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Unlearned

Unlearned

Jaime Mahler and CA Rhoades

This is a podcast all about deconstructing who we are and exploring who we are becoming.
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Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best Unlearned episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to Unlearned for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite Unlearned episode by adding your comments to the episode page.

Unlearned - Ep 53: Neurodivergency and the Self (Part 1)

Ep 53: Neurodivergency and the Self (Part 1)

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05/08/23 • 50 min

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Jaime and CA begin a series on Neurodivergency by exploring through their own experiences what it is, comorbidities and how they can affect diagnosis, how neurodivergent brains and neurotypical brains think differently, and more.

Notes:

  • Just a reminder!
  • What is a neurodivergent brain?
  • Neurodivergence and comorbidities
  • Why the criteria for symptoms of neurodivergence needs to change
  • Examples of how comorbidities can affect a neurodivergent brain
  • How do late-diagnosed people even find out?
  • What neurotypical-minded people can do

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  • Amanda B.
  • Plamen S.
  • Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
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Unlearned - Ep 56: A Voice In The Darkness

Ep 56: A Voice In The Darkness

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06/19/23 • 71 min

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this incredibly personal and powerful episode, Jaime and CA explore the dark moments in our lives where it can seem impossible to see the light. They also discuss how to be there for someone in those moments, even when you are dealing with stuff yourself.

**This episode covers sensitive topics like depression and suicidality. So, please don’t listen if you are not in a safe headspace. See the notes for resources.

International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines

National Suicide Hotline: Call: 988 Text: 988

Website: https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Notes:

  • When trauma specialists have trauma themselves
  • The problem with putting people on a pedestal
  • Why linear healing isn’t really a thing
  • Being a witness to someone else’s darkness
  • How to be there for someone during a dark time
  • Witnessing your own darkness on social media

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  • Amanda B.
  • Plamen S.
  • Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pins

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Unlearned - Ep 49: When Joy Feels Scary

Ep 49: When Joy Feels Scary

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04/10/23 • 59 min

Can you experience joy after or even in the midst of trauma? CA and Jaime take a look at why embracing joy can be such a difficult barrier for us to move beyond when trauma is a part of our lives and then they explore what exactly we can do about it.

Notes:

  • Can you feel joy after experiencing trauma?
  • How joy can become a barrier
  • How to move beyond the fear of joy
  • Why acceptance of what makes us human is so important
  • The thing inside of us that questions if we are worthy of having joy
  • Start with an ounce
  • Techniques to gain ownership of your joy
  • The importance of curiosity and asking why not

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Unlearned - Ep. 42: Complex Trauma Basics

Ep. 42: Complex Trauma Basics

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02/20/23 • 67 min

There is a lot of discussion about trauma on social media nowadays, but what is it? Are there different kinds? Can one type of trauma hurt more than another? In this episode, Jaime and CA explore the different types of trauma, how to identify and recognize it, as well as how to process it.

Notes:

  • End Scene
  • Learning how to recognize and then name traumas
  • Why recognizing complex trauma is so difficult
  • The difference between big T trauma and little t trauma
  • Using the DRIP acronym to identify complex trauma
  • Defining incidental trauma
  • Defining PTSD
  • Processing your trauma
  • How to handle triggering moments

Links:

  • Episode 1: Self-Consent During Healing
  • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
  • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
  • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
  • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
  • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
  • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
  • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]

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Unlearned - Ep. 44: Showing Up Fake to Relationships

Ep. 44: Showing Up Fake to Relationships

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03/06/23 • 51 min

Have you ever felt like you got deep with someone who refused to match that depth and wondered if they could? In this episode, Jaime and CA explore the concept of showing up fake to our relationships by discussing why some people seem unwilling or maybe even unable to show their authentic selves and then, what we should do about it.

Notes:

  • What happens when we struggle to tap into depth within ourselves
  • Why some people are not equipped to go deeper
  • The shift from inability to unwillingness to go in-depth
  • Why someone could be unwilling to share emotional intimacy
  • How to handle someone who can’t or won’t show up authentically
  • Why it feels unsafe to be with someone who can’t access depth
  • What authenticity feels like in relationships
  • What does a shallow relationship look like?

Links:

  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
  • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
  • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
  • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
  • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
  • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
  • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
  • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]

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Unlearned - Ep. 45: Trauma Skills

Ep. 45: Trauma Skills

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03/13/23 • 48 min

We know that we need to learn certain skills to move beyond our traumas to live more fully authentic lives, but we also know that we can’t call a timeout on our lives as we learn those skills. Join CA and Jaime as they explore how to learn those skills and adapt to ever-changing situations.

Notes:

  • A big announcement!
  • How to build and apply trauma skills while still living your life
  • Why waiting until we are totally ready may not be a great idea
  • Roadblocks we put in for ourselves
  • Being bad at a skill until you are good
  • Building skills with constantly changing variables
  • Developing adaptive skills

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Unlearned - Ep. 47: Stop Triggering Me

Ep. 47: Stop Triggering Me

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03/27/23 • 66 min

Learning our triggers is a huge part of the healing process, but knowing them and moving beyond them are two very different things. How do we break away from them? What do we do when we trigger someone else? How should they react? CA and Jaime take a deep-dive into these questions and more as they explore triggers, where they come from, and how to handle them.

*WARNING: The opening roleplay contains yelling, activation, and escalation. If you would like to skip it fast-forward about a minute.

Notes:

  • Becoming aware of your trauma and triggers
  • When triggers and accountability intersect
  • How triggers can create trauma in others
  • How to respond when someone else is triggered
  • The importance of the difference between how you act versus who you are
  • How to self-reflect without shaming yourself
  • How to get rid of your triggers

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Unlearned - Ep. 46: Am I Too Needy?

Ep. 46: Am I Too Needy?

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03/20/23 • 59 min

Have you ever been told that you are too needy? Are you? Maybe it’s not that simple. Jaime and CA explore what people really mean when they claim that we are too sensitive, where their response and our “neediness” comes from, and what we can do about it.

Notes:

  • A sensory experience
  • Am I too sensitive?
  • Debunking the concept of being “oversensitive”
  • How social and cultural factors normalize how we see others
  • Being called “too needy”
  • Looking at where your sense of “normal” comes from
  • Whose responsibility is it to fulfill emotional needs in a relationship
  • How to have an honest and probably uncomfortable conversation about needs
  • Ep 12: The Healing Stages: https://open.spotify.com/episode/16EkICSkjem68i7N1WMArx

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Unlearned - Ep 48 - Sex and Consent

Ep 48 - Sex and Consent

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04/03/23 • 61 min

Consent is mandatory and well all know that, but it runs a lot deeper than just saying “yes” before the act. In a world filled with fluidity and kinks, navigating consent, especially with someone who has been traumatized can be incredibly tricky. Join Jaime and CA as they explore what consent means, what it looks like in practice, and how to have healthy conversations regarding it. *WARNING: This episode contains discussions about sex and consent. If hearing about those topics may harm you, please feel free to skip it.

Notes:

  • Should kids be able to say no to a hug?
  • How do you discuss consent before knowing everything it entails?
  • What consent looks like
  • Understanding your partner’s “defaults” regarding sex
  • Yes until no v no until yes
  • Navigating consent when someone has been through trauma

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Unlearned - Ep. 41: Letting Go of Old Stories

Ep. 41: Letting Go of Old Stories

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02/16/23 • 57 min

Our trauma can create certain narratives in our brains. What happens when we encounter similar, but not identical situations in relationships that have nothing to do with that trauma? CA and Jaime explore why we need to create new narratives based on current events, not our past, and exactly how to do so.

Notes:

  • How the brain builds narratives
  • How the brain interferes with current or new relationships
  • Building the skills that allow me to write narratives in a new way
  • When we should and shouldn’t ignore the issue
  • How to practice processing tension
  • “Yeah, but remember....”
  • The importance of pattern recognition
  • How to put this all together

Links:

  • FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
  • Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
  • Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
  • Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
  • CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
  • CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
  • Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]

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FAQ

How many episodes does Unlearned have?

Unlearned currently has 73 episodes available.

What topics does Unlearned cover?

The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Mental Health and Podcasts.

What is the most popular episode on Unlearned?

The episode title 'Ep 53: Neurodivergency and the Self (Part 1)' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on Unlearned?

The average episode length on Unlearned is 61 minutes.

How often are episodes of Unlearned released?

Episodes of Unlearned are typically released every 7 days.

When was the first episode of Unlearned?

The first episode of Unlearned was released on Apr 25, 2022.

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