A Better Life AFTER Divorce - Interview With Jeff Tobin
06/19/20 • 31 min
A lot of men come to work with me when they are very near divorce.
They may already be separated, their wife may be threatening divorce, or they may be in the divorce process.
The men I work with want their wife back. They have seen the error of their ways.
But, sometimes, despite their best efforts and strength building, their wife chooses to divorce.
This can be extremely difficult. It can feel like all their work was in vain.
BUT, fortunately, divorce is NOT the end.
Life goes on.
And, if you put your effort into building up your strength...
If you have become strong and learned how to be attractive...
You WILL eventually create the marriage of your dreams.
It may just be with someone new.
Jeff shares his journey with us in this interview.
From the hope of reconciliation, to the heartbreak of divorce, to thinking he would never get married again, to having a wife that "he couldn't have dreamed up better."
I greatly appreciate his honesty and openness.
Summary:
-If you put everything you can into building yourself up and saving your marriage, you can look back with your head held high and look your kids in the eye and tell the you did EVERYTHING you could to make the marriage work
-Create fun times AND routines and structure for your children after divorce
-Developing the skill of learning from your mistakes and seeing things from your wife's perspective will serve you well in your continued relationship with your ex-wife and in future relationships
If you are looking at a possible divorce, take the time and make the effort to learn the skills that will help you feel STRONG and CONFIDENT, no matter what your wife chooses.
And, the skills that will help you create AMAZING relationships now and in the future.
Visit StrongMenStrongMarriages.com to learn how.
Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...
And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow...
All while living true to Christian values...
Starting TODAY...
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.
You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!
P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io
P.P.S. Making $250K plus per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157
A lot of men come to work with me when they are very near divorce.
They may already be separated, their wife may be threatening divorce, or they may be in the divorce process.
The men I work with want their wife back. They have seen the error of their ways.
But, sometimes, despite their best efforts and strength building, their wife chooses to divorce.
This can be extremely difficult. It can feel like all their work was in vain.
BUT, fortunately, divorce is NOT the end.
Life goes on.
And, if you put your effort into building up your strength...
If you have become strong and learned how to be attractive...
You WILL eventually create the marriage of your dreams.
It may just be with someone new.
Jeff shares his journey with us in this interview.
From the hope of reconciliation, to the heartbreak of divorce, to thinking he would never get married again, to having a wife that "he couldn't have dreamed up better."
I greatly appreciate his honesty and openness.
Summary:
-If you put everything you can into building yourself up and saving your marriage, you can look back with your head held high and look your kids in the eye and tell the you did EVERYTHING you could to make the marriage work
-Create fun times AND routines and structure for your children after divorce
-Developing the skill of learning from your mistakes and seeing things from your wife's perspective will serve you well in your continued relationship with your ex-wife and in future relationships
If you are looking at a possible divorce, take the time and make the effort to learn the skills that will help you feel STRONG and CONFIDENT, no matter what your wife chooses.
And, the skills that will help you create AMAZING relationships now and in the future.
Visit StrongMenStrongMarriages.com to learn how.
Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...
And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow...
All while living true to Christian values...
Starting TODAY...
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.
You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!
P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io
P.P.S. Making $250K plus per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157
Previous Episode
When You Feel Trapped In Your Marriage - How To Feel Free AND Stay Married
Sometimes it can seem like you have 2 options in your marriage:
Stay married and miserable or...
Get divorced and finally be free.
Luckily, there is a third option.
That is to feel FREE AND stay married.
There are 3 marriage traps that make us feel stuck.
You’ll learn what they are and how to break out of all 3 in this episode.
Summary:
-Trap 1 - Trying to control your wife’s feelings and thoughts
-How to escape: Know your own worth, choosing to be the husband you WANT to be
-Trap 2 - Service and compromise. Rejecting and denying your own desires and agency.
-How to escape: Make requests, set boundaries, own your decisions
-Trap 3 - Thinking marriage HAS to work
-How to escape: Realize you DO have the option to leave, then DECIDE whether to stay or not. Also let your wife choose whether to stay or not and know you WILL be ok either way if you build the necessary strengths and skills to get strong, get attractive, and get the marriage of your dreams.
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to leave a review and share with a friend so we can create stronger men and stronger marriages across the world.
Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...
And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow...
All while living true to Christian values...
Starting TODAY...
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.
You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!
P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io
P.P.S. Making $250K plus per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157
Next Episode
Short Circuiting Pornography Use - The Problem And The Shockingly Simple 3 Step Solution
If you are using pornography more than you would like, there is a perfectly logical explanation.
And, if you would like to STOP or CUT BACK on your pornography use, there is a simple 3 step solution that you can follow.
If you are interested in working through a program to implement these skills and ELIMINATE pornography from your life, contact me.
Watch here: https://youtu.be/_ALjaYZOldQ
Summary:
-Your brain has learned to use pornography and masturbation as a way to deal with sexual urges and negative emotions
-You can CHOOSE how you want to use your sexuality. Your true FILTER.
-In the moment, ALLOW the urge
-Name, feel and deal with your emotion
-Use STFAIR and your FILTER
-Track your progress. Target 100 urges processed WITHOUT acting on them.
-Learn from each urge. What worked, what didn't work, what will you do differently.
Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife...
And create an amazing legacy for your family to follow...
All while living true to Christian values...
Starting TODAY...
CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.
You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!
(The program also includes a program to overcome pornography)
P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io
P.P.S. Making $250K plus per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Apply here. https://form.jotform.com/230614546765157
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