298: How to Work with and Tame the Inner Critic with Jenny Jansen
01/20/22 • 41 min
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All of us have an inner critic – the part that reminds us of our limits, our failures and tries to “keep us in line.” It’s that voice inside your head that can be critical, judgmental and even mean. Though it’s just one part of who we are, the inner critic is one of those parts that can be especially painful and stressful to deal with.
Not only does the inner critic impact our sense of self-worth, but it also keeps us stuck and small in life (although it thinks it’s keeping us safe). We will often find this part standing between us and the dreams that are in our heart, telling us all the reasons why we can’t or shouldn’t.
That is what Adult Chair® Coach Jenny Jansen encountered when she was considering joining The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Program. She knew her heart was telling her to take the leap, but her inner critic dialed the volume up and tried to keep her stuck in fear.
In this episode, Jenny tells the story of how she used The Adult Chair® to work with and transform her inner critic and how that was the first step toward living a life where she feels purposeful, energized and successful. Jenny shares a detailed example of doing her own parts work, helping illustrate what this work looks like in real life and how transformational it is.
Listen to discover:
- How Jenny transformed her inner critic from her Adult Chair
- The tools Jenny used to work with her inner critic
- A beautiful parts work example from Jenny’s work
- How Jenny overcame her fears about The Adult Chair Coaching Certification and became an amazingly successful coach
As Jenny worked with her inner critic, she discovered that underneath the blame and shame it was throwing her way was fear. This is usually the case for our Adolescent parts – they are afraid and want to keep us safe. When we turn towards them with our healthy Adult voice and let them know they’re ok, they transform.
Jenny’s story is a powerful example of how the goal is not to get rid of parts of ourselves but rather to integrate them into our whole self, with our healthy Adult in charge.
“I feel like my inner critic was born when I was born.” - Jenny Jansen
“When I turned toward it, I realized there was so much fear underneath.” - Jenny Jansen
“The more you turn away from that voice, it gets louder.” - Michelle Chalfant
“When we’re able to turn toward those parts and get to know them, they morph.” - Michelle Chalfant
“A lot of times, we mix up feeling safe with feeling familiar.” - Jenny Jansen
“What is it going to take to move your body path in line with your soul path?” - Jenny Jansen
“When we take these risks and work with these inner parts and walk through our fears, we become more authentic. We live more from our true self, our true essence, and we have an experience of it.” - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Jenny Jansen Website
https://www.trueconsciousliving.com/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!)
https://theadultchair.com/certification
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!)
https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
All of us have an inner critic – the part that reminds us of our limits, our failures and tries to “keep us in line.” It’s that voice inside your head that can be critical, judgmental and even mean. Though it’s just one part of who we are, the inner critic is one of those parts that can be especially painful and stressful to deal with.
Not only does the inner critic impact our sense of self-worth, but it also keeps us stuck and small in life (although it thinks it’s keeping us safe). We will often find this part standing between us and the dreams that are in our heart, telling us all the reasons why we can’t or shouldn’t.
That is what Adult Chair® Coach Jenny Jansen encountered when she was considering joining The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Program. She knew her heart was telling her to take the leap, but her inner critic dialed the volume up and tried to keep her stuck in fear.
In this episode, Jenny tells the story of how she used The Adult Chair® to work with and transform her inner critic and how that was the first step toward living a life where she feels purposeful, energized and successful. Jenny shares a detailed example of doing her own parts work, helping illustrate what this work looks like in real life and how transformational it is.
Listen to discover:
- How Jenny transformed her inner critic from her Adult Chair
- The tools Jenny used to work with her inner critic
- A beautiful parts work example from Jenny’s work
- How Jenny overcame her fears about The Adult Chair Coaching Certification and became an amazingly successful coach
As Jenny worked with her inner critic, she discovered that underneath the blame and shame it was throwing her way was fear. This is usually the case for our Adolescent parts – they are afraid and want to keep us safe. When we turn towards them with our healthy Adult voice and let them know they’re ok, they transform.
Jenny’s story is a powerful example of how the goal is not to get rid of parts of ourselves but rather to integrate them into our whole self, with our healthy Adult in charge.
“I feel like my inner critic was born when I was born.” - Jenny Jansen
“When I turned toward it, I realized there was so much fear underneath.” - Jenny Jansen
“The more you turn away from that voice, it gets louder.” - Michelle Chalfant
“When we’re able to turn toward those parts and get to know them, they morph.” - Michelle Chalfant
“A lot of times, we mix up feeling safe with feeling familiar.” - Jenny Jansen
“What is it going to take to move your body path in line with your soul path?” - Jenny Jansen
“When we take these risks and work with these inner parts and walk through our fears, we become more authentic. We live more from our true self, our true essence, and we have an experience of it.” - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Jenny Jansen Website
https://www.trueconsciousliving.com/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!)
https://theadultchair.com/certification
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!)
https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
Previous Episode
297: Overcoming Fear with Scout Sobel
When we think about the lives we want to live – the things we want to do and experience and the big dreams we have – the ego will give us a thousand reasons “why not.”
Some of these reasons might be real traumas or health issues we have to overcome; others are figments of the ego’s imagination...fear and discomfort that scream at us to stay in the safe place.
But one thing is certain: anyone who has created more for themselves has overcome struggles and fears to build the life of their dreams.
My guest, Scout Sobel, shares her story of working through depression and bipolar disorder and overcoming fear to become a successful entrepreneur, building a company rooted in emotional health and inspiring others with her podcasts about business and self-care. She shares her healing journey, her non-negotiable practices that keep her body and mind in balance and how she continues overcoming fear daily to create a life beyond what she thought possible.
Listen to discover:
- How Scout became an active participant in her own healing
- The rituals and practices Scout uses each day to stay emotionally healthy
- The power of taking “radical responsibility” for our emotions
- The importance of not settling and how to find a framework for life that works with how you’re uniquely wired
- Listening to your inner compass and finding safety in your emotions
Scout’s story is full of deep wisdom about how we actually grow and heal as humans. She talks about the power of acceptance, and how her life began to change when she accepted that challenges were part of being human and she took responsibility for her life and healing.
As we go into a new year, I hope this episode inspires you to take radical responsibility for YOUR dreams and make this year more than you can imagine!
“The real work is within you.” - Scout Sobel
“There is no such thing as a magic pill.” - Michelle Chalfant
“I think one of my biggest breakthroughs came from accepting and not resisting.” - Scout Sobel
“If you’re struggling with anything, I really believe that your healing is behind that resistance.” - Scout Sobel
“You have to walk through discomfort and challenging moments to get what you want in this lifetime.” - Scout Sobel
“Acceptance doesn’t mean you freaking like it.” - Michelle Chalfant
“If you are experiencing fear that is causing you to be paralyzed or remain stagnant in your life, I want you to ask yourself, ‘What future has fear already robbed you of?’” - Scout Sobel
LINKS & RESOURCES
Scout Sobel Website
Scout Sobel Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/scoutsobel/
Okay Sis (Scout Sobel Podcast)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/okay-sis/id1434353917
The Emotional Entrepreneur (Scout Sobel Podcast)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-emotional-entrepreneur-podcast/id1505252696
“The Emotional Entrepreneur” (Scout Sobel Book)
https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Entrepreneur-Scout-Sobel/dp/0578951754
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!)
https://theadultchair.com/certification
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!)
https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
Next Episode
299: Healing from Heartbreak and Finding Self-Love with Gabrielle Stone
A month-long trip to Europe might sound like a dream, but for Gabrielle Stone, it was one more curveball during one of the hardest years of her life.
After catching her husband cheating on her, getting divorced, falling head over heels for a new man and planning a dream trip to Europe with him, days before they were scheduled to leave, he told her he would be going on his own.
With a plane ticket in her name and a choice to stay home or leap from the world of “serial monogamy” to a solo adventure, Gabrielle chose the path of adventure, and in doing so, began a journey of self-discovery and healing that has become the “Eat, Pray, #FML” movement.
Alone with her emotions halfway across the world, Gabrielle started journaling and reflecting on herself and the patterns in her life. Through connecting with herself and discovering what self-love really means, she healed heartbreak, trauma and abandonment, and today, she vulnerably and authentically shares her journey with the hope of inspiring others.
Listen to discover:
- Gabrielle's story of healing from abandonment, trauma, divorce and depression
- Practical, tangible ways to love yourself
- Gabrielle's "self-love cocktail" and how you can create your own
- The "thought onion" process for working with negative and subconscious thoughts
- The connection between trauma and the relationships we attract
Gabrielle is relatable, funny and honest as she talks about life, relationships and changing our unhealed patterns so we can change our lives. I hope her story is an inspiration to anyone who needs to feel like you’re not alone and find joy in the healing process.
"That relationship was really what pushed me to go heal a lot of this abandonment stuff." - Gabrielle Stone
"There's something very therapeutic about physically writing in a journal." - Gabrielle Stone
"When I realized that loving yourself is as simple as giving your soul the things it loves, it totally changed everything for me." - Gabrielle Stone
"We don't take enough time – down time – to get to know who we are." - Michelle Chalfant
"When you keep attracting the same kind of people into your life, you have to look inward." - Michelle Chalfant
LINKS & RESOURCES
Gabrielle Stone Website
Gabrielle Stone Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/gabriellestone/
Gabrielle Stone TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@gabrielle_stone
“Eat, Pray, #FML” (Gabrielle Stone book)
https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Pray-FML-Gabrielle-Stone/dp/1733963707
“The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl” (Gabrielle Stone book)
https://www.amazon.com/Ridiculous-Misadventures-Single-Girl-Pray/dp/B09G5GRJJM
FML Talk (Gabrielle Stone podcast)
https://www.eatprayfml.com/fml-talk
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!)
https://theadultchair.com/certification
MORE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair® Website
The Adult Chair® Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership/
The Adult Chair® Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events/
The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification (Doors Close January 31!)
https://theadultchair.com/certification
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfantCo/
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/
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