DEEP DIVE: Taking Care Of Our Parents (And Our Kids)
11/25/24 • 49 min
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This month's Deep Dive series is all about family dynamics. Listen to the whole playlist on Spotify.
If you’re part of the “sandwich generation”– taking care of your parents and your children at the same time– you’ve got a lot of company. The demographic trends of starting our own families later, and increasing life expectancies, mean this double-caretaking will become a reality for a lot more of us. And it seems that this responsibility is falling more often on women: two-thirds of people doing the "double caretaking" are female.
In this episode, we discuss how caring for parents can be particularly fraught, whether you’re giving them daily insulin shots or just trying to make sense of their finances every April.
We also discuss the importance of prioritizing our own mental and physical health, even (especially) when there seems to be little time to do so.
Finally, we talk about operating from a place of maximum vulnerability. Realize that you really are doing more than any one person can handle. Get specific about the help you need, and be honest when you’re hitting your limits.
Here are links to some of the writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:
- Dorothy A. Miller: The 'sandwich' generation: adult children of the aging
- Jessica Grose for NYT: ‘It’s Pretty Brutal’: The Sandwich Generation Pays a Price
- Katica Roy for Fast Company: I’m a breadwinner mom and this is why helping women in the sandwich generation is good for the U.S. economy
- Michelle Konstantinovsky for One Medical: The Sandwich Generation: Managing Stress While Caring For Others
- Alia E. Dastagir for the Chicago Sun Times: ‘Sandwich generation’ stress: Adults caring for aging parents face stress, frustration
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This month's Deep Dive series is all about family dynamics. Listen to the whole playlist on Spotify.
If you’re part of the “sandwich generation”– taking care of your parents and your children at the same time– you’ve got a lot of company. The demographic trends of starting our own families later, and increasing life expectancies, mean this double-caretaking will become a reality for a lot more of us. And it seems that this responsibility is falling more often on women: two-thirds of people doing the "double caretaking" are female.
In this episode, we discuss how caring for parents can be particularly fraught, whether you’re giving them daily insulin shots or just trying to make sense of their finances every April.
We also discuss the importance of prioritizing our own mental and physical health, even (especially) when there seems to be little time to do so.
Finally, we talk about operating from a place of maximum vulnerability. Realize that you really are doing more than any one person can handle. Get specific about the help you need, and be honest when you’re hitting your limits.
Here are links to some of the writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:
- Dorothy A. Miller: The 'sandwich' generation: adult children of the aging
- Jessica Grose for NYT: ‘It’s Pretty Brutal’: The Sandwich Generation Pays a Price
- Katica Roy for Fast Company: I’m a breadwinner mom and this is why helping women in the sandwich generation is good for the U.S. economy
- Michelle Konstantinovsky for One Medical: The Sandwich Generation: Managing Stress While Caring For Others
- Alia E. Dastagir for the Chicago Sun Times: ‘Sandwich generation’ stress: Adults caring for aging parents face stress, frustration
We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website:
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mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid’s behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, sandwich generation, aging parents
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1 RecommendationsHow is it our teens find us so cringe while also depending on us for clothes, shelter, and Chipotle? Chip Leighton, author of the new book WHAT TIME IS NOON, discusses the disconnect between teens' naivete about the world and the ironclad rules of interaction they still see fit to impose upon their parents.
Chip Leighton is creator of The Leighton Show, a hilarious social media platform about parenting and marriage. Its viral videos have been seen more than 250 million times.
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- How vacation is a new location in which your teens will blame you for everything
- Funny mistakes teens make when it comes to cooking, driving, and traveling
- The "horrifying" mistakes parents make when it comes to technology
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- theleightonshow.com
- @The_Leighton_Show on TikTok, IG, and FB
- Buy WHAT TIME IS NOON: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781682689240
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1 RecommendationsWhy do we think the way we think? How susceptible are we to influences we don't perceive? In the case of psychological effects, there are proven changes in thinking that occur in individuals or groups that can be attributed to particular causes. In this episode, hosts Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables get into some of their favorites, including:
- placebo (and "nocebo" effect
- near-miss effect
- Martha Mitchell effect
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- name-letter effect
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