My Wife Keeps Bringing Up My Past Mistakes - What Do I Do?

09/13/22 • 27 min

Strong Men Strong Marriages

This is one of the most common problems I see in the men I work with.

It can be VERY frustrating to feel like you’re changing, but have your wife keep bringing up your past mistakes.

What you have to understand about this is that your wife is HURT.

And YOU are the one who hurt her.

And over time, the wound you have caused her has become infected.

And so, when you tell her to “get over it” or “move forward” or “trust you,” you’re basically trying to put a band aid on an infection.

Instead, you need to:

Deeply understand her pain. This is like letting the wound drain.
Make permanent changes. This is what helps the wound heal.

Learn about these principles in today’s episode:

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

P.S. To make permanent changes, you need to:

Identify and eliminate negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting
Replace those with positive, attractive patterns
Repeat those new patterns over and over until you can’t get them wrong

These are the three steps we follow in my program, Love, Intimacy and Legacy.

If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow... starting TODAY...

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.P.S. Weekly wins from men in the program (anonymized for privacy):

-Mental, emotional and sexual infidelity... even after infidelity

-Fun at in-laws, where before it was always a pain

-Turning old conflicts about parenting into more connection

-Turning a bad mood from work into a good mood and enjoying a great evening with family

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

P.P.S. Making $250K plus per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

This is one of the most common problems I see in the men I work with.

It can be VERY frustrating to feel like you’re changing, but have your wife keep bringing up your past mistakes.

What you have to understand about this is that your wife is HURT.

And YOU are the one who hurt her.

And over time, the wound you have caused her has become infected.

And so, when you tell her to “get over it” or “move forward” or “trust you,” you’re basically trying to put a band aid on an infection.

Instead, you need to:

Deeply understand her pain. This is like letting the wound drain.
Make permanent changes. This is what helps the wound heal.

Learn about these principles in today’s episode:

Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

P.S. To make permanent changes, you need to:

Identify and eliminate negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting
Replace those with positive, attractive patterns
Repeat those new patterns over and over until you can’t get them wrong

These are the three steps we follow in my program, Love, Intimacy and Legacy.

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.P.S. Weekly wins from men in the program (anonymized for privacy):

-Mental, emotional and sexual infidelity... even after infidelity

-Fun at in-laws, where before it was always a pain

-Turning old conflicts about parenting into more connection

-Turning a bad mood from work into a good mood and enjoying a great evening with family

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

P.P.S. Making $250K plus per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Previous Episode

Meet My Wonderful Wife

This is LONG overdue, but today you get to meet my wonderful wife Elizabeth!

We had the chance to be interviewed by Chris and Suzanne Vester from the Faith. Family. Fulfillment podcast.

Today you’ll hear from both of us about:

-The negative patterns we had in our marriage

-What it took to finally recognize them

-What we did to overcome them

-Her experience of me as a husband

-How my owning my negatives changed our marriage for the better

You’ll get a sense of just how amazing she is, and you will definitely be hearing more from her in the future on the podcast.

Hear the full interview on today’s podcast on Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow... starting TODAY...

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

P.P.S. Making $250K plus per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157

Next Episode

How To Overcome Disconnection In Marriage

My wife and I are experiencing some disconnection right now.

This happens at times in any marriage.

But, what do you do to overcome it?

Step 1 - Express your feelings, even when it might upset the other person. This isn’t just losing your temper, but explaining what you’re frustrated about. This requires spiritual, mental, and emotional strength.

Step 2 - Figure out what you actually want from the other person. This requires thought and effort.

Step 3 - Ask for what you want. This requires courage and communication skills.

Step 4 - Listen to what your wife wants. This requires mental and emotional strength and communication skills.

Step 5 - Follow through on what you commit to do for your wife. This requires integrity.

Finally, have faith that as you do good, good will come. This is the strategy my wife and I have used many times to overcome times of disconnection, and it’s what will work again this time.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

P.S. These are the skills that I teach high achieving Christian men in my program, Love, Intimacy And Legacy. You’ll learn how to get through times of minor and major disconnection to create love and connection and leave a great legacy for your children to follow. CLICK HERE to apply to join Love, Intimacy And Legacy.

You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io

P.P.S. Making $250K plus per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157