The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Childhood Wounds, Family Systems, People-Pleasing, Relationships, Self-Worth

Summary:

I think it’s safe to say that none of us had a perfect childhood, and we all carry around behaviours and unhealed pain that doesn’t serve us. But it doesn’t have to be that way: our past may have created our patterns, but we can change them with some self-awareness and the right tools. Join my bestie Vienna Pharaon and me as we dive into understanding and overcoming wounds from our Family of Origin, so you can move beyond your frustrating patterns in life and love and into a more liberated way of being.

Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Her first book, The Origins of You, hits shelves on February 21st, 2023.

Discover:

• How unhealed pain or “wounds” from our Family of Origin manifest in our adult behaviours
• Why it’s so difficult to hold the paradox of being both disappointed with and grateful for our upbringing
• Five common “origin wounds” and how they show up in our adult lives
• How to identify and start to heal the origin wounds that hold you back

00:00 Intro

02:10 How childhood wounds impact us today

13:57 You don’t need to have a traumatic childhood to have wounds

18:19 Being both disappointed with and grateful for aspects of your upbringing

29:23 Examples of origin wounds

32:35 The belonging wound

36:53 The prioritization wound

45:15 Safety and trust wounds

55:42 How to begin healing

Links:

• Website | viennapharaon.com
• Instagram | @mindfulmft
• Book | The Origins of You
• 6 Week LIVE Coaching Experience with Vienna

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One of the most popular videos I’ve ever recorded was ‘why do men follow Instagram models?’ So I wanted to dive deeper into a topic that is so complex and often controversial. This week I introduce my good friend Dr. Laura McNally who is a psychologist that has been writing on this topic for some years. We discuss the entire life cycle — how children are socialized and shaped by their environments, how this impacts young adults and their ideas about beauty and sex, how sexual arousal changes the way we think and how monitoring our body image shifts our cognitive function. Why is it that sex and porn addiction most often impact men, while body image and eating disorders almost exclusively impact women? It turns out this isn't a coincidence. Importantly, this is not a discussion that aims to tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t do with their Instagram or social media, it is an exploration of the research that will hopefully leave you feeling better informed about what works for you.

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Discover:

• You can't change anything you don't take responsibility for
• The root of the problem
• Porn, triggers and responses
• Dissecting the questions that come up around IG models
• Where does it all start?
• Growing up on the apps and the issues they create for children
• Anti-sex vs. anti-women
• Sexuality and religion
• How we cheat ourselves out of connection
• How we buy into "you'll never be hot enough"

You can find Laura’s work on Instagram @actualpsychology https://www.instagram.com/actualpsychology/

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Our relationships often carry the imprints of our childhood, especially when it comes to the complex and generally unspoken father wound. In this first episode of a four-part series, I dive deep into how early experiences with our father figures — whether through absence, emotional distance, or even subtle disconnection — shape our adult relationships in powerful ways. We explore how these wounds manifest in patterns like seeking unavailable partners, feeling inadequate, or grappling with the fear of never being enough. By understanding these dynamics and the relational cycles they create, we can begin to shift from a place of pain toward healing and deeper connection.

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Themes: Childhood Trauma, Healing Father Wound, Emotional Healing, Father-Daughter Relationships, Father-Son Relationships, Relationship Patterns, Toxic Relationships, Emotional Unavailability, Self-Worth Issues, Overcoming Trauma, Relationship Healing, Inner Child Work, Generational Trauma, Parent-Child Dynamics, Attachment Styles, Fatherhood Impact, Healing From the Past, Emotional Connection, Personal Growth and Relationships

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Back by very popular demand, we welcome Dr. Zach Bush. Zach Bush MD is a renowned, multi-disciplinary physician of internal medicine, endocrinology, hospice care and internationally recognized educator on the microbiome as it relates to human health, soil health, food systems, and a regenerative future.

Once again - I want to premise with the fact that this conversation is a complex one, and not for the faint of heart. After having Zach on previously to discuss the world's response to the Covid-19 pandemic, I wanted to bring him back to further divulge the medical systems response to the virus, primarily; the vaccination, the PCR test and the various strategies that were implemented to combat this virus - plus so. much. more.

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Discover:

• Fear-mongering and isolation negatively affect immunity
• Why doesn't the government talk about strategies that promote health?
• The benefits of sunshine/vitamin D, sleep hygiene, nutrition, and fresh air for the immune system
• The no-fear approach
• The genetic modification of humanity
• New facts about PCR tests
• How the innate immune system adapts naturally
• A fascinating study with Gonzaga University
• The statistics of comorbidities
• We have to work with nature, not against it
• Our bacteria are essential for our health
• What questions are we not asking about the human immune system
• We need to be in balance with Mother Earth, not in opposition to it
• Healthy soil is directly connected with healthy humans
• Viruses are genetic upgrades and we should not fear it

Find Zach on his website www.ZachBushMD.com or on Instagram.

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Themes: Politics, COVID, Individualism, Fear, Health, Government, Accountability, Truth, News & Media, Misinformation, Authenticity, Belonging, Transformation, Conflict, Mental Health

Summary:

In this solo episode, I share my thoughts and grief on what has occurred over these last few years as a result of the pandemic. I believe in having open and honest discourse and avoiding inflammatory language that only pushes us further apart. I want to invite curiosity back into our experiences and encourage us to hold manipulative and dishonest individuals and groups accountable while keeping in mind that love and truth always win in the end! Let’s come together to change this world.

Discover:

• Alternative viewpoints on how information as delivered to us during the pandemic
• The usage of “misinformation” labels, nudge tactics, divisiveness, gaslighting, narcissism, and other abusive tactics
• Why we must stand up as a village to hold the media and governing bodies accountable and demand truth and change

00:00 Intro

00:53 Nudge tactics

02:45 Misinformation

03:56 You’re not free to choose if your freedom is at stake

07:22 There wasn’t enough data

10:16 They turned us against each other

13:34 Divisiveness, gaslighting, and narcissism

16:30 The importance of discourse without inflammatory language

21:52 We need to come together to make change

Links:

• Emails referenced - The Virality Project: Twitter Files revealed that the US government and major social media companies worked hand-in-hand with Stanford University to censor or limit true information about Covid-19, suppress “true vaccine side effects” and “true posts which could fuel [vaccine] hesitancy.” The emails and documents were provided to Matt Taibbi by Twitter CEO Elon Musk. The documents, dubbed the "Twitter Files" and retweeted by Musk, were selected from "thousands of internal documents obtained by sources at Twitter." Matt Taibbi is an award winning author, journalist, and contributing editor for Rolling Stone. (Sources: New York Post, The Maine Wire, TRT World)
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