My fear of vomit made my kids sick

09/11/15 • 18 min

The Head Trash + Healing Show with Alexia Leachman

I'm not the first person to say this so it shouldn't be news to you, but if you want to change the world start with yourself. The "world" doesn't have to be some grandiose idea about changing humanity, it can be as simple as changing YOUR world. And this couldn't be truer when it comes to your stresses.

If you find yourself being stressed out by LIFE and the people in it, maybe it's time for you to take a look in the mirror, because maybe it's YOU that's creating the stress in the first place.

Hear me out!

When you're stressed, people will pick up on your stress... maybe not consciously, but it will be affecting them on some level. And this is even more so when it comes to your kids. If your kids are running riot and stressing you out, maybe they're simply responding to your stressy state; your stress is stresssing them out which is making them go a wee bit crazy.

Something happened to me on holiday this year which really brought this home to me. And it involved VOMIT! I want to share it with you because it really brings this idea to smelly light.

Our holiday this year involved quite a bit of driving... airports and planes with a 10 month old is NOT a holiday! But, my two girls are prone to being sick in the car and this is something that completely stresses me out. I think I was traumatised when my eldest was one and she was being sick in the back while I was doing a long drive on my own. We were in road works and I couldn’t stop the car... All I could hear was liquidy vomit gurgling in her throat and splatting everywhere, and I was panicking that she was choking on it. It was horrible! Not to mention the state of the car! And the smell! Ever since, long journeys get me stressed before we start because of my fear of vomit and either one of them being sick. Looking back, that was clearly the moment that my fear of vomit was instilled.

So I was just starting one such journey; a 4-hour drive to Wales. I was picking up my French Aunt at the airport on the way. Timing was everything and stresses were high. Once we picked her up I knew we’d have to stop the car soon... preventative measures and a possible nappy change... We were just over an hour into the journey.

We got back into the car and things seemed to go ok for a while. Then the the little one started whimpering. That was it! I was sure this was a cue to an imminent vomit fest, so you can imagine what state I was in. We stopped for some fresh air and a bit of a wander around some greenery. And then we stopped again. And again. There was no vomit, but as far as I was concerned this was because I was managing this situation beautifully... ha! #delusional

My aunt dared to suggest that the only reason she was crying was because she was picking up on my stress-vibes, and that I needed to do the work i.e. clear my head trash! Ha! Perceptive lady!

By the time we reached our destination, our 4-hour drive had turned into a day trip. Not good. So when the time came for the return journey I knew I had to do some head trash clearance before we started. I needed to shake my fear of vomit stress. The practical stuff was done as I had already covered the back seats in loads of blankets, so really I just needed to sort my head out.

So I worked on clearing my fear of kids vomiting in the car , and then just vomit and people vomitting (loving and hating vomit etc). It didn’t take me long and I only did the super quick emergency version. Once that was done, I was super chilled about the thought of vomit. In fact I didn’t care. They could be sick all over the place for all I could care. The car would be fine, they would be fine. IT’S OK!

So we set off on our 4-hour journey. It wasn’t long before they fell asleep. An hour into the journey and just before the motorway (we were in Wales remember!) I stopped for diesel and a pee. And then I could finally put my foot down. And I did! They were asleep so I wanted to get as many miles done before they woke up and felt sick.

And then that’s when it started getting weird. Weird as in NORMAL. The 10 month old woke up and started singing and playing with her toys. Then after a bit, she fell back asleep. The 4-year old who never sleeps for more than an hour in the car just kept sleeping.

My aunt and I were getting hungry and wanted to stop for a drink and a snack but as long as they were both asleep we thought we’d best carry on. Surely it would be better to just get back as soon as possible. Thank goodness I went for a pee back in Wales!

The miles were zipping by and my two kids were still sleeping. I was super chilled because I didn’t really care if they would be sick, I just wanted to get home. And the crazy thing is that they just kept sleeping. They finally woke up when I got off the motorway 20 minutes from home. THEY SLEPT for 3 1...

If you find yourself being stressed out by LIFE and the people in it, maybe it's time for you to take a look in the mirror, because maybe it's YOU that's creating the stress in the first place.

Hear me out!

Something happened to me on holiday this year which really brought this home to me. And it involved VOMIT! I want to share it with you because it really brings this idea to smelly light.

My aunt dared to suggest that the only reason she was crying was because she was picking up on my stress-vibes, and that I needed to do the work i.e. clear my head trash! Ha! Perceptive lady!

Previous Episode

Letting Go

Do you find that you're holding on to patterns of thought, behaviours and bodily dis-ease that you'd just rather shake? Well, you're going to love today's podcast. Today I chat to Matt Sison, who is an author, speaker and a coach who shares his approach for letting go of what he calls the conditions and programs that hold you back from your authentic voice and action.

“Matt Sison is the guy who other therapists go to when they have problems. I have seen him work with the most difficult cases imaginable, cases that other therapists have given up on, and he works magic. More importantly, he has done his own work, he’s faced his demons, and has come out on the other side as an embodiment of love, caring, sincerity, but most of all peace. I absolutely love his Reflective Transformations system, which is a synthesis of hypnosis, hypnotherapy regression, Emotional Freedom Techniques, affirmations, yoga, meditation, martial arts, and a whole lot more. Matt’s system is worth its weight in gold.”

Eric B. Robins, MD Urologist and Mind-Body Healing Expert Co-author, Your Hands Can Heal You, and The Power of Prana

Letting go

Three months ago, just before the scheduled launch of his book, Matt had a stroke. At 46 years old, it was unexpected to say the least. He lost all control of one half of his body and the doctors told him that it would take him months if not years to recover. But, being someone who firmly walks his talk, he went inward to try to understand the message that his body was screaming at him.

During our fasinating chat, he shares

how he creates the space for himself to be able to "hear" what his body is telling him ... clue: it's usually about letting go of something emotional
how we can detect when the body is trying to communicate with us
the steps he uses when working on letting go of whatever emotional baggage needs to be let go of
the power of opposites in doing this kind of work (< I love that bit!!)

Matt even does some clearance work on me using his simple framework, which will help you to try his approach for yourself. It's so simple, that you'd be silly not to give it a go!

Matt then finishes off our chat by talking about his book and what you can expect to gain from reading it. His book is available right now from Amazon on Kindle and in print.

You can find out more about Matt at his site www.MattSison.com and his book here www.LifeIsThePerfectSystem.com

Next Episode

The Head Trash Show is back!

I’m so excited to bring the Head Trash Show back. It’s been a long break, but one that has been worth it.

So in this opening episode this is what I want to share with you;

Where I’ve been

You might be wondering why I took a break and what I’ve been up to. If I said to you that I had a baby, you’d probably think “oh sure, you’ve been at home with the kids” But that’s not strictly true. The experience of having my second daughter took me on a different trajectory work-wise and head trash-wise.

As a result of my own experience in overcoming my fears of birth and pregnancy, I wrote a book Fearless Birthing and launched the Fear Free Childbirth podcast. Just this month I hit 525,000 downloads, which I find a little bit crazy. But such is the importance of fear when it comes to birth and pregnancy.

As a result of this detour into pregnancy and birth I’ve learned a lot about the nature of fear and anxiety and I’d like to bring that back now into how fear and anxiety affects us in day-to-day life.

The ‘Clear Your Head Trash’ book

Last year I brought out the book Clear Your Head Trash. In this book I share the Head Trash Clearance MethodTM which is the technique that I’ve refined and use to clear head trash.

The book is available from all online book sellers.

As you can see, the podcast has a new website too, so this is now your destination for all things head trash.

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I’ve created a tiny little 3-question survey for you use to let me know.

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This will help me to come up with content that will be helpful to you.

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