EP 30 - Sonja Montiel : Schooling -v- Learning - Rebuilding Our Expectations
10/06/20 • 44 min
In this episode we are talking about some of the difficulties our children are experiencing whilst transitioning back to school/university after a prolonged period away from education due to the Coronavirus.
We talk about how we can help our children to redefine what education means to them - and rebuilding expectations; because things are changing so rapidly at the minute.
We also talk about the importance of LEARNING rather than education just being the grades that can be achieved at school & universities. Tertiary education is not necessarily a path that suits every child - and that’s OK. There are other options available - and equally important. ~~ Sonja Montiel has served more than 20 years in the college admissions profession, having extensive experience in the areas of freshman, transfer, and international admissions.
Sonja founded College Confidence in 2002 with a philosophy that college planning must be driven by the teen through reflection, transparency, and accountability, which can only be done with parents who are empathetic, knowledgeable, and patient. She believes that teens are empowered when they understand all of their options after high school through conversations that being between parents and their teens.
Website links and social media links: https://www.collegeconfidence.net/about https://academy.collegeconfidence.net/parent-university https://www.facebook.com/collegeconfidentparents ~~~~~
Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child :
All too often parents say to me :
“My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.” Well, I have a resource for you. Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions
It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!
Breathing Through BIG Emotions :
If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations :
📍www.caigraham.com/breathe
Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast
If you need to get in touch - Please email me at [email protected]
Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy
In this episode we are talking about some of the difficulties our children are experiencing whilst transitioning back to school/university after a prolonged period away from education due to the Coronavirus.
We talk about how we can help our children to redefine what education means to them - and rebuilding expectations; because things are changing so rapidly at the minute.
We also talk about the importance of LEARNING rather than education just being the grades that can be achieved at school & universities. Tertiary education is not necessarily a path that suits every child - and that’s OK. There are other options available - and equally important. ~~ Sonja Montiel has served more than 20 years in the college admissions profession, having extensive experience in the areas of freshman, transfer, and international admissions.
Sonja founded College Confidence in 2002 with a philosophy that college planning must be driven by the teen through reflection, transparency, and accountability, which can only be done with parents who are empathetic, knowledgeable, and patient. She believes that teens are empowered when they understand all of their options after high school through conversations that being between parents and their teens.
Website links and social media links: https://www.collegeconfidence.net/about https://academy.collegeconfidence.net/parent-university https://www.facebook.com/collegeconfidentparents ~~~~~
Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child :
All too often parents say to me :
“My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.” Well, I have a resource for you. Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions
It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!
Breathing Through BIG Emotions :
If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations :
📍www.caigraham.com/breathe
Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast
If you need to get in touch - Please email me at [email protected]
Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy
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EP 29 - Kim Muench : Parenting with Intention and Guidance
"Our children come through us, not for us, but for the lessons they reflect to us, during their journey, in an effort to grow us up along the way."
When we were young we were told that children should be seen and not heard. Now - as parents ourselves, we are told that our children’s needs are paramount. Somewhere along the line we have missed out! We are often told to trust our gut, our intuition. But how can we trust it (or even hear it) if we have not yet discovered who we truly are ourselves? Through having years of putting other’s needs first, and not having a voice, many of us struggle to follow our own instincts; and yet Kim and I are in agreement that it is on our instinct that we must rely as parents - because we know our family’s needs the best.
In this episode Kim and I explore the importance of hearing that inner voice and sometimes, relinquishing control. As parents, it’s scary to drop the reins - but by allowing our children to lead the way in their own lives, we set ourselves up for more connection and less confrontation.
Whilst listening to our own heart we must teach our children to do the same; and with that comes the likelihood of things not always going according to plan - and that’s totally OK!
~~~~~ Kim Muench (pronounced minch, like pinch with an “m”) is a Jai Institute for Parenting Certified Parent Coach who specializes in working with parents of adolescents (between 10-25 years of age). Passionate about educating, supporting and encouraging moms and dads to parent with intention and guidance rather than fear and control, Kim leads with compassion and without judgment through her one-on-one coaching, small group sessions, and local community workshops on topics such as Values & Boundaries, Open Communication, and Self-Care in Parenting. In addition, Kim facilitates a worldwide support community through Meetup.com on Zoom for moms of tweens and teens called Moms Empowering Moms. Kim is a published author who began by writing about her own parenting journey in 2011 with a memoir entitled My Mothers Footprints: A Story of Faith, Calm, Courage, Patience and Grace, she is currently working on a second book about how she discovered who she truly is through her parenting and how this is an opportunity for all parents. You can find out more about Kim’s services as well as read her blog at www.realifeparentguide.com. Kim is also on LinkedIn and Facebook at Real Life Parent Guide.
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Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child :
All too often parents say to me :
“My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.” Well, I have a resource for you. Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions
It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!
Breathing Through BIG Emotions :
If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations :
📍www.caigraham.com/breathe
Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast
If you need to get in touch - Please email me at [email protected]
Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy
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EP 31 - JoBeth Evans - Helping Your Teenager to Find Joy in the Unknown
There is a great deal of uncertainty in the world at the minute; and our kids are bearing the brunt of this. They have been away from school for many months - and now they are entering an environment that should feel familiar - and yet it’s not; because the education system has been given a bit of an overhaul because of COVID.
Taking it one step further, our students are struggling to adjust to university & college life that doesn’t even compare to that of last year.
In this episode, we are discussing how our teenagers are adjusting - and how we can support them through this process. JoBeth suggests trying thoughts on for size.
It’s important to acknowledge that we don’t know what’s going to happen in the future - and we need to be OK with that. To accept that outside circumstances aren’t going to make us happy and she encourages us to find joy - through a more positive mindset. It’s not necessarily the big things - it’s the little things that bring us joy ... a soft blanket and the first drink of coffee in the morning. It’s so important for parents to watch our words. We need to give them thoughts that serve them better.
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JoBeth is a college instructor, life coach, wife, mother of two, and foster care advocate. JoBeth has been teaching Public Speaking at the University of Arkansas for 5 years. Previous to that, she was a high school teacher. JoBeth has always felt a pull towards helping others and as a high school senior all she knew is that she wanted to help others.
Today she is doing just that, helping others. JoBeth works diligently to provide quality education and coaching to her clients. From her experience as a college instructor and her personal experience as a college student, JoBeth has created a coaching platform that gives college girls everything they need to do all the things in college and still enjoy life.
P.S. Are you curious about what your daughter should know before her first day of college? Even if she's already started go to www.jobethevans.com/15questions to see what questions she should know the answers to - so you can set her up for success TODAY (even if she's already started!) ~~~~~
Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child :
All too often parents say to me :
“My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.” Well, I have a resource for you. Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions
It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!
Breathing Through BIG Emotions :
If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations :
📍www.caigraham.com/breathe
Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast
If you need to get in touch - Please email me at [email protected]
Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy
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