Situationship to Soulmate

Do you feel like you mask your true self, just to fit in? Are you feeling frustrated and hurt by your dating experiences, but aren't sure how to change them? Join me as I share why letting go of shame is the key to finding a happier, healthier life, and the key to finding your soulmate. I share my experiences from high school, college, and my twenties, and how a sense of shame shaped my relationships and self-image in a negative way. I also share how my recent ADHD diagnosis was the key that unlocked the understanding of why I felt the need to hide my authentic self.
Transitioning from shame to empowerment, I'll recount how I harnessed the power of social media, personal development, and healing. Hear how I confronted my fears head on, creating a support group for sexual assault survivors and an online community to talk about consent and sexual health. I'll explain how I learned to let go of the need to please others, embraced authenticity, and found a partner who accepts me and loves me in a way I never knew was possible. This episode isn't just about my journey, but a beacon of hope and guidance for those going through similar experiences.

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If you take one thing away from this episode, let it be this: PEOPLE CANNOT READ YOUR MIND!
Ever expect your partner to magically read your mind, only to be met with disappointment? You're not alone. Drawing from my personal experiences and advice from my own therapy sessions, this episode covers the importance of communication within relationships and why it's crucial to bravely express our feelings and needs, instead of expecting others to just know them. I talk about how fear of the other's reaction often causes us to hold back, leading to misunderstandings and resentment. I also explore how good communication forms the very foundation of a successful relationship, offering actionable steps to enhance your communication skills.
I share examples of effective and ineffective communication in relationships, and offer advice for how to have better communication in your dating life, whether it's a longterm relationship or a situationship. Learn how to acknowledge and express your feelings effectively, stand up for your needs and transform your relationships through the power of good communication.

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Have you ever considered how alcohol affects your dating experiences? Join me as I sit down with Julia, @that1soberfriend on TikTok and Instagram, for a revealing conversation on navigating dating and drinking in your 20s.
We get honest about how we used to rely on alcohol to mask insecurities and lack of confidence, and how this habit can steer us towards wasted time, energy, and missed red flags. Hear our personal stories of how alcohol played a role in preventing us from being our unfiltered selves and finding authentic connections for many years. We challenge the notion that first dates should be alcohol-centric, and instead suggest a shift towards discovering chemistry, connection, and intimacy with a completely clear mind. We underline the significance of embracing awkwardness and discomfort in dating, and that feeling awkward on a first date is completely normal and doesn't have to be avoided. We question the idea of using alcohol as a confidence booster, and shed light on how this can actually be a sign of insecurity. The episode concludes with a contemplation on dating and sobriety, championing the idea that stepping out of our comfort zones can open doors to authentic relationships and personal growth. Tune in for an enlightening dialogue that promises to redefine your perspective on the connection between dating and alcohol.
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Listen to Julia's podcast: "The Young, Fun, And Sober Podcast"

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Welcome to the Situationship to Soulmate podcast, your guide to navigating the complicated world of dating, relationships, and sex in your 20s.
In today's episode I bring on my very first guest....my boyfriend Colin! As an interracial couple, we had to overcome both of our own preconceived notions and stereotypes about the idea of dating outside our own race, as well as push past the judgement and ignorance that is still alive in our society today. We've chosen to use our experiences from our 2 year relationship to spark important dialogues about race and relationships. Join us as we unveil real experiences of navigating the nuanced world of interracial dating and general misconceptions we've had to confront.
The evolution of our relationship has been quite a learning curve. From understanding the concept of white privilege and its implications on our relationship to navigating cultural differences, we've grown tremendously. Hear how we deal with differences in food preferences and communication styles, and how our relationship has become more natural over time. This is a candid conversation about love, race, privilege, and the constant journey towards understanding and acceptance. Join us for this intimate conversation and gain insights into the often overlooked dynamics of interracial relationships.

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Struggling with setting boundaries in your relationships? You're not alone. I've been on this challenging journey myself, and I'm ready to share my personal experiences and lessons learned. We'll dive into the pivotal insights from Nedra Glover Tawab's book, "Set Boundaries, Find Peace," and discuss how these principles have been instrumental in understanding and addressing boundary issues in my own life, and could be for you too. We'll also examine the telltale signs that indicate you need to better define your boundaries - from feeling overwhelmed and resentful to avoiding interactions with people who might ask for help.
We often find ourselves saying 'sorry' after setting a boundary, but it's crucial to remember that you're not doing anything wrong by taking care of your mental and emotional wellbeing. We'll navigate through these exercises together to ensure you are confident in setting, maintaining, and respecting your own boundaries in relationships or situationshipships. These are necessary steps you can take to ensure you feel safe and comfortable.
Remember, prioritizing yourself is NOT SELFISH!

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