Rediscover Your Inner Self: The Importance of Uncovering Your Thinking Traps
11/01/23 • 18 min
We all have the thinking traps that hinder resilience, such as jumping to negative conclusions and personalizing mistakes. It’s important to realize what our patterns of thinking are.
In this episode, you'll explore the profound notion of self-judgment and the remarkable practice of rediscovering your inner self. Dr. Bonnie Wims skillfully guides you through the process of letting go of the myth of perfection and moving into accepting your beautifully imperfect self. You'll be encouraged to embrace your mistakes as opportunities for growth and learning, just as she has.
Dr. Bonnie Wims’ empowering message is clear: it's your uniqueness, your authenticity, and your determination to learn and improve that define your worth. She motivates you to discover what your own thinking traps are, and shows you how to break free from their grip. You'll feel inspired to seize every challenge as a chance to become stronger and more resilient. Remember, your worth is not determined by perfection, but by your unyielding spirit and your willingness to keep moving forward.
Notes:
📜 I don't go to therapy to find out if I'm a freak. Dr. Williams's poem “What Do You Hear in These Sounds”. 01:06
🙃 Perfectionism traps us in a catch-22: negative thinking patterns and self-doubt. 01:50
📕 The Resilience Factor book: thinking traps and patterns prevent us from being resilient. 03:48
⚠️ Jumping to conclusions of negative. 05:09
2️⃣ Personalizing faults and mistakes: a thinking trap that tells you that you are guilty. 06:29
🎙️ Success in podcasting comes from letting go of the idea of a perfect podcast. 08:22
🧮 Comfort zone and pushing out of it: practice and learning - trying again is the key. 10:06
🎯 Remind yourself to stay connected to yourself: meditation or different tools. 13:15
🌞 Learning and being curious are big reasons for living. 15:57
Links:
Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims: www.bonniewims.com
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Called-to-Lead/dp/B094RF5K9L
Follow Dr. Bonnie Wims: www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims
Book a free call with Dr. Bonnie Wims: calendly.com/bonnie-96
We all have the thinking traps that hinder resilience, such as jumping to negative conclusions and personalizing mistakes. It’s important to realize what our patterns of thinking are.
In this episode, you'll explore the profound notion of self-judgment and the remarkable practice of rediscovering your inner self. Dr. Bonnie Wims skillfully guides you through the process of letting go of the myth of perfection and moving into accepting your beautifully imperfect self. You'll be encouraged to embrace your mistakes as opportunities for growth and learning, just as she has.
Dr. Bonnie Wims’ empowering message is clear: it's your uniqueness, your authenticity, and your determination to learn and improve that define your worth. She motivates you to discover what your own thinking traps are, and shows you how to break free from their grip. You'll feel inspired to seize every challenge as a chance to become stronger and more resilient. Remember, your worth is not determined by perfection, but by your unyielding spirit and your willingness to keep moving forward.
Notes:
📜 I don't go to therapy to find out if I'm a freak. Dr. Williams's poem “What Do You Hear in These Sounds”. 01:06
🙃 Perfectionism traps us in a catch-22: negative thinking patterns and self-doubt. 01:50
📕 The Resilience Factor book: thinking traps and patterns prevent us from being resilient. 03:48
⚠️ Jumping to conclusions of negative. 05:09
2️⃣ Personalizing faults and mistakes: a thinking trap that tells you that you are guilty. 06:29
🎙️ Success in podcasting comes from letting go of the idea of a perfect podcast. 08:22
🧮 Comfort zone and pushing out of it: practice and learning - trying again is the key. 10:06
🎯 Remind yourself to stay connected to yourself: meditation or different tools. 13:15
🌞 Learning and being curious are big reasons for living. 15:57
Links:
Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims: www.bonniewims.com
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Called-to-Lead/dp/B094RF5K9L
Follow Dr. Bonnie Wims: www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims
Book a free call with Dr. Bonnie Wims: calendly.com/bonnie-96
Previous Episode
The Fear of Change and How It Can Impact Our Psychological Health
Change is hard and it can impact our psychological health. We all have expectations and plans of how we want things to go, and change can make us feel like we are losing control of that. When change disrupts our comfort zone and challenges us, it can force us to look at ourselves in a new light, which can lead to anxiety, fear and negative self talk. The truth is that being scared of change is completely normal, and talking to people about how you feel and why you are scared and anxious can help you see things from a new perspective. Life is filled with change that can reinforce or challenge who we think we are, but as long as we are kind and understanding with ourselves through the challenges, they can help us grow stronger and more resilient.
Show notes:
🌀 Changes are very hard: changes impact our sense of happiness and comfort. 01:32
🇬🇧 Moving to the UK: first reaction of an eight-year-old who had a map of his future life in mind. 02:30
👦 Anxiety was born in Jesse: becoming introverted, OCD, and hating for change. 05:20
🏡 When home is just one place in the world. 08:59
🤯 Nostalgia and wrapping up our identity into external factors: moving back to the USA was even harder. 11:37
😩 Scared to let people in: being scared to talk to people and the need for therapy. 16:31
👉 When circumstances are very difficult, it has nothing to do with your capabilities: harsh self-talk and self-bullying. 19:00
🤫 Young men want to fix things themselves: rejecting conversations or not getting deep enough. 21:21
⚠️ Sometimes life is hard but talking about it can help. 23:07
😇 Thriving journey: starting to talk and showing authenticity released Jesse’s confidence. 24:57
🎯 We often define ourselves as too small: the importance of being flexible in how you define yourself. 27:42
😇 Daily things challenge who we think we are: self-discovery and personal growth are on every corner. 29:19
🛌 Loneliness and identity crisis in various cities: the first night is the hardest. 32:44
🌞 Using “if-then” sentences in therapy: separating yourself from your feelings. 35:24
🤩 The importance of recognizing what you are saying to yourself in times of change. 37:20
Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims:www.bonniewims.com
Book:https://www.amazon.com/Called-to-Lead/dp/B094RF5K9L
Follow Dr. Bonnie Wims:www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims
Book a free call with Dr. Bonnie Wims:calendly.com/bonnie-96
Next Episode
How Challenging Yourself Can Expand Your Idea of Who You Are & What You Are Capable Of Achieving
We are all unknowingly wearing our limitations within ourselves.
Dr. Bonnie Wims talks about her transformative journey deep into the heart of the Costa Rican jungle, which was a source of anxiety but also a profound exploration of self-discovery. In the internal thickets of fears, limitations, and negative self-talk, she understood that we are wearing all that as a coat on a daily basis. This heavy burden of barriers is not helping to move us forward.
The challenge lay in dismantling self-imposed restrictions, one by one. Dr. Wims urged herself and all of us to embark on a journey of introspection, asking profound questions about the definitions and negative self-talk we are living as part of ourselves. In what ways do you limit yourself today? And in what ways can you challenge that?
It is time to identify the moments when we downplayed our worth, when we failed to believe in ourselves, and when we limited our potential and then to remove that burden through therapy.
Notes
🇨🇷 Dr. Bonnie Wim’s transformative trip to Costa Rica: a challenging trip she had second thoughts about going on. 01:09
🐸 Meeting a huge frog in the jungle: when all her fears began to pour out. 03:58
🌞 Insecurities you harbor about yourself: finding out there are things you can do. 06:17
🧥 Seeing yourself and challenging yourself: defense mechanisms we are wearing each day. 08:13
🔃 You can challenge who you think you are, what you think you deserve, and your capabilities: choosing with intention. 11:56
⏰ How do we wake up to our possibilities: intentional and consistent challenges. 15:52
⚠️ Be aware of the stories you tell yourself first: the next step is to act and work on those stories. 19:05
Links
Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims:www.bonniewims.com
Book:https://www.amazon.com/Called-to-Lead/dp/B094RF5K9L
Follow Dr. Bonnie Wims:www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims
Book a free call with Dr. Bonnie Wims:calendly.com/bonnie-96
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