Your ADHD Besties

Grace Koelma & Tara Breuso

Your ADHD Besties is a podcast for people who are underwhelmed, overwhelmed and very attractive all at the same time... people who put the BDE in ADHD. ❤️‍🔥 Your hosts are besties Grace Koelma (founder of Future ADHD) and Tara Breuso (The ADHD Dietitian). Join us for episodes every Thursday where we unmask together and discuss your juuuuicy ADHD dilemmas.
Submit your divergent dilemma via our website 😎 adhdbesties.com
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3. ADHD & friendships: what is rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) and why does it HURT?

Your ADHD Besties

04/25/24 • 41 min

Hellooo besties! ✨
On today's show:
• We're overwhelmed at how amazing the response has been to our first 2 eps!!! 😭 THANK YOU SO MUCH to everyone who's reviewed and rated the podcast, we're obsessed with you guys ❤️‍🔥
• We recommend our fave TV shows this week (and worry about what happens if AI is better at being a human than us?? 🤖)
• Dilemma #1 - A 27yo listener living at home is struggling with her parent's approach to her ADHD and wondering how to advocate for herself.
• Dilemma #2 - We answer a question about RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) & friendships in the workplace. We talk about how to distance yourself from your RSD and observe it, instead of over-identifying with the strong emotions and letting them swallow you 🫠
• Ireggy Seggy: we play one of our fave games, 'Pipe Dream', where we hypothesise what life would be like if we could actually follow through on our lofty aspirations 🧘‍♀️🚴
🕺🏻🪩 We made you an ADHD emoji guide FREEBIE! Get it here ⤵️ https://adhdbesties.com/free-emoji-guide/
Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD personal stories

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Keywords: ADHD women’s podcast, ADHD for women, ADHD in women, ADHD support for women, ADHD empowerment, ADHD tips for women, ADHD self-care, ADHD strategies for women, neurodivergent women’s experiences, ADHD mental health for women, ADHD personal stories, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD focus tips, ADHD executive functioning, ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), ADHD coping strategies, ADHD and motherhood, ADHD treatment for women, women’s ADHD podcast, ADHD medication for women, ADHD wellness for women, ADHD community for women, women with ADHD support, ADHD resources for women, ADHD and anxiety in women, ADHD podcast for neurodivergent women.

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27. "My ADHD makes me feel so broken and I can't stop negative thinking!" 😭

Your ADHD Besties

10/10/24 • 52 min

Hi ADHD besties! This is our LAST episode of SEASON 1! After this ep, we are taking a teeny tiny break and will be back with our usual episode the Thursday after next... PLUS we have some very exciting news! 👀
This week we're overstimulated by kids parties and raising boys (boy parents will agree that it's a never ending bucks party!) 🙃
Dilemma:
A gorgeous neurotypical listener asks how he can support his ADHD girlfriend, especially with her negative self talk and internalised ableism. 👩‍❤️‍👨
We discuss:
- How cycles of negative self talk are conditioned in childhood and can become increasingly savage and disollusioning.
- How a partner/friend can help their negative partner by reflecting their thoughts back to them, and helping them get some perspective.
- Grace shares the biggest shifts in her journey with negative self talk and why taking ownership helped hugely.
- Creating space between our thoughts and ourselves and recognising unconscious thought patterns.
- The neurobiology of the brain and why we get stuck in negative thought patterns.
- We look at the concept of 'clickbait thoughts' and question whether thoughts are helpful, instead of whether they're true.
RECS:
- Grace has another questionable rec that Tara is convinced that she came up with 5 minutes prior to recording
- Tara recommends the book 'The Happiness Trap' by Russ Harris
Ireggy Seggy:
This week we're playing 'Good words, Bad words': is it an auditory stim or does it make you feel like peeling your ears off? 🫣
Don't RSD loves!
Tara & Grace xx

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2. "My boyfriend doesn't believe I have ADHD"

Your ADHD Besties

04/19/24 • 52 min

Heyyy ADHD besties! 🫠👯
On today's show;
• We discuss our obsession with god-tier frozen Indian food and why Depop is lifeee.
• Answer a dilemma that navigates the minefield of RSD and what to do when friends don't respond to texts
• Our second dilemm is super serious in nature... we look at why clicking pens is akin to torture and ask the all-important question: should she steal the pen? (vote in our Insta poll!)
• Dilemma no. 3 - "my boyfriend doesn't believe I have ADHD" 🥸 *cue boo from the crowd* - we discuss how ADHD traits aren't always consistent and that's actually exactly what ADHD looks like.
• Ireggy Seggy: In this ireggy seggy we shudder over sensory icks... or are they dicks? and Grace outs herself as the only existing millennial top sheet enthusiast 😱
We love you and your superior brains that don't work very well
- 👩🏻‍🦱 Tara & 👱🏻‍♀️ Grace x
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Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD personal stories

19. ADHD: Weight & Eating (Part 1)

Your ADHD Besties

08/14/24 • 42 min

Hi bestie babessss! In today's episode:
• Grace can’t buy steak, we talk about we need to take a break from acrylics, and how this is hard for our dermatillomania (skin picking).

• Divergent Dilemma #1 - we answer Jemima's question about ADHD and eating, she struggles with binge eating and feeling self-conscious about her weight. We discuss weight stigma, separating self worth and weight, weight-science -using more clear measures of health. We also touch on restriction mentality and how this can so easily lead to binge eating in women with ADHD.
IREGGY SEGGY:
• We are still riding the high of reading ADHD reddit threads.
We have dogs laughing at us, accidental DIY/accents, arms in bins and most importantly we ask the question: how many days is too many days to eat an errant hand bag donut?
RECOMMENDATIONS:
• Tara recommends hair skin and nail gummies to keep those nails strong and less likely to be picked at
• Grace recommends a supermarket shopping hack for ADHD brains that even the most inattentive brains won’t ‘rump’.
We will be back in those stunning👂's next THURSDAY
LOVE LOVE LOVEEEEE
Tara & Grace xx
(don't RSD)

13. ADHD: periods, hormones & PMDD

Your ADHD Besties

06/19/24 • 66 min

Hellooo dopamine-deficient dream boats 🛥️❤️‍🔥
In today's episode:
• We share our thought provoking (see: unhinged) ADHD thoughts of the week.
Open-plan homes; beautiful? Sure! But are they practical for our over-stimulated brains? Eyelid skin; Does it have a neck-skin-level of significance?
• Divergent Dilemma #1 - We discuss dyscalculia, a stand-alone neurotype which commonly occurs alongside ADHD. Tara shares her experience, the shame that she is letting go of and the concept of having a blank “brain paper” when it comes to math, numbers and her struggles with flight times, calendars, time zones etc.
• Divergent Dilemma #2 - Britt sends through an adorable voice note and we discuss the hilarious and fun relationship between dopamine, oestrogen, PMS (Premenstrual Syndrome) and PMDD (Pre-menstrual Dysphoric Disorder) spoiler it’s neither hilarious or fun but is SO MUCH BETTER if we track it and understand the WHY that underlies it all.
• This week's Ireggy Seggy is unfortunately named Fanny Pack Hacks (so sorry guys) where we read YOUR ADHD HACKS and find out what actually works for our cute brains.
*in a French accent* RECOMMENDATIONS:
• Grace recommends HotDoc, a magical app that liberates our poor ADHD brains from the burdens of scheduling appointments and conversing with gatekeepers.
• Tara recommends Geneva Vanderzeil’s Instagram account for creative inspiration because keeping our hands busy and our brains engaged helps us to be regulated AF.
Sending ALLL the love and we'll be back in your very good👂's next THURSDAY!
Your ADHD Besties,
Grace & Tara xx
(don't you even DARE RSD)

14. WE'RE IN ADHD BURNOUT 🫠 (and here's what helps!)

Your ADHD Besties

06/26/24 • 64 min

Hiiiiii fave babes! ✨

In today's episode we're in ADHD burnout mode but that's okayyy!

• We ‘AB-SOLUTELY’ discuss how Tara’s inability to feel time had her believing she could go from running 0km to 42km in the space of 3 months 😮‍💨 and Grace shares her obsession with Love Island/reality TV in general and why it's a balm for her soul.

• Divergent Dilemma - We half answer two gorgeous listener’s questions about managing the work life balance as ADHDers, as well as what ADHD burnout feels like, and celebrating the inconsistency of ADHD energy.

• In this week's Ireggy Seggy we shudder through various DERANGED "choose your torture" scenarios sent in by YOUR cute brains, and Tara shares a fact that will change the way you think about bird feathers/dream catchers forever. 🪶

Our Recs/unrecs? this week:

• Tara recommends "ocean mangoes" - trust us, it’s a sticky-less, dripless heaven that you will want to experience. She also does the most ADHD thing ever and submits her first official "rec retraction", because a show she previously recommended unexpectedly went very sideways. You'll need to listen to find out. 👀

• Grace recommends a HEAVENLY zucchini/courgette pasta recipe that A-list++ celebrity Stanley Tucci said changed his life (and has now changed Grace's 🍝), and some cute person conveniently wrote down the recipe on their blog which is linked here: Click for carbs!

Sending you all love and balanced neurochemical vibes until we are back in your beguiling👂's next THURSDAY!

Your ADHD Besties,

Grace & Tara xx

Don’t RSD PLZ! 🛑

15. What to do when you're stuck DOOM SCROLLING

Your ADHD Besties

07/03/24 • 72 min

Hiii ADHD cuties tuning in from what is now 104 countries! 🤯😘
On today's show:
• Grace has 3 very important updates that she's bursting to tell us
• Are we still in burnout? What's been helping us climb out of it?? Has Tara got a refund for her marathon registration yet? (The answer won’t surprise you) What change-room moment saw Grace making an ‘ADHD math' speech to convince her husband? And WHAT did Tara snatch out of Grace's box? THESE ARE THE EXTREMELY IMPORTANT QUESTIONS WE NEED ANSWERS TO.
• Dilemma #1 - An adorable anonymous listener asks for advice on RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) around dating: she's a late-blooming lesbian going back into the dating world in her 40s and struggling with overthinking and texting RSD (hi it me 🙋‍♀️) 🫠
• Dilemma #2 - A cute listener called Kelsi asks a double-barrelled dilemma (we LOVE!) about 'hermit mode': being stuck on the couch doom scrolling and lacking the motivation to go outside, AND ALSO the never-ending parade of crafty hobbies she starts and never finishes.
• This week's Ireggy Seggy is our new fave, called "TPR", where we pick famous TV characters and ponder whether they are a Timon, Pumba or Rafiki... the robust, scientific discussion we're always proud to bring you on the podcast. 🤓
REC LINKS:
• Tara recommends PVD tarnish-free, waterproof jewellery as an excellent and affordable option compared to gold jewellery. Brands she loves: Hey Harper, Bohomoon and Atolea.
• Grace recommends all 3 of the Hannah Gadsby Netflix comedy specials, especially Nanette.
We'll be back with a SPECIAL SURPRISE next Thursday babes!
Until then... your ADHD besties,
👱🏻‍♀️ Grace & 👩🏻‍🦱 Tara xx
(Don't RSDDD!)

35. 💔 Feeling under-appreciated in friendships: RSD & boundaries

Your ADHD Besties

12/12/24 • 50 min

🎄 HAPPY DECEMBER BEAUTIFUL ADHD BESTIES!

Our gorgeous listener from the UK opens the episode for us and we're taking wrong exits and accidentally lying at the drive through.

A big thank you to everyone who tagged us in your Spotify wrapped 🥹❤️

DILEMMA: “I feel under appreciated in my friendship and I can’t stop the RSD”

We discuss:

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) in friendships and how it affects our relationships.
How self-trust in ADHD can be challenging but is key to managing emotional responses.
The difficulty of letting go of RSD completely while learning to create mental space and teach our brains to pause the emotional reactions.
Building confidence in our ability to assess social interactions and not allowing others to have control over our emotional responses.

IREGGY SEGGY:

We play the very simply named “PMDDDestroy” where Grace tests Tara’s Premenstrual rage with some of the most rage-inducing concepts you can think of. Think: clapping when the plane lands, Shepherd avocados and 49-bazillion unread/irrelevant messages in the group chat.

RECS:

Grace recommends a great game to entertain your kids at dinner (that doubles as a way to document your kids/family life and special memories)
Tara is recommending 'pétillant naturel' sparkling wine ("pet nat"), specifically Dirt Temple’s Pet Nat

Our brains are melting 🫠 with the INSANITY that is the end of year in Australia. The school year is finishing, with rehearsals, concerts, teacher gifts, awards and reports right before Christmas, followed by a 6 week holiday break with our kids home in the sweltering heat. It’s madness. Sooo, we are having a break from our Thurs eps until January... BUT we will continue posting weekly episodes on Patreon, so sign up here if you’re gonna get FOMO (or request as a Xmas gift!)

Sending so so much love and we can't WAIT to be back in your GORGEOUS little neurodivergent ears in January!

Tara & Grace xx

Don't RSD x 10000
P.s 🩸Don’t forget to send us your luteal disasters - email [email protected]

23. "Why do birthdays cause so much RSD for ADHDers?" 🥳🧐

Your ADHD Besties

09/11/24 • 58 min

BONJOUR cutest babes tuning in from what is now 126 countries! 🤯😘
On today's show:
- Tara makes a quick note about ADHD and hyper-empathy and then two seconds later laughs at Grace for getting rejected from the Reject Shop.
- We talk about the amazing PMDD discussion we had on our Instagram last week, with some really helpful examples of what PMDD might feel like, check out instagram for info about PMDD management and personal stories!
This week's DIVERGENT DILEMM:
• Are birthdays just an ADHD nightmare that are bound to end in RSD? We discuss love languages, how we feel about gifts and Tara gives a step-by-step for how to embrace your inner birthday diva 🕺

IREGGY SEGGY:
• This week's Ireggy Seggy is another who’s who of notes app crap and this time it’s YOUR notes. We're happy to report our listener-submitted notes are as delightfully unhinged and divine as we expected.
REC LINKS:
• Tara recommends the Clue app, track your period babes! There is an important link between dopamine and oestrogen and tracking can help us to feel more in control, especially if we have PMDD too 💜
• Grace recommends Popstar Academy: Katseye on Netflix. Docuseries ✅ Drama ✅ living out your Britney dreams ✅ what more do we have to say?
We’ll be back in your cute ears next THURSDAY (the third day)
Until then love love love always your ADHD besties,
👱🏻‍♀️ Grace & 👩🏻‍🦱 Tara xx
(Don't RSD bby)

4. "Why does my ADHD make me binge eat?"

Your ADHD Besties

05/02/24 • 60 min

Hey hey ADHD besties! ✨
On today's show:
• We discuss alexithymia in ADHD and how difficult it can be to recognise our emotions 🤷‍♀️ as well as Grace’s experience with starting ADHD medication in the last few weeks.
• We recommend a brow tint that lasts three days 💁‍♀️ and ASMR music that will soothe that lil’ dopamine deficient noggin. 🧠
• Dilemma #1 - A spicy question to start us off this week, an anonymous cutie asks us why we think ADHDers might be more likely to be in toxic relationships/attract walking red flags 🚩 and how dopamine plays a role.
• Dilemma #2 - In our second dilemm we discuss how to keep your home/office organised and the many hacks our silly brains have accumulated that help us - and we promise the answer isn’t - "just make sure to always keep your space tidy so it doesn't get out of control" because that’s not even advice.
• Dilemma #3 - Tara answers a question about binge eating, ADHD and weight gain/weight loss and the answer will probably surprise you.
• Ireggy Seggy: “Things people say that make ADHDers stressed” - A snappy title for a silly little game - but don't even try to find us a more annoying saying than “the early bird gets the worm” 🙄
🕺🏻🪩 We made you an ADHD brain massage playlist on Spotify with all the ASMR and other nice for our brains stuff! Get it here ⤵️
https://adhdbesties.com/free-stuff/

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How many episodes does Your ADHD Besties have?

Your ADHD Besties currently has 59 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Podcasts, Adhd and Relationships.

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The episode title '3. ADHD & friendships: what is rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) and why does it HURT?' is the most popular.

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The average episode length on Your ADHD Besties is 55 minutes.

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Episodes of Your ADHD Besties are typically released every 7 days.

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The first episode of Your ADHD Besties was released on Apr 18, 2024.

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