092 People Pleasing in Coaching
06/05/23 • 19 min
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In this week's episode we want to talk about something that can be impactful for a lot of people, the act of people pleasing. We are sure that a lot of you listening will have come across this as something that you do yourself or something that you have heard your coachees talk about. So let's dive into the conversation about how this can show up and what you can do about it.
We will discuss:
- the theory behind people pleasing and where it comes from
- how people pleasing can show up in coaching
- the ways people make it clear that they people please
- the emotions people pleasing can trigger in people
- what support and challenge can a coach provide around this
- what questions can coaches offer to help the coachee see a new perspective
It is important to remember that people pleasing may not only show up for our clients but also for us as coaches so this is an important topic to have awareness around. Through coaching people can begin to understand their own triggers for this behaviour and start to make the positive change they want to experience.
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Resources
Take our FREE Quiz 'Which Coaching Course is Right for Me?' https://www.mycoachingcourse.com/
Join The Coaching Crowd Community on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheCoachingCrowd/
In Good Company (UK) https://www.igcompany.co.uk/
Check out our YouTube Channel https://bit.ly/378rY9a
Check out our Instagram https://www.Instagram.com/the_coaching_crowd
Work with Jo Wheatley as your Emotions Coach https://www.jowheatley.com
Connect with Jo Wheatley on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jo_wheatley_coaching/
Connect with Jo Wheatley on LinkedIn https://uk.linkedin.com/in/joannewheatley
Work with Zoe Hawkins as your Courageous Leadership Coach https://www.zoe-hawkins.com
Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Facebook https://facebook.com/zoehawkinscoach/
Connect with Zoe Hawkins on LinkedIn https://uk.linkedin.com/in/zoehawkinscoach
Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Instagram https://instagram.com/zoehawkinscoach
In this week's episode we want to talk about something that can be impactful for a lot of people, the act of people pleasing. We are sure that a lot of you listening will have come across this as something that you do yourself or something that you have heard your coachees talk about. So let's dive into the conversation about how this can show up and what you can do about it.
We will discuss:
- the theory behind people pleasing and where it comes from
- how people pleasing can show up in coaching
- the ways people make it clear that they people please
- the emotions people pleasing can trigger in people
- what support and challenge can a coach provide around this
- what questions can coaches offer to help the coachee see a new perspective
It is important to remember that people pleasing may not only show up for our clients but also for us as coaches so this is an important topic to have awareness around. Through coaching people can begin to understand their own triggers for this behaviour and start to make the positive change they want to experience.
Purchase our bestselling book ”Deciding to Coach”: https://amzn.to/3UvUe9r
Resources
Take our FREE Quiz 'Which Coaching Course is Right for Me?' https://www.mycoachingcourse.com/
Join The Coaching Crowd Community on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheCoachingCrowd/
In Good Company (UK) https://www.igcompany.co.uk/
Check out our YouTube Channel https://bit.ly/378rY9a
Check out our Instagram https://www.Instagram.com/the_coaching_crowd
Work with Jo Wheatley as your Emotions Coach https://www.jowheatley.com
Connect with Jo Wheatley on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jo_wheatley_coaching/
Connect with Jo Wheatley on LinkedIn https://uk.linkedin.com/in/joannewheatley
Work with Zoe Hawkins as your Courageous Leadership Coach https://www.zoe-hawkins.com
Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Facebook https://facebook.com/zoehawkinscoach/
Connect with Zoe Hawkins on LinkedIn https://uk.linkedin.com/in/zoehawkinscoach
Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Instagram https://instagram.com/zoehawkinscoach
Previous Episode
091 Decision Making in Coaching
In this episode we discuss the role of coaching in decision making. The bottom line is that all coaching involves decision making from your coachee, from choosing you as their coach to deciding what they want to work on in their sessions. There are lots of important things to consider around decision making. We talk about:
- the importance values play in decision making
- what we as coaches can bring to the situation and open new insights and tools to help the client bring a new perspective on the decision
- how can you support your coachee to identify what the gap is around making the decision
- the role of strengths based approach to enable your clients to feel more connected to the decision
- ways to begin to trust your decision making process
- some of the pitfalls coaches can fall into when supporting clients
Our role as coaches is to guide clients towards their own inner coach and help them develop their own decision-making skills rather than us offering our own thoughts on the decision. How do you see this showing up for your clients or even for yourself?
Purchase our bestselling book ”Deciding to Coach”: https://amzn.to/3UvUe9r
Resources
- Take our FREE Quiz 'Which Coaching Course is Right for Me?'
https://www.mycoachingcourse.com/
- Join The Coaching Crowd Community on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheCoachingCrowd/
- In Good Company (UK)
- Check out our YouTube Channel
- Check out our Instagram
https://www.Instagram.com/the_coaching_crowd
- Work with Jo Wheatley as your Emotions Coach
- Connect with Jo Wheatley on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/jo_wheatley_coaching/
- Connect with Jo Wheatley on LinkedIn
https://uk.linkedin.com/in/joannewheatley
- Work with Zoe Hawkins as your Courageous Leadership Coach
- Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Facebook
https://facebook.com/zoehawkinscoach/
- Connect with Zoe Hawkins on LinkedIn
https://uk.linkedin.com/in/zoehawkinscoach
- Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Instagram
Next Episode
093 Somatic Coaching
In this week's episode we are talking about somatic coaching. We know that some people would like to explore this area of coaching but also acknowledge that it isn’t for everyone.
We discuss:
- What does somatic mean
- How does it relate to coaching
- What connection does it have to intuition
- Why can this somatic approach be difficult in this day and age
- What are we hoping to help our clients achieve using this somatic approach
In using this approach both ourselves and our clients are given the opportunity to connect within themselves and invited to notice what is being experienced. Bringing our awareness to these feelings can be different for some and may come more naturally to others so we encourage you to use this method in the right circumstances.
Purchase our bestselling book ”Deciding to Coach”: https://amzn.to/3UvUe9r
Resources
- Take our FREE Quiz 'Which Coaching Course is Right for Me?'
https://www.mycoachingcourse.com/
- Join The Coaching Crowd Community on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheCoachingCrowd/
- In Good Company (UK)
- Check out our YouTube Channel
- Check out our Instagram
https://www.Instagram.com/the_coaching_crowd
- Work with Jo Wheatley as your Emotions Coach
- Connect with Jo Wheatley on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/jo_wheatley_coaching/
- Connect with Jo Wheatley on LinkedIn
https://uk.linkedin.com/in/joannewheatley
- Work with Zoe Hawkins as your Courageous Leadership Coach
- Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Facebook
https://facebook.com/zoehawkinscoach/
- Connect with Zoe Hawkins on LinkedIn
https://uk.linkedin.com/in/zoehawkinscoach
- Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Instagram
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