The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice - #41 The Other Woman - A Listener Discovers Her Husband Got Another Woman Pregnant

#41 The Other Woman - A Listener Discovers Her Husband Got Another Woman Pregnant

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04/01/19 • 24 min

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The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice

On the show today we welcome Geanni, who is here to tell us all about her personal story and how she found out that her husband had got another woman pregnant while they were still married. This sort of situation is understandably distressing, but Geannie has a great perspective on it and offers amazing advice and insight that she has learned along the way. She gives us some of the backstory of how her and her husband got together and the marriage before explaining the period in which the infidelity came to light. She talks about her commitment to the marriage and how they actually managed to get over the issue for a period before the relationship ended. She also goes into her feelings on their relationship currently, how they share a child and the parenting process for her. For all of this and a fascinating interview from Geannie, be sure to tune in!

Key Points From This Episode

Some personal background on Geannie.
Meeting her husband in high school and getting to know him.
The proposal and getting married soon after school.
Confronting her husband about her suspicions.
Reconciling after the initial separation and the role of Geannie’s spirituality in this.
Geannie’s husband’s fears of pregnancy with the other women.
The decision to try and overcome this massive hurdle and the difficult first year.
Geannie’s current relationship with her husband and the family they have.
Advice from Geannie to listeners in a similar situation.
Geannie’s contact with her husband’s child and the mother.
And much more!

Tweetables

“We started dating early in 2006 and that was my senior year in high school. It was his junior year in high school. We were married in October of 2007.” — Geannie [0:03:32]

“I just kept digging until I found something and so when I accused him, when I finally went to him, he denied it.” — Geannie [0:08:30]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Bad Girls Bible — https://badgirlsbible.com

Key Points From This Episode

Some personal background on Geannie.
Meeting her husband in high school and getting to know him.
The proposal and getting married soon after school.
Confronting her husband about her suspicions.
Reconciling after the initial separation and the role of Geannie’s spirituality in this.
Geannie’s husband’s fears of pregnancy with the other women.
The decision to try and overcome this massive hurdle and the difficult first year.
Geannie’s current relationship with her husband and the family they have.
Advice from Geannie to listeners in a similar situation.
Geannie’s contact with her husband’s child and the mother.
And much more!

Tweetables

“We started dating early in 2006 and that was my senior year in high school. It was his junior year in high school. We were married in October of 2007.” — Geannie [0:03:32]

“I just kept digging until I found something and so when I accused him, when I finally went to him, he denied it.” — Geannie [0:08:30]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Bad Girls Bible — https://badgirlsbible.com

Previous Episode

#40 When A Good Marriage Goes Bad

Welcome back to another episode of The Bad Girls Bible Podcast. Today on the show, we are joined by Alaina Schwartz to talk about her marriage of 17 and a half years and her subsequent divorce. Alaina grew up on long island in New York in a family of staunch disciplinarians that was incredibly emotionally dysfunctional, emotionally violent and sometimes even physically so. After high school, Alaina moved away to New York where she went to law school, and eventually was a lawyer in the music industry for almost 18 years. Today she is a successful transformational mindset and business coach, who teaches her clients the same mindset tools that radically changed her life. In this episode we talk about everything from how her husband was incredibly romantic at first, how she started to realize something wasn’t quite right in her relationship, how she earned more than him, and also how she stayed positive since divorcing him. So for an incredibly honest, and insightful conversation, be sure to tune in to today’s episode.

Key Points From This Episode

Alaina’s background story and her early life.
The day the Alaina met her ex husband: love at second sight.
Timeline and story of how Alaina’s ex husband proposed.
Alaina’s fairytale wedding in Central Park.
The first couple of years of their marriage.
The incident that led up to their marital problems.
Alaina’s heartbreak and challenges with her in-laws.
The lowest point Alaina experienced in her marriage.
When Alaina finally decided to move on with her life.
Facing the allegations of being called an “unfit mother”.
How Alaina’s life has turned out differently than what she expected.
Why Alaina has no regrets from her past.
Advice for listeners who are going through a divorce: mindset shift.

Tweetables

“I was determined to try to make it work every day I was there and every day I was rejected by him.” — @alaina_s7 [0:25:25]

“There was no doubt that I thought we were going to be together forever that we would figure out a way to make that work.” — @alaina_s7 [0:26:26]

“There can be multiple people that are really good for us in our lives at different times in our lives, depending on how we grow.” — @alaina_s7 [0:26:46]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode

Alaina Schwartz — https://alainaschwartz.com/

Alaina on Twitter — https://twitter.com/alaina_s7

Next Episode

#42 Hysterical Bonding

On today’s show we welcome Lee, who is here to tell us her personal story and how her husband cheating on her boosted her libido due to a phenomenon called hysterical bonding. Hysterical bonding is a term which hasn't been studied extensively yet. However, it's a phenomenon that many people can relate to.

It describes what happens when someone is cheated on by their partner, or is broken up with, and they want to do anything to win back their ex's affections. It sounds counter-intuitive and paradoxical, but that's because there are many different emotions at play. We’re discussing her marriage of 24 years, how she found out that her husband had been cheating on her and what led her to sticking around and wanting to rebuild the relationship. To hear more about Lee’s story, stay tuned!

Key Points From This Episode:

Hear more about Lee’s background.
Growing up with an alcoholic, verbal abusive father.
How Lee met her husband and got married 11 months into the relationship.
The first signs that something wasn’t right.
How Lee’s car accident and neck injury led to her being dependent on pain medication.
The effect of the pain medication on Lee’s libido.
Why guys who are getting fulfilled still go out looking for more.
Having found the love of your life but also wanting sex or a relationship outside of that.
Finding out about the other women.
When the hysterical bonding kicked in.
How Lee regained her libido and has been having sex 2/3 times a day since.
Trying to rebuild the relationship, starting in the bedroom.
Lee’s advice to listeners going through a similar situation with their partner.
And so much more!

Tweetables:

“Our first several years of marriage were, I mean, I wouldn’t say perfect because I don’t think there’s a thing as perfect but I was very happy and I felt like he was too.” — Lee [0:09:51]

“I was keeping him satisfied, the problem was, you know, I think he was not happy with the fact that he wasn’t able to satisfy me.” — Lee [0:15:37]

“How can I be just totally heartbroken, devastated and at the same time want my husband?” — Lee [0:29:55]