EP 35 - Tia Fagan - How to Avoid Parenting From Fear
11/10/20 • 44 min
What a year 2020 has been already! Our children have so much to navigate at the minute, that it can be really daunting for parents to learn how to relinquish control.
It’s our responsibility to guide our children through all the challenges and obstacles that they are facing.
If you can relate to this, you’ll love this episode with Tia Fagan, who encourages us beautifully to parent from a place of curiosity rather than fear.
When we learn to let go and parent from the heart - it somehow takes the pressure away from us parents to be perfect and frees our children also from having to measure up all the time - it can be truly liberating.
Tia explains that when we release control and open up space for our children to learn, they begin to trust their own inner guidance. Our children are then better equipped to navigate the challenges they face, safe in the knowledge that they will weather their storms -with is by their sides. ~~~~~
Tia Fagan is a Certified Conscious Parent Coach, certified with Dr. Shefali Tsabary in the Conscious Parenting MethodTM and with the Jai Institute for Parenting.
As a mother of twin daughters, now in college, she has experienced each developmental stage of parenting children. Tia's passion is helping parents strengthen relationships, increase connection, and improve communication within their family.
Tia helps parents understand why their child is behaving the way they are and how-to guide, connect, and support them to create thriving relationships.
Tia has a gift for showing up without judgment and guiding with support and compassion.
Website: https://tiafagan.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tiafagancoach/
Masks Off Podcast : Who are you behind the masks you wear? Begin undoing patterns. Stop living for others. Start healing. Shift your mindset.
Tia Fagan and Kim Gross talk about the masks we have worn and those we continue to work on removing.
Tune in for a raw and real talk about awakening ourselves, life questions we ponder, wisdom teachings, and how we peel back the masks we wear while supporting and guiding others to do the same.
Remove your masks, live your life.
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg ~~~~~
Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child :
All too often parents say to me :
“My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.” Well, I have a resource for you. Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions
It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!
Breathing Through BIG Emotions :
If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that can get you out of many sticky situations :
📍www.caigraham.com/breathe
Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast
If you need to get in touch - Please email me at [email protected]
Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy
What a year 2020 has been already! Our children have so much to navigate at the minute, that it can be really daunting for parents to learn how to relinquish control.
It’s our responsibility to guide our children through all the challenges and obstacles that they are facing.
If you can relate to this, you’ll love this episode with Tia Fagan, who encourages us beautifully to parent from a place of curiosity rather than fear.
When we learn to let go and parent from the heart - it somehow takes the pressure away from us parents to be perfect and frees our children also from having to measure up all the time - it can be truly liberating.
Tia explains that when we release control and open up space for our children to learn, they begin to trust their own inner guidance. Our children are then better equipped to navigate the challenges they face, safe in the knowledge that they will weather their storms -with is by their sides. ~~~~~
Tia Fagan is a Certified Conscious Parent Coach, certified with Dr. Shefali Tsabary in the Conscious Parenting MethodTM and with the Jai Institute for Parenting.
As a mother of twin daughters, now in college, she has experienced each developmental stage of parenting children. Tia's passion is helping parents strengthen relationships, increase connection, and improve communication within their family.
Tia helps parents understand why their child is behaving the way they are and how-to guide, connect, and support them to create thriving relationships.
Tia has a gift for showing up without judgment and guiding with support and compassion.
Website: https://tiafagan.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tiafagancoach/
Masks Off Podcast : Who are you behind the masks you wear? Begin undoing patterns. Stop living for others. Start healing. Shift your mindset.
Tia Fagan and Kim Gross talk about the masks we have worn and those we continue to work on removing.
Tune in for a raw and real talk about awakening ourselves, life questions we ponder, wisdom teachings, and how we peel back the masks we wear while supporting and guiding others to do the same.
Remove your masks, live your life.
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg ~~~~~
Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child :
All too often parents say to me :
“My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.” Well, I have a resource for you. Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions
It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!
Breathing Through BIG Emotions :
If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that can get you out of many sticky situations :
📍www.caigraham.com/breathe
Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast
If you need to get in touch - Please email me at [email protected]
Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy
Previous Episode
EP 34 - Elena Joy Thurston - Helping Straight Parents Better Understand LGBTQ
Throughout this episode, I came from a place of learning - and Elena kindly fielded my clunky questions with kindness and compassion.
We dived right in, discussing the dangers of conversion therapy (there is a 57% suicide rate with this treatment); and how this comes from wanting the ‘best for our kids’ whilst parenting from fear.
75% of women (yes - us Mums) have had a negative experience in sexuality and as a result, we are parenting from a place of deep protection and trauma.
“When fear leads the show, that's when we make decisions that are regrettable.”
LGBTQ is the only marginalized communities who are not born into families who are of the same marginalized communities. The parents do not ‘get it’ and as a result need to be intentional in getting a greater understanding.
Elena suggests how parents might field these conversations; and how with greater understanding and knowledge - we will be best serving ourselves and future generations by parenting and grand-parenting better in the future. ~~~
Elena Joy Thurston is an inspirational speaker and founder of the Pride and Joy Foundation.
She grew up in a turbulent home, joined a conservative church as a teenager, put herself through college, married and birthed 4 beautiful children, and then.... Life 2.0 brought a divorce, leaving/getting kicked out of her church, a beautiful love story, and a successful new career!
Her viral TEDx talk regarding her experience with Conversion Therapy has paved the way for speaking engagements around the country.
📍https://youtu.be/rIhPZMC4UEg
Audiences have included ABC, CBS, and Fox news stations, the First Event in Boston, the Seacoast Wellness Series in New Hampshire, the THRIVE conference in Utah, as well as multiple prints and online media and podcasts. The Pride and Joy Foundation is dedicated to building self-awareness and safety in LGBTQ families and their allies.
📍 www.prideandjoyfoundation.com ~~~~~
Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child :
All too often parents say to me :
“My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.” Well, I have a resource for you. Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions
It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!
Breathing Through BIG Emotions :
If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that can get you out of many sticky situations :
📍www.caigraham.com/breathe
Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast
If you need to get in touch - Please email me at [email protected]
Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy
Next Episode
EP 36 - Andrea Davis - Intentional Tech Use - Using Technology Wisely
How do parents guide their children through the technology minefield?
We know the pitfalls after all! Whilst our kids (who have grown up with technology,) cannot recognize the problems involved.
Andrea is all about using technology for Creating - Communicating & Connecting rather than just Consuming.
I discuss with Andrea whether parents are “entitled” to police their children’s tech use.
We discuss the importance of frank and open conversations with our kids.
There is so much to discuss:
Pornography Cyber Bullying Social Media Video Games Time Management
Andrea suggests creating a Family Tech Plan - based on the open discussions that you have already had with your children.
We talk about how we can differentiate the use of constructive and destructive screen use (Education -v- mindless scrolling)
The Resources we discussed :
Andrea’s Discussion Guide: Creating a Tech-Healthy Family: is available on Amazon NOW! https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Tech-Healthy-Family-Must-Have-Conversations/dp/1734885904
Colin Kartchner: Save the kids website and his TED Talk : https://youtu.be/uMb0wqTqE_4
Adam Alter - TED Talk Why screens make us unhappy : https://youtu.be/0K5OO2ybueM and his book Irresistible
Video Gamers : Book : Glow Kids
Protect Young Minds and Protect Young Eyes - they talk a lot about Pornography and Online Safety
Pornography : Fight the New Drug - raising awareness about pornography
~~~~~ Andrea Davis is the founder of Better Screen Time. She has a B.A. in secondary education. However, her greatest learning has come from being in the (tech) trenches as a stay-at-home mom. She lives in beautiful Hood River, Oregon with her husband, Tyler, and their five children.
betterscreentime.com
https://www.instagram.com/betterscreentime/
https://www.facebook.com/betterscreentime
https://betterscreentime.teachable.com/courses/
Here is Andrea’s Freebie : https://betterscreentime.com/grab-your-free-quick-guide-to-creating-a-family-technology-plan/
~~~~~
Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child :
All too often parents say to me :
“My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.” Well, I have a resource for you. Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions
It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!
Breathing Through BIG Emotions :
If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations :
📍www.caigraham.com/breathe
Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast
If you need to get in touch - Please email me at [email protected]
Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy
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