The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Psychology, Mass Formation, Groupthink, Belonging

Summary:

The psychology of individuals is interesting, and how individual psychology is influenced by groups, media, marketing and fear is an area I’m going to continue to explore. It’s like family systems but muchhhhh larger. And much more complex. Yet still simple in the narrow ways we respond when afraid — thanks to evolution and our amygdala.

This is why I’M SO EXCITED that I got to interview Mattias Desmet! He is a Professor of Clinical Psychology at Ghent University in Belgium with a masters degree in statistics. As an academic researcher, Mattias started to study the statistics presented around the current events in early 2020 and it became clear to him that the stats needed further exploration and discussion, as did how we were approaching it psychologically.

Mattias joins me to share his expertise in a phenomenon known as "mass formation," a kind of collective hypnosis that occurs under certain societal conditions. WOW. What an incredible exploration that I thoroughly enjoyed. I hope this episode gives you deeper context for our current situation and makes you a feel less alone as you navigate today's climate.

Discover:

• The psychological process of "mass formation" and how it relates to current events
• The four specific conditions in society that when fulfilled simultaneously, lead to groupthink
• The surprising reason people continue to buy into a consensus narrative
• The most efficient strategy you can adopt to help shift the narrative

Links:

• Mattias Desmet's Research

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Themes: Childhood Wounds, Family Systems, People-Pleasing, Relationships, Self-Worth

Summary:

I think it’s safe to say that none of us had a perfect childhood, and we all carry around behaviours and unhealed pain that doesn’t serve us. But it doesn’t have to be that way: our past may have created our patterns, but we can change them with some self-awareness and the right tools. Join my bestie Vienna Pharaon and me as we dive into understanding and overcoming wounds from our Family of Origin, so you can move beyond your frustrating patterns in life and love and into a more liberated way of being.

Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Her first book, The Origins of You, hits shelves on February 21st, 2023.

Discover:

• How unhealed pain or “wounds” from our Family of Origin manifest in our adult behaviours
• Why it’s so difficult to hold the paradox of being both disappointed with and grateful for our upbringing
• Five common “origin wounds” and how they show up in our adult lives
• How to identify and start to heal the origin wounds that hold you back

00:00 Intro

02:10 How childhood wounds impact us today

13:57 You don’t need to have a traumatic childhood to have wounds

18:19 Being both disappointed with and grateful for aspects of your upbringing

29:23 Examples of origin wounds

32:35 The belonging wound

36:53 The prioritization wound

45:15 Safety and trust wounds

55:42 How to begin healing

Links:

• Website | viennapharaon.com
• Instagram | @mindfulmft
• Book | The Origins of You
• 6 Week LIVE Coaching Experience with Vienna

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One of the most popular videos I’ve ever recorded was ‘why do men follow Instagram models?’ So I wanted to dive deeper into a topic that is so complex and often controversial. This week I introduce my good friend Dr. Laura McNally who is a psychologist that has been writing on this topic for some years. We discuss the entire life cycle — how children are socialized and shaped by their environments, how this impacts young adults and their ideas about beauty and sex, how sexual arousal changes the way we think and how monitoring our body image shifts our cognitive function. Why is it that sex and porn addiction most often impact men, while body image and eating disorders almost exclusively impact women? It turns out this isn't a coincidence. Importantly, this is not a discussion that aims to tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t do with their Instagram or social media, it is an exploration of the research that will hopefully leave you feeling better informed about what works for you.

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Discover:

• You can't change anything you don't take responsibility for
• The root of the problem
• Porn, triggers and responses
• Dissecting the questions that come up around IG models
• Where does it all start?
• Growing up on the apps and the issues they create for children
• Anti-sex vs. anti-women
• Sexuality and religion
• How we cheat ourselves out of connection
• How we buy into "you'll never be hot enough"

You can find Laura’s work on Instagram @actualpsychology https://www.instagram.com/actualpsychology/

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Human relationships are at a crossroads and in this thought-provoking conversation with speaker and author Teal Swan we explore why. Teal unveils how modern dynamics, like the rise of narcissism and the constant influx of social media stimuli, are disrupting our ability to connect with others — and even with ourselves. She dives into the roots of relational dysfunction, tying them to unresolved childhood traumas and societal expectations that stifle authenticity. Offering a fresh perspective on healing, Teal introduces the Completion Process, a method designed to confront suppressed emotions and rebuild connections from a place of true authenticity. If you’re ready to examine the deeper forces shaping your relationships and discover tools for transformative growth, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.

Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader and a Bestselling Author who is an expert in human development and relationships, with a following of over 1M on all social media platforms. She has over a decade of experience working with people of all walks of life with a mission to reduce human suffering. Today, she's also become an International Speaker, having facilitated retreats and life changing workshops in large venues worldwide. Teal was ranked 15th on The Watkins Most Spiritually Influential Living People in 2023.

—Teal’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tealswanofficial/

—Teal’s Website: https://tealswan.com/

—Teal’s Ancestral Healing Course: http://www.markgroves.com/tealswan // Head here to check out the Ancestral Healing Course: https://offers.tealswan.com/ancestral-healing-a and use this link to save $200 when you purchase: http://www.markgroves.com/tealswan

—Teal’s Books: https://tealswan.com/books/

—Teal’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TealSwanOfficial

—Teal’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tealswanofficial

Resources:

—Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast

—Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people? Download your free guide to break the cycle and call in the relationship you crave: https://go.markgroves.com/unavailable-people-opt-in-podcast

—Learn the connection between Attachment Styles, how it affects the Nervous System, AND how you can heal it: .https://go.markgroves.com/nervous-system-opt-in-podcast

If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com

Themes: Teal Swan, Relationships and Trauma, Healing from Trauma, Narcissism and Relationships, Collective Healing, Awakening and Emotional Growth, The Completion Process, Personal Transformation and Healing, Self-Awareness in Relationships, Healing Childhood Trauma, Teal Swan Podcast, Trauma Healing Podcast, Relationship Dynamics and Healing, Self-Awareness in Relationships, Emotional Growth and Awakening, Healing Methods and Personal Transformation, The Completion Process Teal Swan, How to Heal from Childhood Trauma in Relationships, Teal Swan on Narcissism and Relationships, The Completion Process by Teal Swan, Navigating Collective Trauma and Personal Healing, Emotional Growth and Healing with Teal Swan, Overcoming Toxic Relationship Patterns, Healing the Self Through Authenticity

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Themes: Relationships, Romantic Relationships, Relationship Struggles, Couples Therapy, Communication, Healing, Conflict

Summary:

Back for the second time is my good friend, Nick Solaczek. Nick is a relationship coach and teacher specializing in romantic relationships with an emphasis on safe conversations, conscious relationship principles, mindfulness, authenticity and boundary setting. Nick works closely with IMAGO theory in his practice, believing that the image we project has a significant influence on who we are attracted to and how we show up in our relationship.

In this episode, we jam on how to create stronger romantic relationships, how our childhood experiences are responsible for many of our triggers in our adult relationships, the influence of fear and how it guides our actions, and more juicy relational truths. Tune in to hear Nick share mic-drops on how to communicate more clearly to ask for what we want and how to use struggle to strengthen our partnerships instead of drive us apart.

Nick also teaches us about his relational theory, The Developmental Mountain, which he shares in depth in his new course: Romantic Relationship Reset. Get the link and a discount below!

Discover:

• Core relational dynamics of romantic relationships and which ones you and your partner relate to
• How and why opposites attract when it comes to romantic relationships
• The power of fear and its presence in our interactions with our partners
• The benefits of both individual and couples therapy when it comes to long term relationships
• The power of IMAGO dialogue as a powerful method of communication for couples

00:00 Intro

02:12 How we have historically approached couples work

06:34 Romance is propagandized by culture

10:14 We all have conflicts in the kitchen

18:24 Relational dynamics of the Seeker, Maximizer, Minimizer

25:40 How childhood experiences show up in adult relationships

26:48 We show and respond to emotion differently

29:56 The power of fear

34:54 The struggle is normal

41:47 Ways to ask for what you want

48:01 Why we deal with things the way we do

50:35 The Developmental Mountain

57:32 The Relationship Reset

Links:

• Special offer: $50 off Nick’s course "Romantic Relationship Reset" with promo code: CREATE50
• Website: www.nicksolaczek.com
• Course: www.nicksolaczek.com/mark
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachingwithnick

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