Why You Are Shackled by Self-Doubt and How to Break Free - 300
10/10/24 • 42 min
This show was prompted by the question of a podcast listener, but reflected a recurring issue with people that I work with.
My clients have written great books, become accomplished experts in their field and have a big message to share, but when it comes to sharing their views in person or on stage, a number of them begin to doubt themselves.
It shows up in the content they share and how they share it, and it will end up undermining their authority, authenticity and the value and credibility of their message in the eyes of the audience.
It also surfaces in the way that they approach gig outreach, sometimes making assumptions and barricading doors before they’ve even attempted to open them.
Fortunately, I’m able to help them deal with this, and I want to help you too.
That’s why in this show, I’m going to share some ideas of why this might be happening based on my experience of working with many, many speakers, some new perspectives and some practical tools to get you out of the shackles of self-doubt.
I want you to be bold, audacious and confident in sharing your message!
Enjoy!
What you’ll learn:
- The recurring problem that a listener and others have with self-doubt.
- Why the vessel shouldn’t matter when it comes to good ideas.
- What we have in common with Eddie Brock.
- How ‘bad stories’ destroy your dreams.
- The power in harnessing your imagination.
- How self-doubt shows up in your speaking
- Actions to master your mindset.
- Why you can’t tell anyone anything.
- The power of unreasonable excitement.
- The importance of congruence in all aspects of your performance.
- How to become the most powerful person in the world.
And more!!
If you'd like to watch the episode on our YouTube Channel, you can do that here>>
Leave a rating or review for The Speaking Club
(Take a photo of your review, email it to me at [email protected] and get a free e-copy of my book Cracking Speech Mate - How to Use Humour to Make You an Amazing Speaker!)
Books:
Grab your copy of Straight to the Top - How to Create and Deliver a Killer Elevator Pitch
Grab your copy of Cracking Speech Mate - How to Add Humour to Make You An Amazing Speaker
Resources:
Grab Your From Blank Page to Stage Guide and Nail the Topic for a Client Winning Talk
Other episodes that will help you with your speaking confidence:
Episode 001 - No negative thought puts you in the corner!
Episode 024 - My 8 Hacks for Mental Resilience and Getting What You Want
Episode 046 - Managing Your Mind with Brooke Hender
Episode 057 - Master your Mind to Achieve What Matters with Gail Gibson
Episode 067 - 8 Tips for Managing Anxiety Around Public Speaking
Episode 091 - Breaking Free from ‘Bad’ Stories
Episode 098 - Two Must Have Skills for Powerful Public Speaking
Episode 103 - Getting Your Public Speaking Persona Right!
Episode 146 - Do You Need to KonMari Your Mind?
Episode 245 - Overcome Anxiety and Power Up Your Speaking with this Secret Weapon
Episode 282 - [Quick Tip] How to Show Authority Without Shoving it in People’s Faces
Thanks for listening!
Brand new for episode 300! If you would like to support the show and get more from m...
This show was prompted by the question of a podcast listener, but reflected a recurring issue with people that I work with.
My clients have written great books, become accomplished experts in their field and have a big message to share, but when it comes to sharing their views in person or on stage, a number of them begin to doubt themselves.
It shows up in the content they share and how they share it, and it will end up undermining their authority, authenticity and the value and credibility of their message in the eyes of the audience.
It also surfaces in the way that they approach gig outreach, sometimes making assumptions and barricading doors before they’ve even attempted to open them.
Fortunately, I’m able to help them deal with this, and I want to help you too.
That’s why in this show, I’m going to share some ideas of why this might be happening based on my experience of working with many, many speakers, some new perspectives and some practical tools to get you out of the shackles of self-doubt.
I want you to be bold, audacious and confident in sharing your message!
Enjoy!
What you’ll learn:
- The recurring problem that a listener and others have with self-doubt.
- Why the vessel shouldn’t matter when it comes to good ideas.
- What we have in common with Eddie Brock.
- How ‘bad stories’ destroy your dreams.
- The power in harnessing your imagination.
- How self-doubt shows up in your speaking
- Actions to master your mindset.
- Why you can’t tell anyone anything.
- The power of unreasonable excitement.
- The importance of congruence in all aspects of your performance.
- How to become the most powerful person in the world.
And more!!
If you'd like to watch the episode on our YouTube Channel, you can do that here>>
Leave a rating or review for The Speaking Club
(Take a photo of your review, email it to me at [email protected] and get a free e-copy of my book Cracking Speech Mate - How to Use Humour to Make You an Amazing Speaker!)
Books:
Grab your copy of Straight to the Top - How to Create and Deliver a Killer Elevator Pitch
Grab your copy of Cracking Speech Mate - How to Add Humour to Make You An Amazing Speaker
Resources:
Grab Your From Blank Page to Stage Guide and Nail the Topic for a Client Winning Talk
Other episodes that will help you with your speaking confidence:
Episode 001 - No negative thought puts you in the corner!
Episode 024 - My 8 Hacks for Mental Resilience and Getting What You Want
Episode 046 - Managing Your Mind with Brooke Hender
Episode 057 - Master your Mind to Achieve What Matters with Gail Gibson
Episode 067 - 8 Tips for Managing Anxiety Around Public Speaking
Episode 091 - Breaking Free from ‘Bad’ Stories
Episode 098 - Two Must Have Skills for Powerful Public Speaking
Episode 103 - Getting Your Public Speaking Persona Right!
Episode 146 - Do You Need to KonMari Your Mind?
Episode 245 - Overcome Anxiety and Power Up Your Speaking with this Secret Weapon
Episode 282 - [Quick Tip] How to Show Authority Without Shoving it in People’s Faces
Thanks for listening!
Brand new for episode 300! If you would like to support the show and get more from m...
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Why USPs Don’t Work and What Speakers Should Focus on Instead with Chantal Cornelius - 299
Do you feel resistance when you hear the word marketing?
So many people do.
They have hang ups and beliefs about marketing and it can get in the way of them being able to achieve success in their business and as a speaker.
I get it though, marketing can feel complicated, overwhelming and confusing.
But it doesn’t have to feel that way.
What if it could feel clear, and light and simple?
Because marketing is about showing your audience the problem you can solve for them, and making sure you stay front of mind, for when they decide to get that problem solved.
That’s what I’m hoping you get a sense of today, from my straight talking guest Chantal Cornelius.
Chantal has been helping service businesses attract new clients since 2000. She also speaks to audiences around the world, showing them how to understand the emotional buying decisions made by their clients and how that translates into a stand out strategy for them.
Chantal also happens to be National President of the Professional Speaking Association, (at the time of this episode), so not only does she have golden nuggets to share about how to market yourself, but she has some speaking tips too!
What you’ll discover:
- How 7 year old Chantal started her on her quest to stand out.
- Why Chantal believes that USPs don’t work.
- How Chantal discovered the marketing strategy that works for her audience.
- What changes she has made to her marketing as a result.
- The test results for my marketing strategy revealed Iive.
- Ideas for effectively measuring your marketing.
- The three most important things that speakers need to get right with their marketing.
- How Chantal started speaking and ended up becoming the National President of the Professional Speaking Association.
- The three things that make a speaker memorable in Chantal’s experience.
All things Chantal:
https://appletreeuk.com/take-the-test/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/chantalcornelius/
https://appletreeuk.com/products/stand-out-strategies/
If you'd like to watch the video of the episode, you can do that here>>
Resources:
Grab Your From Blank Page to Stage Guide and Nail the Topic for a Client Winning Talk
Straight To The Top by Sarah Archer
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How to Set Your Self Free and Be More You with Michelle Minnikin - 301
The definition of ‘self-expression’ is the expression of one's feelings, thoughts, or ideas, through words, choices or actions, especially in writing, art, music, or dance.
Sounds easy doesn’t it?
The trouble is that we are all so bogged down with messages about how we should look, think, speak, and act; that it can make it difficult to let go of expectations and simply be ourselves... and for women this conditioning has many additional layers!
What about you?
How fully self-expressed are you?
Do you want to speak on stage but feel like an imposter positioning yourself as an expert in your niche?
Maybe you do speak, but on stage you find yourself playing safe, or trying to be what you think a presenter should be instead of sharing your personality with the audience?
Well, my guest today will be sharing some ideas to help you to be more you.
Michelle Minnikin is a Chartered Organisational Psychologist, speaker coach, and author of Good Girl Deprogramming.
For many years Michelle struggled under the weight of expectations, playing small, putting herself last and being a ‘good girl’, without even realising she was doing it.
Eventually she discovered she was suffering from ‘good girl conditioning’!
In this show she shines a light on what that is and how it has disempowered women for years, decades, and generations.
And whether you’re a man or a woman, who is burdened by how you are told you should be ... you will get tips in this show, for how to deprogram that conditioning and set yourself free!
What you’ll discover:
- How Michelle became a rebel and why
- Why Michelle is to women like Orpheus is to Neo in the matrix
- What’s on the other side of good girl conditioning.
- The resistance she has encountered to her book and ideas.
- How you can tell if you’re a good girl.
- How good girl conditioning may be holding you back.
- The three biggest things organisations can do to enable women to fulfil their potential.
- What obstacles you might encounter on the way to being fully self-expressed.
- The biggest challenges Michelle has encountered in creating her signature keynote
All things Michelle:
Good Girl Deprogramming Ebook and Paperback available at all good bookshops
Good Girl Deprogramming (Amazon)
Good Girl Deprogramming (Audible)
Find out if you’re a Good Girl at https://goodgirlquiz.co.uk/
Website - https://www.michelleminnikin.com/
Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mminnikin/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/goodgirldeprogramming
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@michelleminnikin
Books & Resources*:
Be More Pirate by Sam Conniff Allende
Speaking Resources:
Grab Your From Blank Page to Stage Guide and Nail the Topic for a Client Winning Talk
Want to get better at finding and sharing your stories then check out our FREE Five Day Snackable Story Challenge
Thanks for listening!
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