, and how heteronormativity is a lot like humidity...!
Some self-reflection:

1. Do I make space for people in my life who are sober?

2. Are there many events near me that don’t revolve around or include alcohol?

3. Do I attend any events called happy hour, whether or not anyone drinks?

4. Has someone ever applied silver lining to a hardship I was experiencing? How did it feel for me?

5. What messages did I receive on the playground?

6. Does where I live accurately portray the world around me? Or are there filters?

Resources, references, and full transcripts for each episode are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Please consider following where you listen to podcasts! Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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02/01/22 • 49 min

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03/15/22 • 61 min

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This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat/

Do you have a learner’s mindset? In this week’s episode, Nick Daily (he/they) shares about what sparked the daily reminders he posts to Instagram to inspire others. Learn about why they’re learning to say “no” and what it means with the nuance of being Black, among their other identities, and practices like not working on their birthday. We also discuss the silliness of people and companies requesting Black History Month and Pride Month events not soon enough. Please request them much, much sooner and not during the actual month! Nick talks about what queer leadership means to him and how he doesn’t believe that our way to freedom and liberation is through the disposability of people. Some self-reflection:

  1. What do you think queer leadership means?
  2. Have you ever called someone in or out?
  3. Have you ever been told that you’re not like the others? Others being a particular group you may identify with or belong to.
  4. Do I have a learner’s mindset? If I don’t, is that a value I’d like to adopt?
  5. Do I know of anyone in my life or follow anyone online who is intersex?
  6. Do I treat certain people as if they are disposable? If so, how have I justified that?

Resources, references, and full transcripts for each episode are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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03/15/22 • 61 min

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03/29/22 • 48 min

This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIP
The Trans Day of Visibility: Nonbinary Visibility panel is now available to watch here: https://youtu.be/mYPQBrBvwrc

Do you do the work? In this week’s episode, Katrina Strohl (they/she/he) talks about why they freely share their identities and how they want to be centered as a person versus their identities when brought up in conversations. Learn about what a "safety pause" is and some tips on how you may be able to support someone if it comes up in any of your conversations. We also discuss how she has a great practice of sending follow-up emails after networking calls by recalling what was discussed and any next steps. Furthermore, he's amassed a huge list of resources across various topics if folks need more support than he's able to provide related to what came up in the call. Katrina talks about how it feels when people mistake them for an ally of groups they belong to and how they came across the word bisexual thanks to the show A Shot at Love With Tila Tequila, although they're now using queer. Some self-reflection:

  1. When I think of a queer person, who do I see?
  2. When I think of a veteran, who do I see?
  3. When I think about mental health conditions, who do I see?
  4. Do you have any pictures in your mind you need to update?
  5. Have you ever done a safety pause?
  6. Is there any allyship work you’ve been avoiding doing? And if so, why?

Resources, references, and full transcripts are available at https://www.allyshipisaverb.com/episodes/katrina-strohl

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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03/29/22 • 48 min

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Do you show up in LGBTQ+ spaces with a sense of humor? In this week’s episode, Jaffe (she/her) shares the origins of her drag show, Them Fatale Drag Kings. Learn how she claims the terms "lesbian" and "queer." We also discuss the Los Angeles queer bar scene when we were in our early 20’s and how it is present day. Have you ever wondered if you’re welcome to an LGBTQ+ space as someone not from the community? Jaffe talks about how it’s important to have a sense of humor when entering such spaces. We also get vulnerable about how when I was first coming out under the transgender umbrella, our friendship was put to the test and that she would do things much differently today. Some self-reflection:

1. Do I have any transgender people in my life who I’ve asked invasive questions, especially about their body?

2. Have I ever made any in-community jokes from a community I didn’t belong to?

3. Have I ever had a hard time with someone "coming out" to me or inviting me in to who they are?

4. Have I apologized for any mistakes I may have made? Do I know what to do differently moving forward?

5. Would I ever go to and support a drag show if I haven’t already?

6. Do I know how drag performers are different from people who are transgender?

Resources, references, and full transcripts for each episode are available at www.allyshipisaverb.com

Host Chris Angel (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities.

Please consider following where you listen to podcasts! Keep the conversation going on Instagram @GenderSexualityInfo

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01/18/22 • 48 min

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How many episodes does Allyship is a Verb have?

Allyship is a Verb currently has 62 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Podcasts, Self-Improvement and Education.

What is the most popular episode on Allyship is a Verb?

The episode title 'Do you know how to actively listen? feat. Dr. Leah Tidey' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on Allyship is a Verb?

The average episode length on Allyship is a Verb is 49 minutes.

How often are episodes of Allyship is a Verb released?

Episodes of Allyship is a Verb are typically released every 13 days, 23 hours.

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The first episode of Allyship is a Verb was released on Jul 10, 2021.

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