101: The most inspiring mid-sex-life story ever
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11/24/23 • 62 min
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This is a very special podcast, because it’s with a person who is so authentic and honest about what she’s been through – a rare thing indeed. Over in Canada (Peterborough, Ontario, to be specific) Deborah Porteous takes us back eight years to when she was 53, going through menopause – and had never had an orgasm. Through the love of a patient and attentive partner that soon changed.
It was through their search for a workable lubricant that Pleasure Pods, a disruptive company that produces 100 percent plant-based solid product, was born. They are now for sale at Amazon Canada, in more than 50 stores in Ontario, and this autumn became the first such brand to win the CHFA LaunchPad Award at the CHFA LaunchPad and Show in Toronto.
Highlights (there are many):
• Deborah's history – it’s going to resonate
• The shame, abandonment, ADHD piece (try not to cry)
• You can rejuvenate your vagina: part 1
• How the pandemic fueled the launch of Pleasure Pods (a moisturizer AND a lube)
• Breaking down the ingredients and what they do
• Why she thinks a you need to check out a modern adult sex store (she’s toured to more than 50)
• The problem with most lubricants (silicon, water-based, hybrid, coconut oil) – in menopause, in particular
• You can rejuvenate your vagina: part 2
• The power of orgasms
• Her message to women: you need to use it
• What she has learned about abandonment and it’s impact on relationships, and self-love
• Her ADHD journey and diagnosis (get a tissue)
• Straight talk about what it’s been like being a GenX women
• Why she doesn’t want to get married now
• Her menopause experience (what happened and what helped)
Names mentioned:
Dr. Carolin Klein, registered psychologist and director of the West Coast Centre for Sex Therapy,
Becoming Cliterate Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It by Nicole Prause
Where to find Pleasure Pods:
WEB: Thepleasurepods.com
IG: @thepleasurepods
YOUTUBE: @thepleasurepods
FACEBOOK: @plantbuttersandoils
LinkedIn:/@pleasure-products-inc/
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This is a very special podcast, because it’s with a person who is so authentic and honest about what she’s been through – a rare thing indeed. Over in Canada (Peterborough, Ontario, to be specific) Deborah Porteous takes us back eight years to when she was 53, going through menopause – and had never had an orgasm. Through the love of a patient and attentive partner that soon changed.
It was through their search for a workable lubricant that Pleasure Pods, a disruptive company that produces 100 percent plant-based solid product, was born. They are now for sale at Amazon Canada, in more than 50 stores in Ontario, and this autumn became the first such brand to win the CHFA LaunchPad Award at the CHFA LaunchPad and Show in Toronto.
Highlights (there are many):
• Deborah's history – it’s going to resonate
• The shame, abandonment, ADHD piece (try not to cry)
• You can rejuvenate your vagina: part 1
• How the pandemic fueled the launch of Pleasure Pods (a moisturizer AND a lube)
• Breaking down the ingredients and what they do
• Why she thinks a you need to check out a modern adult sex store (she’s toured to more than 50)
• The problem with most lubricants (silicon, water-based, hybrid, coconut oil) – in menopause, in particular
• You can rejuvenate your vagina: part 2
• The power of orgasms
• Her message to women: you need to use it
• What she has learned about abandonment and it’s impact on relationships, and self-love
• Her ADHD journey and diagnosis (get a tissue)
• Straight talk about what it’s been like being a GenX women
• Why she doesn’t want to get married now
• Her menopause experience (what happened and what helped)
Names mentioned:
Dr. Carolin Klein, registered psychologist and director of the West Coast Centre for Sex Therapy,
Becoming Cliterate Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It by Nicole Prause
Where to find Pleasure Pods:
WEB: Thepleasurepods.com
IG: @thepleasurepods
YOUTUBE: @thepleasurepods
FACEBOOK: @plantbuttersandoils
LinkedIn:/@pleasure-products-inc/
Do you want to live an awesome life and to also inspire others? Fish is a world...
Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify
Join the Hotflash inc perimenoposse:
Web: hotflashinc.comNewsletter: Hotflash inc. on Substack
TikTok: @hotflashincInstagram: @hotflashincX: @hotflashinc
Episode website: Hotflashinc
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Along the way I have spoken to the top experts in the world, found out an incredible amount of things, and refined and iterated the podcast intensely, getting it to the point that I'm pretty sure it's – and me – are ready for our own slot at SiriusXM, or at least a bunch of other improvements.
Take a listen as I break down some of the things that other people aren't talking about. Because asking questions about uncomfortable things? That's what I do.
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102: 4 women go through perimenopause and along comes WILE
I have two power players in this perimenopause space: half of the four-person team that founded Wile, “a plant-powered hormonal and emotional wellness brand for women 40+ that reframes midlife as a time of peak power”. (You will hear the word “tincture”)
Introductions: Gwendolyn Floyd is a venture-backed serial social entrepreneur – five companies and counting – and Wile’s co-founder and CEO. The title of this podcast is “4 women go through perimenopause” because not only is Gwen a perimenopausal woman, but she watched her mother be buffeted by this transition too. Julie Kucinski is Wile’s co-founder and chief marketing officer, coming from the worlds of beauty and wellness and some of the biggest brands of our time. American actress Judy Greer and former journalist-turned-entrepreneur Corey Schlolibo round out the foursome, and they’ve also got some pretty influential investors along for the ride, including US tennis star Serena Williams.
I did this interview back in the summer, but the conversation has legs. We talked about the current reality of this space, what’s happening with women, how the options facing us are complementary, what we face on the job and in our home lives and what it means to square up with the heroine’s journey of menopause all still stand. You will hear the word tinctures a lot too.
There are many highlights in this frank discussion of the business of perimenopause, as well as the realities of what it is to go through perimenopause.
They include:
- Why DON’T companies pay attention to women over 40?
- There is no ‘natural vs HrT’, only natural and HrT
- Calling in versus calling out and getting defensive on social media
- How they came to build their formulation (under the guidance of XXX)
- The one thing you want to know about most of the products you use
- Yeah, we get angry. Okay?
- How pretending that we are perfect emotionally – and in every other way – hurts and harms us.
- Acknowledging we have a lot going – and a tincture or two – and resilience.
- Why menopause needs the straw in the turtle’s nose moment to blow the consciousness up
- Why the workplace isn’t even close to accepting perimenopause (and why it’s, for us, just the latest hurtle)
Where to connect with Wile:
Web: Wilewomen.com/
IG: @WileWomen
Do you want to live an awesome life and to also inspire others? Fish is a world...
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Join the Hotflash inc perimenoposse:
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Episode website: Hotflashinc
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