Stealth Mode Activated: Living as a Trans Man in Private feat. Dominic

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04/26/22 • 86 min

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This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat

In this week’s episode, Dominic (he/him) talks about the first time he got hit on by a girl and how that started his sexuality (and later gender) journey. Learn about what shifts occurred in his life as he started to be read as a man in society and some decisions he's made as a result, including going stealth. We also discuss how he told his mom he's a trans man and some of her initial reactions. Dominic talks about how he's felt in LGBTQ+ spaces over the years and how he kind of misses them but it would contradict his decision to be private. He also talks about co-running a support group and some of the stressful moments that have come about as a result.

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Everywhere is Queer: Mapping Our Vibrant Businesses feat. Charlie Sprinkman

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This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat

In this week’s episode, Charlie Sprinkman (he/they) talks about growing up in "small-town vibes" Wisconsin and how it's important for people to find the best language for themselves. Learn about what happened when he came out during the Trump administration. We also discuss how important it is to make things better broadly for future generations and nerd out over the power of LGBTQ+ camps like Brave Trails. Charlie talks about their resource, Everywhere is Queer, and how they got the inspiration for it while driving home from Brave Trails. He also talks about voice dysphoria, traveling across 40+ states, and what queer spaces can do for people.

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💻 Sources and resources from this episode:

Refuge Restrooms
ACLU | Grimm V. Gloucester County School Board
Gavin Grimm’s Twitter
Now Use Yelp to Find Gender-neutral Restrooms
Yelp makes it easy to support LGBTQ-owned businesses, and find “Open to All” places to celebrate Pride
Brave Trails Forever Home Details + Fundraiser (also links to their programs)
Gender Sexuality Info’s list of LGBTQ+ Camps for Youth, Adults, and Families (this is a resource by Charlie)
Pattie Gonia | Environmentalist Drag Queen who recently co-founded The Oath
MKE Black | Milwaukee’s Black-owned Business Directory

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Experiencing "Bless Your Heart" Homophobia in the South feat. Destiny Clarke

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In this week’s episode, Destiny Clarke (who now uses she/they pronouns) talks about why they left teaching in the classroom to pursue a career in providing teachers with LGBTQ+ inclusive education. We discuss how living in North Carolina as a pansexual person isn't exactly easy and some surprising spaces and communities where she's found support. Learn what they call "bless your heart homophobia" and what that can look like in the South. Destiny explains how her gender expression has evolved over the years and how good it's felt to get support from her current partner. Learn about the 3 times she's started a Gender and Sexuality Alliance (GSA) club in her schools and how each time was different, including how she handled an instance of a parent pushing back.

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