#267: How to Cultivate a Strong Romantic Relationship with Nick Solaczek

03/13/23 • 65 min

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Themes: Relationships, Romantic Relationships, Relationship Struggles, Couples Therapy, Communication, Healing, Conflict Summary: Back for the second time is my good friend, Nick Solaczek. Nick is a relationship coach and teacher specializing in romantic relationships with an emphasis on safe conversations, conscious relationship principles, mindfulness, authenticity and boundary setting. Nick works closely with IMAGO theory in his practice, believing that the image we project has a significant influence on who we are attracted to and how we show up in our relationship. In this episode, we jam on how to create stronger romantic relationships, how our childhood experiences are responsible for many of our triggers in our adult relationships, the influence of fear and how it guides our actions, and more juicy relational truths. Tune in to hear Nick share mic-drops on how to communicate more clearly to ask for what we want and how to use struggle to strengthen our partnerships instead of drive us apart. Nick also teaches us about his relational theory, The Developmental Mountain, which he shares in depth in his new course: Romantic Relationship Reset. Get the link and a discount below! Discover: Core relational dynamics of romantic relationships and which ones you and your partner relate to How and why opposites attract when it comes to romantic relationships The power of fear and its presence in our interactions with our partners The benefits of both individual and couples therapy when it comes to long term relationships The power of IMAGO dialogue as a powerful method of communication for couples 00:00 Intro 02:12 How we have historically approached couples work 06:34 Romance is propagandized by culture 10:14 We all have conflicts in the kitchen 18:24 Relational dynamics of the Seeker, Maximizer, Minimizer 25:40 How childhood experiences show up in adult relationships 26:48 We show and respond to emotion differently 29:56 The power of fear 34:54 The struggle is normal 41:47 Ways to ask for what you want 48:01 Why we deal with things the way we do 50:35 The Developmental Mountain 57:32 The Relationship Reset Links: Special offer: $50 off Nick’s course "Romantic Relationship Reset" with promo code: CREATE50 Website: www.nicksolaczek.com Course: www.nicksolaczek.com/mark Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachingwithnick Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!)

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#266: Secrets to a Happier Life with Dr. Robert Waldinger

Themes: Relationships, Connection, Health, Mental Health, Transformation, Belonging, Purpose Summary: Today I’m nerding out with Dr. Robert Waldinger, professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and co-author of The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness. Dr. Waldinger is also a Zen master (Roshi) who teaches meditation worldwide. In this episode, we explore Dr. Waldinger’s fascinating research on what makes a “good life” based on the longest study of adult life that has ever been done - the Harvard Study of Adult Development. He shares his insights on the power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health, practical tips for improving our happiness, and how to create and nurture thriving relationships. This is a pod you won’t want to miss! Discover: The power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health The types of relationships we need to thrive The impact of conflict and how to use it to nurture relationships How to improve the quality of our relationships Ways to build resilience and cope with conflict 00:00 Intro 01:55 What is the happiness study? 04:34 Relationships help us live longer 09:26 Impacts of life events 11:03 High-conflict relationships 12:27 Stress and the body 14:11 Attachment styles and relationship longevity 17:21 Relationships and the body 19:26 Social fitness 21:20 Be curious 24:30 Stratifying the data 27:42 Effects of the study on participants 31:39 Being in Zen 33:28 Religion and spiritual practice 36:39 Rituals and habits 38:38 Study results and expanding the research Links: Website | Harvard Study of Adult Development Book | The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards

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