Masculine Feminine Dynamics | Paul on Dating After Divorce
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06/13/24 • 81 min
"If a woman gets into her masculine, I tend to freeze or fawn. But if a woman just becomes very feminine, I become masculine automatically. This is how I learned that I'm probably more dominantly masculine." - Paul
Buckle up buttercups! This episode is the candid "guy talk" we've all wanted to eavesdrop on. Paul opens up about his journey through divorce, career transitions, and dating while navigating masculine-feminine polarity. We explore how men can set boundaries without being rigid, why authenticity matters more than income, and what happens when we lean into our true energetic nature. This conversation winds through vulnerable territory—from childhood patterns to present-day dating challenges—offering insights for anyone wanting to create deeper connection through energetic balance.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Paul on Masculine-Feminine Dynamics
02:35 Paul's Background & Career Journey
11:27 Intuition and Inner Knowing
17:53 Dating After Divorce
30:08 Role-Playing Masculine-Feminine Polarities
37:42 The Power of Authenticity in Relationships
46:59 Divine Feminine and Masculine Energies
58:40 Creating Relationship Polarity
01:12:12 Money vs. Character in Dating
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RESOURCES:
John Wineland's "Feminine Cleanse"
Book: "Worthy" by Jamie Kern Lima
Book: "Women Who Run with the Wolves"
A Note From Paul: “I’m pretty much ‘what you see is what you get.’ This season of life has become a surrender experiment not so much that I chose it but that all other paths ended and I had to choose a new one. I chose to go back to driving truck, and of all the commercial truck driving opportunities picked one that helps People with Blessings of Hope.
Any business I am a part of or build will help people who can’t help themselves and alleviate their pain and suffering. In addition to driving truck I coach real estate agents to find their purpose, live more, and do so more slowly. To settle into their bodies and trust their knowing within. I’ll be doing the “man work” for the rest of my life but first this next year or so I’m going all in to learn more about how to BE and less what to DO. Till next time!”
Connect with Paul
IG: @paulstoltzfus
Facebook: @paulstoltzfus
Explore Coaching with Paul
https://stan.store/paulstoltzfus
Support the show with your donation: https://www.support/thewholeshebangpodcast
SUBSCRIBE and WATCH on YouTube
"If a woman gets into her masculine, I tend to freeze or fawn. But if a woman just becomes very feminine, I become masculine automatically. This is how I learned that I'm probably more dominantly masculine." - Paul
Buckle up buttercups! This episode is the candid "guy talk" we've all wanted to eavesdrop on. Paul opens up about his journey through divorce, career transitions, and dating while navigating masculine-feminine polarity. We explore how men can set boundaries without being rigid, why authenticity matters more than income, and what happens when we lean into our true energetic nature. This conversation winds through vulnerable territory—from childhood patterns to present-day dating challenges—offering insights for anyone wanting to create deeper connection through energetic balance.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Paul on Masculine-Feminine Dynamics
02:35 Paul's Background & Career Journey
11:27 Intuition and Inner Knowing
17:53 Dating After Divorce
30:08 Role-Playing Masculine-Feminine Polarities
37:42 The Power of Authenticity in Relationships
46:59 Divine Feminine and Masculine Energies
58:40 Creating Relationship Polarity
01:12:12 Money vs. Character in Dating
------
RESOURCES:
John Wineland's "Feminine Cleanse"
Book: "Worthy" by Jamie Kern Lima
Book: "Women Who Run with the Wolves"
A Note From Paul: “I’m pretty much ‘what you see is what you get.’ This season of life has become a surrender experiment not so much that I chose it but that all other paths ended and I had to choose a new one. I chose to go back to driving truck, and of all the commercial truck driving opportunities picked one that helps People with Blessings of Hope.
Any business I am a part of or build will help people who can’t help themselves and alleviate their pain and suffering. In addition to driving truck I coach real estate agents to find their purpose, live more, and do so more slowly. To settle into their bodies and trust their knowing within. I’ll be doing the “man work” for the rest of my life but first this next year or so I’m going all in to learn more about how to BE and less what to DO. Till next time!”
Connect with Paul
IG: @paulstoltzfus
Facebook: @paulstoltzfus
Explore Coaching with Paul
https://stan.store/paulstoltzfus
Support the show with your donation: https://www.support/thewholeshebangpodcast
SUBSCRIBE and WATCH on YouTube
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The Whole Shebang - Masculine Feminine Dynamics | Paul on Dating After Divorce
Transcript
If a woman gets into her masculine , I tend to freeze or fawn and I have a shame response . I learned this in relationships . When the woman I'm dating gets into her masculine , I kind of freeze or fawn , I fake dead and I'm like , oh yeah , okay , I guess I can do this , and I kind of like start , I'm making myself small , I shut down in a flash . Now , that's if it's done
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