S3 Episode 3 - Exploring the Patterns that Shape Us: Therapeutic Exploration with Starla Sholl

02/11/24 • 25 min

Have you ever noticed yourself falling into the same patterns of thinking or behavior and felt frustrated that you keep repeating those cycles? Or perhaps you have certain emotional reactions or triggers that seem disproportionate to the situation at hand?
Join us for an insightful conversation with Starla Sholl, a renowned clinical social worker, as we talk about how our unconscious core beliefs—often originating in childhood—can unintentionally direct our choices and relationships in adulthood. Starla explains why insight into these patterns is the first step toward rewriting old narratives that may be holding us back.
Join us as we explore: what key experiences may have laid the foundations for the stories we subconsciously tell ourselves, how to identify repetitive thought loops before they spiral, and tools to shift engrained neural pathways with compassion and consciousness.
Here are the key takeaways from our conversation:

Gain clarity on unconscious beliefs and patterns that limit you
Release stuck emotions and trauma to clear inner blocks
Develop self-compassion and dissolve feelings of shame
Discover your authentic self and reclaim personal power
Create meaning and purpose aligned with your soul

Starla meets you where you're at with no judgment, only compassion. Her devotion is to help you remember the wholeness already inside you. Past clients often return to her years later for that unique caring presence as they navigate new chapters of life.
Starla Sholl, LCSW is a clinical social worker in private practice. Her approach integrates a foundation of psychodynamic psychotherapy with alternative and experiential healing modalities, including Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy, somatic work, subtle energy work, and breathwork. Her style of therapy also is influenced by her study of indigenous and shamanic healing.

Her 35+ years of experience, plus her training and experience with alternative healing methods, give her clients the opportunity to experience growth and healing in a very different way than with other therapists.
You can connect with Starla here:
Website: https://www.yourwellnessoptions.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/starlasholl/

Gain clarity on unconscious beliefs and patterns that limit you
Release stuck emotions and trauma to clear inner blocks
Develop self-compassion and dissolve feelings of shame
Discover your authentic self and reclaim personal power
Create meaning and purpose aligned with your soul

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S3 Episode 2 - Unlocking the Power of Negotiation with Alice Shikina

Let's talk about a superpower we often overlook: Negotiation. Yes, it's not just for the office & boardrooms. Effective negotiation skills are essential in EVERY aspect of life – from parenting to boardroom dealings. Every day presents opportunities for us to practice and hone this skill. Negotiation is an art, and each of us has a unique voice to create win-win situations.
Join us for an inspiring conversation with Alice Shikina, an expert mediator and negotiation coach, who is the founder of Shikina Mediation and Arbitration. Alice shares key strategies for effective negotiation in various settings - from negotiating salaries and work projects to everyday interactions. Listeners will learn the art of effective negotiation that will boost your confidence & unleash your negotiation potential.
Here are the key takeaways from our conversation:

Always Ask - You miss 100% of the opportunities you don't take. Don't negotiate against yourself before you even start the conversation. Boldly pursue what you want.
Everything Is Negotiable - From APR rates on your credit card to your company's software acquisitions - it's all up for discussion. Embrace this mindset and watch opportunities unfold.
Know Their Goals - When negotiating internally, like pitching new projects or seeking approvals, align your proposal with your company's objectives. Show how your request can boost revenues or cut costs, and you're more likely to succeed.
Make Offers, Not Just Asks - Pair your requests with valuable offers. Demonstrate what you can contribute in return for what you're asking. It's a give-and-take that often yields positive results.

Alice Shikina is a mediator and negotiation coach. She mediates workplace conflicts, divorces and family conflicts. Alice has a theatre background and she uses those skills to navigate interpersonal conflicts between parties. She also offers online negotiation and communication courses for entrepreneurs wanting to cultivate stronger skills to negotiate deals. Alice is in Oakland, CA and lives with her two teenage boys. In her spare time, she enjoys traveling, movies and spending time with her kids.

You can connect with Alice here:
Website: https://shikinanegotiationacademy.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aliceshikina/

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S3 Episode 4 - Navigating Successful Business Pivots: Knowing Your Why with Kerstin Martin

Have you ever thought about making a pivot in your business?
Running a business as a solopreneur comes with many rewards - the ability to be your own boss, work on projects you feel passionate about, and set your own schedule.
However, it also comes with challenges. As the sole person steering the ship, pivoting your business can feel risky and stressful.

Join us for an insightful conversation with Kerstin Martin, an expert solopreneur herself, as she discusses her lessons learned from her 3 successful business pivots made over her entrepreneurship journey.
Here are some key highlights from our conversation for anyone considering a business transition:
1. Trust Your Intuition
When facing big changes, self-doubt and fear creep in. However, beneath those surface emotions, your intuition knows the right path. Kerstin advises tuning into that inner wisdom during pivots, rather than ignoring it.
2. Create a Financial Safety Net
One strategy that enabled Kerstin to pivot with more peace of mind was building a safety net - both financial and emotional. Before transitioning her business, she made sure she had at least 6 months of living expenses saved up. Knowing the basics are covered allows you to focus fully on your new endeavor, versus worrying about paying the bills at the same time.
3. Connect to Your 'Why'
When things feel challenging, it's easy to lose sight of why you started down this path. Kerstin recommends journaling or writing a short mission statement to crystallize your motivations and vision. Revisiting this reminds you what called you to this work, and what awaits on the other side of the discomfort that naturally arises during change. It reconnects you to the joy and purpose that initially launched your solopreneur journey.
Navigating business pivots poses unique challenges for solopreneurs. However, by tapping into personal strengths like intuition, patience, and clarity of purpose, you can shepherd your company through seasons of change. What matters most is learning, listening, and taking the next right step from a place of courage and care - for both your business and yourself.
Kerstin Martin is an experienced Calm Business educator and late-bloomer solopreneur who built a successful internet business with only a small audience and no ads. As a neurodivergent HSP, she is passionate about teaching overwhelmed solopreneurs how to build, grow, and scale calm and profitable businesses without the hustle.
Her online courses and educational products focus on leveraging simplified systems, gentle marketing, and organic growth. Kerstin believes in acting from a place of integrity and kindness to build a business that fuels a joyful, rich, and grounded life.
You can connect with Kerstin here:
Website: https://mycalmbusiness.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerstinmartin/