Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding - 40: Breastfeeding Manners - what to do with demanding older babies, toddlers & preschoolers

40: Breastfeeding Manners - what to do with demanding older babies, toddlers & preschoolers

12/18/23 • 43 min

The shirt-pulling, screaming, and demands to breastfeed have gotten to the point that you find yourself dreading them before your toddler has even thought about breastfeeding again.
When they do, inevitably "ask" to breastfeed, the fear of reinforcing all of their bad behaviors reverberates through your body as you quickly try to decide if you will hold the boundary; or give in to their demands this time.
...and the guilt that comes from the fact that they "act" so poorly can be crushing. Did you cause this behavior with your bad parenting? Will they end up as disrespectful teenagers? Will the choices you make today define their character as adults?
Man - the pressure that mounts in those moments is crushing!
But what if there is another way?
In this final podcast episode of season 1 of Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding I break down:

What respectful behaviour is and isn't
The truth about the magic words: "Please" & "Thank You"
Rewards, punishments & reinforcing behaviours
How to support your child in the moment
How to raise an empathetic, respectful human who has integrity
How to support YOURSELF in the moment

Looking for the episodes I mentioned at the beginning to re-listen to during the holidays?

References:
Harvard Making Caring Common Project

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What respectful behaviour is and isn't
The truth about the magic words: "Please" & "Thank You"
Rewards, punishments & reinforcing behaviours
How to support your child in the moment
How to raise an empathetic, respectful human who has integrity
How to support YOURSELF in the moment

Looking for the episodes I mentioned at the beginning to re-listen to during the holidays?

References:
Harvard Making Caring Common Project

Previous Episode

39: a massive cultural barrier to natural term breastfeeding & toddler weaning with confidence and calm

Breastfeeding & weaning your toddler with confidence and connection isn't impossible. But the reason it feels that way (at least some of the time) isn't your fault.
In today's podcast episode I break down the first of 3 cultural traps that keep you stuck and frustrated on your natural term breastfeeding & toddler weaning journey.
(The other 2 are available in my free instant-access workshop here!)
The trap? The belief/instinct to start by changing your child's behavior first.
What does it look like?
->Deciding it's time to wean
->Shorten feeds/dropping feeds/reading the weaning story books
->...and your child asks to breastfeed more, not less (and at an increasing volume.)
Tune in to learn how to get un-stuck from this trap (and avoid it if you haven't fallen in yet!)

Next Episode

Survival Mode Motherhood (Ep. 1 of Behind the Scenes Series)

If you have longed for a "me too," or an "I get it" for the times when parenting feels like you are just doing what you can to survive the day - this is the episode for you.
2023 was a crazy ride for me. Launching this podcast was incredible, but a lot was going on behind the scenes - including health struggles for me, which led to a lot of "survival mode parenting".
Over the next month, I'll be sharing shorter, laid-back episodes that explore some of the things that I have experienced personally over my last 6.5 years of breastfeeding - and the last year of utter chaos.

In this first episode of the BTS seried, I share how my own exhaustion and limited capacity have had benefits in my parenting.
(And make sure to subscribe/follow this podcast so you don't miss out on the rest of the episodes in this BTS series.)

Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding - 40: Breastfeeding Manners - what to do with demanding older babies, toddlers & preschoolers

Transcript

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Hello! It has been a little while since I have, put out a new podcast. I have been sick. The last one I recorded, I was just beginning to be sick, but it has taken me weeks to recover, and I'm still recovering. But my voice is a lot better, and my mind is a lot clearer, so I feel like I can get this podcast out to you.

And it is timely if you're listening to this when it is coming out. It is the holiday season. It is mid to late December, [00:00:30] a