69 - Honest Non Monogamy 101 | Mel Cassidy

10/19/20 • 61 min

Mel Cassidy is a relationship coach and sex-positive nerd who guides social misfits and cultural rebels to experiences of joyful, embodied, authentic open relationships. Mel is certified in Counselling for Intimacy and Relationships, Holistic Peer Counselling, and is a ZEGG Forum facilitator. They are a student of the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sexology and pursue studies focused on trauma-informed approaches to the mind-body relationship. Creator of The Monogamy Detox online program, they are dedicated to creating trauma-sensitive spaces where all beings can flourish.

With over two decades of experience teaching and facilitating in groups small and large, Mel has a reputation for innovation, novelty, and both thinking and living outside the box.

Mel is queer, experiences relationships as a polyamorous individual, and lives, loves, and dances on the traditional and unceded territories of the K'ómoks Nation in British Columbia, Canada.

Topics Covered:

What is non-monogamy?
The shadow side to patriarchal monogamy
What is the monogamy hangover?
Mythologies and fantasies about relationships
Why are those who choose to live a non monogamous lifestyle pathologized?
How to navigate NRE, patterns of chasing/addiction of NRE
Polyfuckary vs. Polyamory
Polysaturation
The 4 dimensions of intimacy in relationships
The relationship escalator
How to manage trauma patterns, distress, activation and attachment wounds with polyamory
How to build trust, safety & compersion in a non monogamous relationship
How to balance multiple relational needs
Somatics in our healing journey
Do psychedelics make you polyamorus
Shame & stigma around non monogamy

Connect with Mel:
Website: http://radicalrelationshipcoaching.ca/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radicalrelating
Adventures through the mind podcast: https://www.jameswjesso.com/the-role-of-psychedelic-in-healthy-relationships-psychedelic-cafe-3/

With over two decades of experience teaching and facilitating in groups small and large, Mel has a reputation for innovation, novelty, and both thinking and living outside the box.

Mel is queer, experiences relationships as a polyamorous individual, and lives, loves, and dances on the traditional and unceded territories of the K'ómoks Nation in British Columbia, Canada.

Topics Covered:

What is non-monogamy?
The shadow side to patriarchal monogamy
What is the monogamy hangover?
Mythologies and fantasies about relationships
Why are those who choose to live a non monogamous lifestyle pathologized?
How to navigate NRE, patterns of chasing/addiction of NRE
Polyfuckary vs. Polyamory
Polysaturation
The 4 dimensions of intimacy in relationships
The relationship escalator
How to manage trauma patterns, distress, activation and attachment wounds with polyamory
How to build trust, safety & compersion in a non monogamous relationship
How to balance multiple relational needs
Somatics in our healing journey
Do psychedelics make you polyamorus
Shame & stigma around non monogamy

Previous Episode

68 - Enter the Morphic Field to Discover Your Purpose | Megan Gunsorek

Megan says that you have an army behind you— Guides, Ancestors, Archangels and other helpers— and their purpose is to protect you, support you, and guide you towards learning the lessons you are to learn here on earth, ultimately for the expansion of your soul. She says that chances are, your team of helpers played a role in getting you here, listening to this podcast. Megan has the ability to connect you to them and ultimately your life purpose through the access of The Morphic Field. Megan is able to channel The Other Side’s healing energy working directly with your helpers in the Field. She guides you through the release and healing of Ancestral, Familial and Personal entanglements & attachments so that you can remember on a soul level who you are, live your life purpose and experience a more balanced, loving, joyful, and fulfilled YOU, free from the burdens that are not yours to carry.
Topics Covered:

Megan’s prophetic dream where she met her future self which gave her guidance on her life’s purpose
The morphic field and what it exactly is
Family Systemic Constellations & Internal Family Systems
Releasing ancestral and familial entanglement
Helping ancestors cross over to the other side
Releasing negative soul attachments
Removing burdens that are not yours to carry
Reintegrating “lost” parts of you that split during trauma
Megan facilitates a personal Morphic Field reading for me

Connect with Megan:
https://themorphicfield.com

Next Episode

70 - Your Demons are Misunderstood: Shadow Work to Improve your Relationship with Food

This shadow self represents the parts of us we no longer claim to be our own, including inherent positive qualities. Although we deny them in our attempt to cast them out, we don’t get rid of them. We repress them; they are part of our unconscious. We can’t eliminate the shadow. Remaining unconscious of the shadow impacts your relationships with others, yourself and also with food. It has serious consequences to your physical & mental health & well-being if you keep it hidden. You can't heal what is hidden. Shadow work is the active work of finding those scared parts of yourself in the dark & loving them back into the light. There are no exceptions here. The nature of being human is to possess both a light and a dark side, and we need to embrace that. Shadow work is work of our light and dark and everything in between. Benefits of shadow work with food, health, and unconscious feelings around our body image include Deeper love and acceptance of yourself, Better relationships with others, including your relationship with food, More confidence to be your authentic self, More mental, emotional, and spiritual clarity, Increased compassion and understanding for others, particularly those you dislike, Enhanced creativity, Improved physical and mental health, More courage to face the unknown and truly live life, Access to your Soul or Higher Self, A feeling of Wholeness, peace and fulfillment.
How can we start use shadow work to heal our relationship with food? In today's podcast I discuss a 10 step process on how to do this.
Shadow work infographic:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CGWJMnADRCi/
Connect with Colleen:
Colleen's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nutritiontranslator/
Colleen's Website https://www.nutritiontranslator.com/
Work with Colleen 1:1 https://colleenkuhn.typeform.com/to/Q5xWVJ