It's So Hard To Grow When Everything Is Great with Dirty Lola
08/19/20 • 32 min
But being a sex educator doesn't mean we don't have our own sex & relationship problems. In this episode we talk about what to do when life is just really hard and love falls apart
Transformations
Lola shares deep, intimate hard truths about divorce after 17 years of (non-monogamous) marriage. She navigates fear, uncertainty, loneliness, hard grief, the importance of being heard and brand new beginnings. How do we break up when change is inevitable but still so painful? And how do we manage a change from non-monogamous to monogamous?
Self-inquiry for the win and keep your side of the street clean says Lola! Getting on and getting over it.
Lola advises listener "Broken & Lonely" about healing the past, self forgiveness and change. Does the truth set you free? What's the purpose of the truth? And who benefits from it?
Dirty Lola is a sex edutainer, speaker & self-proclaimed dildo slinger. Known for her live sex ed Q&A show Sex Ed A Go-Go and as co-host of New York Magazine’s The Cut’s “Sex Probz” web series, Lola has spent almost a decade working to end stigma and shame surrounding sex and sexuality. Having started her journey sharing personal discoveries with polyamory and kink online, Lola now uses her knowledge, warm candor and public platforms to teach the masses in-person and to rapt Internet audiences.
Website: http://sexedagogo.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/DirtyLola
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dirtylola
But being a sex educator doesn't mean we don't have our own sex & relationship problems. In this episode we talk about what to do when life is just really hard and love falls apart
Transformations
Lola shares deep, intimate hard truths about divorce after 17 years of (non-monogamous) marriage. She navigates fear, uncertainty, loneliness, hard grief, the importance of being heard and brand new beginnings. How do we break up when change is inevitable but still so painful? And how do we manage a change from non-monogamous to monogamous?
Self-inquiry for the win and keep your side of the street clean says Lola! Getting on and getting over it.
Lola advises listener "Broken & Lonely" about healing the past, self forgiveness and change. Does the truth set you free? What's the purpose of the truth? And who benefits from it?
Dirty Lola is a sex edutainer, speaker & self-proclaimed dildo slinger. Known for her live sex ed Q&A show Sex Ed A Go-Go and as co-host of New York Magazine’s The Cut’s “Sex Probz” web series, Lola has spent almost a decade working to end stigma and shame surrounding sex and sexuality. Having started her journey sharing personal discoveries with polyamory and kink online, Lola now uses her knowledge, warm candor and public platforms to teach the masses in-person and to rapt Internet audiences.
Website: http://sexedagogo.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/DirtyLola
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dirtylola
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