The Fluidity of Attachment Styles and the Capacity to create more security
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09/04/23 • 56 min
When a child’s needs aren’t being met by their caregiver, by not being fed or feeling safe, they develop a distorted view of relationships. This attachment schema is the lens through which they examine the behavior of others, impacting their ability to form relationships and lead a healthy, happy life.
In past episodes, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have talked about connection being one of our survival needs, but an insecure attachment directly challenges this need. Being close to others, feeling vulnerable and connected, can also be very dysregulating to those who learned to survive with unemotional or unreliable caregivers.
So, how can you overcome your learned patterns to create healthy relationships with yourself and others? The answer is nervous system training.
In this episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth will walk you through attachment schema, how the three insecure attachment styles develop and show up as behavioral outputs, and how nervous system regulation has helped them work toward lasting change.
Tune in for all this and more!
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Attachment style from the NSI perspective
- How insecure attachment schema affects social development
- Nervous system regulation as a way to change our patterns
- The areas of the brain responsible for creating neuro tags
- How the 3 insecure attachment styles develop and are expressed
- Misconceptions about avoidant attachment style
- Disorganized attachment and complex trauma
Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:
Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source
Connect with us on social media:
@trauma.rewired
Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846
Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren’t serving you!
FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com
When a child’s needs aren’t being met by their caregiver, by not being fed or feeling safe, they develop a distorted view of relationships. This attachment schema is the lens through which they examine the behavior of others, impacting their ability to form relationships and lead a healthy, happy life.
In past episodes, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have talked about connection being one of our survival needs, but an insecure attachment directly challenges this need. Being close to others, feeling vulnerable and connected, can also be very dysregulating to those who learned to survive with unemotional or unreliable caregivers.
So, how can you overcome your learned patterns to create healthy relationships with yourself and others? The answer is nervous system training.
In this episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth will walk you through attachment schema, how the three insecure attachment styles develop and show up as behavioral outputs, and how nervous system regulation has helped them work toward lasting change.
Tune in for all this and more!
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Attachment style from the NSI perspective
- How insecure attachment schema affects social development
- Nervous system regulation as a way to change our patterns
- The areas of the brain responsible for creating neuro tags
- How the 3 insecure attachment styles develop and are expressed
- Misconceptions about avoidant attachment style
- Disorganized attachment and complex trauma
Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:
Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source
Connect with us on social media:
@trauma.rewired
Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846
Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren’t serving you!
FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com
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Our Relationship to Society Impacts Our Relationship To Self
Trauma Rewired has talked a lot about threat, including its neurobiology, what happens in the body when we don’t feel safe, and how a history of trauma affects what we perceive as a threat.
In this episode with Victor Jones, a resilience educator and neurosomatic intelligence coach, we dive deeper into threat, focusing on our relationship with others and society as a whole, as well as how trauma impacts our ability to regulate our nervous system. For example, connection is a survival need but feelings of vulnerability and intimacy can be threatening to the nervous system of those with a history of trauma. This inability to connect not only affects the health of an individual, but also the bond and trust within society.
The good news is that neurosomatic intelligence is a powerful tool that can help you settle your nervous system, allow you to connect, and live a life in line with your ethics. As we cover topics like stacked trauma and co-regulation, Victor and hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth all share their personal journeys to feeling safe in their body, and regulating their nervous system when they experience threat — something that’s nearly impossible to avoid in our dysregulating world.
Victor advocates for everyone to learn the language of the nervous system, teaching NSI tools to help people in his community in the hopes of driving more compassion in our world.
If you want to get out of survival mode and start helping others around you too, tune in now!
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Victor’s and Elisabeth’s journey to discovering NSI
- How Victor’s childhood affected his relationship with himself and the world
- The threat and safety of finding connection
- The consequences of being consistently exposed to threat
- Nervous system regulation as a means to help yourself and others
- How Victor is bringing NSI tools into the community
- How NSI work can help first responders and high-trauma fields
Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:
Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source
Connect with us on social media:
@trauma.rewired
Connect with Victor Jones
Rocky Mount, NC 27804
252-382-0682
Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846
Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren’t serving you!
FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com
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Codependency
If you have a pattern of staying in unbalanced, chaotic relationships, this episode is for you. If it’s hard for you to set boundaries with friends, family or romantic partners, this episode is for you. If you fixate on the emotions of others rather than your own, this episode is for you.
These are all signs of codependency, which is the topic of this episode. Hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth discuss its negative effects on your emotional and physical health, the behaviors associated with codependency, and how they’re formed starting in childhood, diving deep into the attachment wound, our relationship with caregivers, and emotional self-regulation.
Jennifer and Elisabeth also share examples of their own codependent relationships, and how they started to recognize their codependent tendencies and learn to change them.
Tune in to gain a deep understanding of codependency and how you can break your codependency patterns!
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Codependence versus interdependence
- What causes codependency and how it shapes our behaviors
- Signs and symptoms of codependency
- How trauma impacts emotional self-regulation
- Breaking codependent patterns with nervous system regulation
Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:
Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source
Connect with us on social media:
@trauma.rewired
Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846
Head to https://calendly.com/traumarewired/consultation for a consultation to identify trauma responses in your own life and learn how to train your nervous system to move out of behaviors that aren’t serving you!
FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com
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