The Erotic Philosopher

This week is Cuckweek! Who knew? - not me until I recorded this interview with Dr. David Ley, someone whose work I have followed for many years and indeed the world's foremost expert into the world of cukolding, hot wife-ing and the impact of religonn on human sexuality.
Dr David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, known as the “Bible of Cuckolding.” With Justin Lehmiller and columnist Dan Savage, Dr. Ley published the first empirical research on cuckolding. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in sources such as the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, to Hustler and Playboy magazines.
In this interview we trace the origins of David's work in unpacking human sexuality, how he developed his signature brand of open minded inquiry and curiosity, and the errrors in judgement he made early in his clinical career. Then we pivot into his ground breaking exploration of the world of cuckolding or hot wives, and how the cuck world is become a movment of erotic awakening unto itsef.
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Now this episode’s guest...someone whose internet presence is as witty and acerbic as it is compassionate and insightful. Known online for his love of cats, Satan and horror films, Dr. Eric Sprankle ushers in the new wave of academia and sexology for a new generation.
Dr. Eric Sprankle is a Professor of Clinical Psychology at Minnesota State University, Mankato where he is also the co-founder and co-director of the Sexuality Studies program. Dr. Sprankle received his doctorate in clinical psychology from Xavier University and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the University of Minnesota Medical School's Program in Human Sexuality. His current research focuses on the intersections of sexuality, stigma, and Satanism. His first book, DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation will be published late 2023.
In this interview we dive into the history of masturbation, (did you even know masturbation had a history??) and we'll talk about some of the ways masturbation is both lauded and misunderstood, and often blamed for the many ills of the world. Out of the closet and into the open, masturbation for many of us is our first erotic experience and certainly our longest term sexual partner, so, let’s talk about it like it matters.
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Join me this week (after a brief hiatus - apologies life got in the way) for a good ol' chin-wag with my buddy, collaborator, wisemind companion and peer therapist Eric G. Schneider.

Eric & I dig into the nature of intimacy. What we experience in contrast with what we believe. The myths that infect and interfere with romantic partnerships in particular, and how we are with ourselves, and each other, impact all our relationships from friends through to lovers and partners.

For the past 33 years, Eric has been/and is an experiential, dynamically oriented psychotherapist privileging here and now somatic emotional experiencing. In addition his work tends to bring to light historic adaptations to challenging early experiences that impair current relational contexts both in terms of emotional closeness, authentic self expression and sexuality. Currently Eric is completing his Ph.D. dissertation in human sexuality examining current worldviews with respect to romantic relationships. He has is also a practitioner of various Daoist arts and sciences for the past 50 years. When not working, he enjoys playing clarinet, ventriloquism and puppetry. He lives in NYC with his partner, a parrot and their little dog Bodhi.

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What is kink these days? And how is it addressed in therapy & sex therapy? What does BDSM offer all of us in terms of dropping the bullshit about the human experience? Where are you coming from and what motivates you erotically? David’s story of self-acceptance, growth and coming of age waking up to pleasure when you’re a sexual outsider. David & Cyndi discuss the squeamishness of discussing sex practices and embodiment in therapeutic training.

DAVID ORTMANN, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, keynote speaker, and author with private practices in New York City and San Francisco. He is recognized as one of the foremost scholars and activists in the growing freedom of sexual and erotic expression movement. His areas of expertise and passion include erotic power exchange, BDSM, Kink, Fetish, and Leather sexualities, concepts and theories of masculinity, male sexual diversity, and alternative relationship paradigms.

A former model and stage actor, Ortmann spent 1992 in former Czechoslovakia teaching Theater and English while conducting grassroots conflict mediation during that year’s Czecho-Slovak national split. He is a founding partner of both the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (carasresearch.org) in 2005 and the Diverse Sexualities Research and Education Institute (dsrei.org) in 2018. David regularly serves as a consultant, educator, and expert witness on the nature and use of power in sex and society and the psychology, scope, process, and ritual of consensual BDSM for civil and criminal cases.

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But being a sex educator doesn't mean we don't have our own sex & relationship problems. In this episode we talk about what to do when life is just really hard and love falls apart

Transformations

Lola shares deep, intimate hard truths about divorce after 17 years of (non-monogamous) marriage. She navigates fear, uncertainty, loneliness, hard grief, the importance of being heard and brand new beginnings. How do we break up when change is inevitable but still so painful? And how do we manage a change from non-monogamous to monogamous?

Self-inquiry for the win and keep your side of the street clean says Lola! Getting on and getting over it.

Lola advises listener "Broken & Lonely" about healing the past, self forgiveness and change. Does the truth set you free? What's the purpose of the truth? And who benefits from it?

Dirty Lola is a sex edutainer, speaker & self-proclaimed dildo slinger. Known for her live sex ed Q&A show Sex Ed A Go-Go and as co-host of New York Magazine’s The Cut’s “Sex Probz” web series, Lola has spent almost a decade working to end stigma and shame surrounding sex and sexuality. Having started her journey sharing personal discoveries with polyamory and kink online, Lola now uses her knowledge, warm candor and public platforms to teach the masses in-person and to rapt Internet audiences.

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