#62. How to find a place for grief - with Coach Ellen Melon

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10/26/22 • 53 min

How do you integrate painful losses into your life while living?

Grief is something we in the United States are known to do poorly. Perhaps it's the European decent that curved our culture's inability to feel feelings, perhaps it's industrial era-based where we learned that there's no time in our 40 hour work week to sit with grief, or perhaps our modern day fear machines (the media) have signaled to our bodies, 'It's not safe here - eject from your body.'

Whatever got us here, grief is an important part of our learning to be resilient and self-compassionate. And it's part of the human contract with life — As Dr Susan David says, “Discomfort is the price of admission to meaningful life.”

In this episode, I provide some education and philosophy on grief, the definitions, different types of grief. I also share about my year-long season of grief, showcasing how I found a place for grief, having successfully learned how to do it and how to integrate it.

Grief is something we must all feel and move through in order to have the highest level of relationships with people we connect with and love. For, it is in our relationship to the self that we treat and extend to others.

For more info on the Remember Your Worth coaching program:

https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching

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Coach Ellen Melon links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow

Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com

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How do you integrate painful losses into your life while living?

For more info on the Remember Your Worth coaching program:

https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching

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Coach Ellen Melon links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow

Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com

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Previous Episode

#61. What does sex & relationship coaching look like - with former client Addison

In this episode we get to hear from a former client on his experience working with a sex and relationship coach. Addison and I worked for 4 months together back in January, meeting every 2 weeks via Zoom. Listen to the challenges he overcame in this episode.

I’m a coach who specializes in working with people pleasers, codependents, and people with anxious-attachement styles.

If you are someone who identifies with those labels, some challenges you might be having are...

Being angry and blamey — sick of playing the victim and ready to stop being so judgemental all the time
Tired of seeking external validation, or tired of being a person who gets into relationships and says, “okay how can I mold myself so this person likes me”
Fixated on every little thing — your perfectionism gets in the way of you living life because you’re so busy hustling for worthiness and what you produce
How much control you need to have on everything, all the time and it’s ruining your life and relationships
Tired of leaning on coping mechanisms- ways in which you numb out, like emotional eating, netflix bingeing, shopping, drugs and alcohol
Tired of the harsh and critical voice inside your head that’s hating on you all the time

If this sounds like you, it’s time to remember your worth. It’s time to cultivate happiness, authenticity, and self compassion, because my dear you have been performing what you think everyone else wants you to be and have lost your truest self and desires. Let’s call your authentic self back shall we?

For more info on the Remember Your Worth coaching program:

https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching

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Coach Ellen Melon links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow

Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com

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Next Episode

#63: How to talk about jealousy and envy - Relationship Series Part 1 with Mike and Ellen Melon

Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast.

This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics:

How to talk about envious and jealous feelings
How to talk about money and finances
Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need
On taking things too personally
Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time
Day to day compromising
Coparenting in a blended family

In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings around envy and jealousy. We'll discuss:

dating and setting the expectation that it’s okay to talk about previous relationships within boundaries
the difference between jealousy and envy and personal examples of how to navigate those feeling in our relationship when it comes up
how jealousy and envy feel in the body (body mapping excercise) so that we know when it comes up

For questions regarding jealousy and envy in your life, please email questions to [email protected]

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For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program:

https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching

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Coach Ellen Melon links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow

Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com