
Conscious Parenting - How do we show up for ourselves and our family?
11/17/20 • 67 min
During this episode of A Richer Life, host Rich Weingart speaks with Dr. Alana Lopez, Licensed Psychologist and Parent Coach with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and a PhD in Pediatric Psychology. Dr. Alana Lopez talks about her inspirations for embracing conscious parenting, how it has influenced her professional work and her own parenting strategies, and how she goes about working with families.
Episode Highlights:
- Rich Weingart introduces Dr. Alana Lopez.
- Dr. Alana Lopez opens up about her early journey learning what it means to be a conscious parent.
- We have to do the inner work first for conscious parenting.
- What was the area of her life that she felt stuck in originally regarding parenting?
- What is the ‘dial’ for Dr. Alana Lopez that makes her days graceful?
- In the midst of all of our ‘doing,’ we have to incorporate ‘being’ to recharge.
- The importance of parenting with power and grace.
- What is the conscious parenting approach that Dr. Alana Lopez uses when she is working with families?
- We can get too caught up in labels for our kids and ourselves.
- Honor where you are at in the moment without judgement.
- 90% of the time we are just going through life based on old habits.
- Don’t be afraid to show your kid that you are not perfect.
- What does she mean by ‘space creator?’
- Parents should be the ultimate safety signal.
- What does Dr. Alana Lopez mean by being an ‘energy shifter,’ ‘emotion detective,’ ‘connection maker,’ and ‘accountability partner’?
- What advice does Dr. Alana Lopez have for parents that feel like they are failing?
3 Key Points:
- The book that helped to transform Dr. Alana Lopez is The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabary.
- Honor your child that stands before you and make sure their voice is being heard and understood.
- We can sit with our feelings and acknowledge them and open up the door to new possibilities.
Tweetable Quotes:
- “I really decided at that point, like, I have a son coming into the world and I want to be all-in. In order for me to be all-in, I have to take care of myself. I have to be in touch with myself and really get back to the roots of what's important.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “We are all humans in this together. We all have a story to tell that is so worthy and deserving of being heard.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “Our children are our teachers and they are here for a reason. It is so powerful just to see your child through that fresh lens." – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “I think for me, the biggest ‘aha’ in that area was what was my relationship with my emotions were, and to really look at that relationship. That relationship is very heavily influenced by how we were raised.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “It is finding refuge in the simple things, like just taking a nap or just sitting with your child on the couch, with no TV.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “Great parenting is not about doing things quote-unquote ‘right’ or not yelling. It is about getting curious about what triggers us, knowing why we fall back into old patterns without self-judgement, making a conscious effort to try something different.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
Resources Mentioned:
During this episode of A Richer Life, host Rich Weingart speaks with Dr. Alana Lopez, Licensed Psychologist and Parent Coach with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and a PhD in Pediatric Psychology. Dr. Alana Lopez talks about her inspirations for embracing conscious parenting, how it has influenced her professional work and her own parenting strategies, and how she goes about working with families.
Episode Highlights:
- Rich Weingart introduces Dr. Alana Lopez.
- Dr. Alana Lopez opens up about her early journey learning what it means to be a conscious parent.
- We have to do the inner work first for conscious parenting.
- What was the area of her life that she felt stuck in originally regarding parenting?
- What is the ‘dial’ for Dr. Alana Lopez that makes her days graceful?
- In the midst of all of our ‘doing,’ we have to incorporate ‘being’ to recharge.
- The importance of parenting with power and grace.
- What is the conscious parenting approach that Dr. Alana Lopez uses when she is working with families?
- We can get too caught up in labels for our kids and ourselves.
- Honor where you are at in the moment without judgement.
- 90% of the time we are just going through life based on old habits.
- Don’t be afraid to show your kid that you are not perfect.
- What does she mean by ‘space creator?’
- Parents should be the ultimate safety signal.
- What does Dr. Alana Lopez mean by being an ‘energy shifter,’ ‘emotion detective,’ ‘connection maker,’ and ‘accountability partner’?
- What advice does Dr. Alana Lopez have for parents that feel like they are failing?
3 Key Points:
- The book that helped to transform Dr. Alana Lopez is The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabary.
- Honor your child that stands before you and make sure their voice is being heard and understood.
- We can sit with our feelings and acknowledge them and open up the door to new possibilities.
Tweetable Quotes:
- “I really decided at that point, like, I have a son coming into the world and I want to be all-in. In order for me to be all-in, I have to take care of myself. I have to be in touch with myself and really get back to the roots of what's important.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “We are all humans in this together. We all have a story to tell that is so worthy and deserving of being heard.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “Our children are our teachers and they are here for a reason. It is so powerful just to see your child through that fresh lens." – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “I think for me, the biggest ‘aha’ in that area was what was my relationship with my emotions were, and to really look at that relationship. That relationship is very heavily influenced by how we were raised.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “It is finding refuge in the simple things, like just taking a nap or just sitting with your child on the couch, with no TV.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
- “Great parenting is not about doing things quote-unquote ‘right’ or not yelling. It is about getting curious about what triggers us, knowing why we fall back into old patterns without self-judgement, making a conscious effort to try something different.” – Dr. Alana Lopez
Resources Mentioned:
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Tweetable Quotes:
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