111 - It's Not Better There Than Here

04/25/24 • 16 min

Cindy Esliger challenges the belief that achieving future success will be what makes us happy. Achieving a goal is a milestone but if we don’t value the journey along the way as much as the end result, we won’t be happy when we get there. Cindy examines why the journey, especially the first part of a journey full of obstacles, is important to our career development and success and how determination factors in.

Determination is a life skill that’s key to overcoming challenges and obstacles in our paths. Since it’s through adversity that we more clearly understand our strengths and potential, determination is a skill we should look to cultivate. Cindy discusses why the discouragement of mistakes and fear of failure instilled in us in youth follows us into adulthood and robs us of our determination. She has advice on how to regain that determination.

Fostering determination is what aids us in pushing through adversity and adversity is what teaches us, shapes us, and builds our strength throughout our journey. Appreciating this journey is key to appreciating our experiences and potential, and discovering who we really are. Cindy explores the many setbacks and failures that are inevitable as well as how our determination drives us toward our goal. Her advice is vital to acknowledging that success lies as much in the journey as in achieving the goal.

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Resources discussed in this episode:

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Contact Cindy Esliger

Career Confidence Coaching: website | instagram | facebook | linkedin | email

Previous Episode

110 - Notice the Patterns

Cindy Esliger examines how our patterns of behavior and decision-making are ingrained along the course of our lives and can influence outcomes on our journey. How do we recognize these patterns that are often deeply ingrained and subtle? Identifying them will help us single out limiting behaviors and free us to achieve greater success. Cindy guides us in finding and working on our innate patterns.

There is a direct relationship between patterns and possibilities. When we can understand what our habits are and how those habits and decision-making processes operate, we can start to anticipate what comes next and steer our futures. Cindy sets us the challenge of recognizing our patterns. In women especially, there are often two limiting patterns in the workplace that we need to single out.

Change is difficult so Cindy offers advice on how to overcome our comfort in habits and resistance to change. Part of it is building resilience to setbacks and finding the stepping stones in failure that drive us forward. Her three tips for enhancing an ability after experiencing a setback are 1. Content learning, 2. Flexibility and planning, and 3. Developing emotional intelligence. Cindy discusses the importance of self-compassion, cultivating pattern recognition skills, and finding ways to adapt when challenging the patterns holding us back. Learn how these skills can free us from limiting behaviors and propel us to success.

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Next Episode

112 - You Will Figure It Out

In today's episode, Cindy Esliger challenges the myth that all successful people have everything figured out. The belief that at some point in our career, we will cease to struggle and achieve clarity on every front is a narrative that distorts our perception of success. Cindy debunks the notion of a one-size-fits-all path to professional success and explores how continuing experiences contribute to wisdom.

Believing in a secret blueprint, precise formula, or hidden manual for success creates unnecessary pressure and unrealistic expectations for us. Instead, what truly matters is our own journey and the adaptation and self-discovery we navigate along the way. Cindy discusses the relationship between experience and wisdom, promoting the necessity of striving and lifelong learning to attain career success.

Cindy believes we must challenge ourselves at every stage of our careers and embrace the complexity of what achievement requires. She explains why the journey outside our comfort zone opens us to opportunities and knowledge. How do we embrace this uncertainty and retain optimism? She outlines three practical steps: 1. Set achievable goals, 2. Develop a flexible mindset, and 3. Visualize success and plan for challenges. This episode will challenge our ideas of unlocking a secret formula to success that negates challenges and shows why the continuing journey is so vital.

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Contact Cindy Esliger

Career Confidence Coaching: website | instagram | facebook | linkedin | email