10. Finding Your Identity: You Are More Than What You Do

06/25/20 • 68 min

In our culture, it can be easy to link what we do with who we are.

In today's episode, Pete and Kim Vargas interview ex-Texas Tech quarterback, founder of the 806 Gathering and dear friend for 30 years, Cody Hudges.

Growing up in a small town, playing sports was everything to Cody. Being a natural at almost everything he played, he quickly became the home town hero.

But being the hometown hero comes with the weight of other's expectations for your life.

In this conversation, you will hear Cody's life journey, and an honest dialog about finding your identity and purpose is beyond the things that you do.

LINKS:

Read the full blog here: thenotsoperfectplan.com

Episode Minute By Minute:

0:02 What to expect today
2:19 Why Kim is excited about today’s episode
3:35 Welcome Cody
5:18 Cody’s dream growing up
16:31 When Cody got recruited for college
21:24 When Cody got injured and how he handled it
27:57 What Cody learned from ”riding the bench”
31:12 Cody’s last game
36:20 You have the power to be hopeful
40:00 The result of lessons learned
42:54 Cody’s fresh start
50:42 Be present where you are
52:07 Cody’s advice for parents
57:15 Cody’s advice to those living someone else’s dream for them
58:26 Who you need to surround yourself with
1:03 Pete and Kim’s biggest takeaways

In our culture, it can be easy to link what we do with who we are.

In today's episode, Pete and Kim Vargas interview ex-Texas Tech quarterback, founder of the 806 Gathering and dear friend for 30 years, Cody Hudges.

Growing up in a small town, playing sports was everything to Cody. Being a natural at almost everything he played, he quickly became the home town hero.

But being the hometown hero comes with the weight of other's expectations for your life.

In this conversation, you will hear Cody's life journey, and an honest dialog about finding your identity and purpose is beyond the things that you do.

LINKS:

Read the full blog here: thenotsoperfectplan.com

Episode Minute By Minute:

0:02 What to expect today
2:19 Why Kim is excited about today’s episode
3:35 Welcome Cody
5:18 Cody’s dream growing up
16:31 When Cody got recruited for college
21:24 When Cody got injured and how he handled it
27:57 What Cody learned from ”riding the bench”
31:12 Cody’s last game
36:20 You have the power to be hopeful
40:00 The result of lessons learned
42:54 Cody’s fresh start
50:42 Be present where you are
52:07 Cody’s advice for parents
57:15 Cody’s advice to those living someone else’s dream for them
58:26 Who you need to surround yourself with
1:03 Pete and Kim’s biggest takeaways

Previous Episode

9. Reclaiming Your Legacy and Creating Your Dream Marriage

A good life and a good marriage isn't something you find, it is something that you make.

In the episode, Pete and Kim interview The founders of Family Brand, Chris and Melissa Smith

Chris and Melissa share the story of how their plan started to go off track after the birth of their second child and they found themselves on the verge of divorce.

Fast forward to today, Chris and Melissa are on a mission to help families discover how to intentional culture in their home that leads to greater love, joy, and connection while reducing stress and overwhelm.

In this interview, you will hear their processes of overcoming the odds along with practical wisdom and advice on how to build your legacy and create your dream life.

LINKS:

Read the full blog: thenotsoperfectplan.com thecampfireeffect.com
familybrand.com
Family Brand on Facebook
Family Brand on Instagram

Quick Episode Summary:

0:19 Welcome, the Smith’s!
2:02 Get to know the Smith’s
5:37 When Chris and Melissa hit rock-bottom in their marriage
9:27 The steps Chris and Melissa took to fix their marriage
13:25 The importance of seeking wisdom in difficult times
16:48 Stay away from people who only have an opinion about your marriage
18:27 Chris and Melissa’s advice for couples considering divorce
21:29 Can you fall out of love?
26:03 How you feel now may not be the reality
28:44 Take your marriage from good to great
30:55 How the to connect with the Smith
32:30 The Smith family mission statement
36:40 Final thoughts and advice

Next Episode

11. Life in Isolation with Lex Burgeson

When COVID-19 took the world by storm, families started sheltering in place and social distancing to keep their families safe.

While it's an uncomfortable change, there's a strange sense of relief knowing that everyone else is in the same situation.

But what if you were the only family that had to isolate? What if you were the only ones who had to cancel birthday parties, family gatherings, and think twice before visiting the grocery store.

In early 2017, the Burgeson family found themselves in this scenario after their oldest daughter underwent a bone marrow transplant from their youngest daughter.

In this interview, Kim Vargas interviews Lex Burgeson about her family's incredible journey with self-isolation, because of this life-threatening disease has lead to deeper connections and richer relationships and a life full of hope.

LINKS:

Read the full blog here: thenotsoperfectplan.com

Quick Episode Summary:

0:02 What to expect today

1:36 Lex’s plan parenting

2:39 When Lex found out her daughter was sick

7:19 How Ava is processing her illness

19:00 How life looked after the proceeder

22:02 Living a life of isolation

25:14 When the Burgeson felt safe to go out again

27::14 How COVID-19 affected the Burgesons

32:20 How the super hero sisters are doing today