Relaxation Resistance

04/16/25 • 16 min

Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way

Let’s talk about something so many high-achieving women struggle with: relaxation resistance. That underlying belief that if you relax, everything will fall apart. That if you slow down, you're lazy. That your worth is tied to your productivity.

This week, we’re unraveling the deep-seated patterns that keep you stuck in fight-or-flight mode, constantly "doing" instead of simply "being." Because the truth is:

💡 You don’t fall apart when things get hard. You rise.
💡 The real challenge is learning to soften when life is good.
💡 Your worth is NOT measured by how much you get done.

In this episode, we’ll break down:

✨ Why you resist relaxation and what’s really behind it
✨ How busyness and stress addiction keep you disconnected from pleasure
✨ The power of intentionally softening & creating safety in rest
✨ How to shift from exhaustion to luxurious spaciousness—without guilt
✨ Why “I don’t have time” is a lie & how to own your choices

⚡ It's time to stop proving your worth through over-functioning and start living in your feminine power.

👂 Let’s keep the conversation going! What landed for you in this episode? How do you resist relaxation? Slip into my DMs on Instagram—I’d love to hear from you!

Accountability is the key to lasting change. I’m here to not only help you eliminate the desire to drink but to fall in love with your alcohol-free life. You've taken in all the information, now it's time for implimentation Book your free consultation now. 💫

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

This week, we’re unraveling the deep-seated patterns that keep you stuck in fight-or-flight mode, constantly "doing" instead of simply "being." Because the truth is:

💡 You don’t fall apart when things get hard. You rise.
💡 The real challenge is learning to soften when life is good.
💡 Your worth is NOT measured by how much you get done.

In this episode, we’ll break down:

⚡ It's time to stop proving your worth through over-functioning and start living in your feminine power.

👂 Let’s keep the conversation going! What landed for you in this episode? How do you resist relaxation? Slip into my DMs on Instagram—I’d love to hear from you!

Previous Episode

The Truth About Mental Health, Sobriety & Embracing The Feminine Way with Andrea Clark

This episode is a special one—I’m sharing an incredible conversation I had on The Truth About Mental Health podcast with host Andrea Clark. Andrea is a former family psychologist who’s pulling back the curtain on the limitations of the mental health industry and advocating for a more holistic, empowering approach to healing.

We had so many synchronicities in our conversation, from shifting away from the need to control everything to fully embracing our feminine energy. We also talked about the societal conditioning that keeps high-achieving women stuck in stress, overwhelm, and alcohol reliance—and how the feminine way offers a path to liberation, joy, and deep trust in life.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✨ Why stepping into the feminine is the key to sustainable well-being
✨ How alcohol mimics trauma and keeps the nervous system in survival mode
✨ The link between high-achieving women, stress, and dissociation
✨ How surrendering control and honoring your cycle leads to more success
✨ Why luxurious space and exquisite care are essential to true empowerment

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Client Spotlight: 2 Years of Sustainable Sobriety with Bonnie

There is no greater honor than reconnecting with a client years after we’ve worked together and seeing her thriving—more empowered, more present, and more alive than ever before.

In this episode, I sit down with Bonnie, a mother of four, a generational cycle-breaker, and a woman who has redefined what’s possible when you choose yourself. Two years after going through my holistic alcohol coaching container, she’s not only still sober—she’s living her truth out loud.

When Bonnie found me, she was navigating a painful divorce and the deep overwhelm of motherhood. She could have easily chosen to numb, to check out, to drink. But instead, she said yes to herself. She said yes to healing. And in doing so, she didn’t just learn how to stop drinking—she learned how to live fully.

Today, she’s her own career as a holistic alcohol coach, using the very same tools she practiced in our work together.

✨ In this episode, we talk about:

How to stay rooted through big transitions
What it means to embody your emotions instead of escape them
The power of breaking generational cycles
And how sobriety can be the portal to your most empowered self

Bonnie’s story is your story. If you’re going through a major life shift, know that grounding into your power—without checking out—is the most courageous gift you can give yourself and your family.

Ready to take the first step? Join me in my private coaching container and learn how to create little shifts that make a big impact. The first step is to schedule a private consultation so I can help you navigate your biggest sticking points. Click here!

Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way - Relaxation Resistance

Transcript

Mary Wagstaff00:00:02.819

Music. Welcome to stop drinking and start living the feminine way. I'm your hostess. Mary Wagstaff, holistic alcohol coach and feminine embodiment guide here to help you effortlessly release alcohol by reclaiming your feminine essence. Sobriety isn't just about quitting drinking, it's about removing the distortions that keep you disconnected, overwhelmed and stuck in cycles of numbing. Each week, I'll share powerful tools, new perspectives th