Your Clothes Are Gay: Well, of Course. It's Because I'm Queer feat. Mon Malanovich-Gallagher

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02/15/22 • 59 min

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In this week’s episode, Mon Malanovich-Gallagher (they/them) shares about being an LGBTQI+ speaker and facilitator and what some of their experience as an introvert can look like, including introducing the term “anchor.” Learn why they left Poland and the importance of language including identities that reflect our experience. We also discuss employment diversity questions and how data matters while recognizing the privilege of being able to answer as honestly as possible. Have you ever wondered why there’s gatekeeping within the broader LGBTQ+ community and subgroups? Mon talks about how we should be able to claim our own identities and that what we land on feels right to us as individuals without trying to fit any “standards.” We also discuss what it might look like to queer-ify relationships, an example of a supportive pronoun question, and being aware of our impact on and how we show up for marginalized communities.

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MindOut UK

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

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MindOut UK

Previous Episode

Happy Hour Culture: Confronting Alcohol in LGBTQ+ Spaces feat. Chris Tompkins

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In this week’s episode, Chris Tompkins (he/him) shares about being an LGBTQ inner advocate and practicing allyship toward himself. Learn how he found his way to sobriety while acknowledging that AA isn't for everyone. We also discuss the term "Guncle" and how being one was part of the inspiration for his book, Raising LGBTQ Allies. Have you ever heard of "machismo?" Chris talks about how it influences Latin American culture and what it meant for the messages he received as a young gay child. We also discuss what it's like sharing our stories on PFLAG panels, spirituality, and how heteronormativity is a lot like humidity...!

🎙️ Connect with Chris to learn more about + support his work:

💻 Sources and resources from this episode:

Code-switching: How BAME and LGBT people 'blend in'
PFLAG National
Make Sure Your Child’s School Is Safe For LGBTQ+ Students & Families––Here’s How written by Chris Tompkins
Chris’ interview with Melinda Wenner Moyer - How to be an LGBTQ-affirming parent
What children learn from the things they aren't told | Chris Tompkins | TEDxCSULB
Raising LGBTQ Allies - book
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Unplugging from the Matrix: Finding Freedom as Trans feat. Trystan Reese

In this week’s episode, Trystan Reese (he/him) shares about his days of being a drag king and how he's been performing as a man since he was a kid. Learn about some of the practices he's adopted to check in with his colleagues so that they're in a continuous feedback loop, including addressing power dynamics and microaggressions. We also discuss a bit of what it's like to be trainers and consultants and the work that goes into it, including figuring out our boundaries and doing the work to know how to facilitate conversations. Trystan talks about how moved he was by Alok's talk on the podcast Man Enough and how well they were able to articulate thoughts that have been circling in his own mind.

🎙️ Connect with Trystan to learn more about + support their work:

Website
LinkedIn
Collaborate Consulting, LLC
How We Do Family: From Adoption to Trans Pregnancy, What We Learned about Love and LGBTQ Parenthood - Trystan’s book!
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💻 Sources and resources from this episode:

Alok: The Urgent Need for Compassion | The Man Enough Podcast
Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. - one of Brené Brown’s books
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ACT UP
Activism After Stonewall - learn more about the Gay Liberation Front