Domination and Submission Everyday: Your Conversations Explained

04/27/23 • 5 min

Domination and submission are natural and important parts of human interaction. By understanding and mastering these states, we can improve our communication skills and achieve success in our personal and professional lives. However, each state has both a negative and positive (whether manipulative in the negative dominant, or inferior in the negative submissive).

In most scenarios, a healthy conversation allows both speakers to fluidly trade dom/sub states. But not in an interview (e.g. job interview or guest/host podcast interview).

Hear the tip I gave to one of my podcast clients who's a first-time podcast host.

Episode inspired by Kasia Urbaniak's work. Kasia is a speaker and coach who specializes in power dynamics and interpersonal communication. While studying to be a Taoist nun, she one of NYC's most successful dominatrices.

Kasia's video: One simple trick to reclaim your power | Kasia Urbaniak | TEDxRosario

Kasia's book: Unbound

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In most scenarios, a healthy conversation allows both speakers to fluidly trade dom/sub states. But not in an interview (e.g. job interview or guest/host podcast interview).

Hear the tip I gave to one of my podcast clients who's a first-time podcast host.

Kasia's video: One simple trick to reclaim your power | Kasia Urbaniak | TEDxRosario

Kasia's book: Unbound

Connect with me:

ThinkersOne: Buy a personalized video greeting from me to say thanks, invite someone to an event, or give a pep talk to your client or colleague. Or order a 15-minute Zoom drop-in on ThinkersOne.

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Ford's $3.76 Billion Mistake. Don't Rush to Build.

The Ford Edsel was one of the worst product failures in the history of the auto industry. The blunder of this one car cost Ford about $350 million in 1957, equal to about $3.76 billion today (based on inflation calculators). This loss was avoidable. Hear the lesson for your business.

Key idea: Don't focus on getting millions of dollars of investment to build a product. Instead, first build the right thing. You have to understand your market, their pains, and their perceptions. Brands are emotional and so are purchase decisions; logic comes later to justify why we chose. That's just how the human brain works.

Plus: the story of Buffer's product launch shows how you can validate your product idea for free before you spend money building it. I may have gotten a couple details wrong as this was from memory but here's the scoop: Idea to Paying Customers in 7 Weeks: How We Did It (Buffer)

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Ford Edsel - the famous marketing blunder that cost $350 million in 1957 (about $3.76 billion in 2023 dollars)
For context: For the fiscal year 2020, Ford spent $5.7 billion on research and development (R&D) expenses. It is worth noting that this figure includes R&D spending for all of Ford's products and services, not just its cars.
Buffer validated their product with a landing page that was nearly free before spending money to write any code
Calendly is a self-funded startup that reached unicorn status, valued at about $3 billion today. No initial funding. Just solving a problem that was validated by the market: that scheduling meetings via email was arduous = real pain point

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Don't Bill Hourly (Back to the Black Box)

The value is the value regardless of how long it takes you to create it. The time you spend is inside your black box. They get the Coke or Snickers and don't need to worry what your vending machine gears do or how long they grind: the snack is delicious regardless.

This episode is for anyone who's billing hourly but works in the knowledge economy.

Watch the YouTube Short (1 minute video): Do You Make or Earn Money?

Be careful with hourly rates. Flat fee project rate / ultimate value delivered from a black box is better in many ways.

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