Situationship to Soulmate

Have you recently been through a situationship ending? Or maybe you're reflecting on past situationships? Or you can feel that the situationship you're in now has run its course? This episode is all about navigating the "breakup".
Just because it wasn't a "real relationship" doesn't mean situationships aren't just as difficult, if not sometimes MORE difficult, to heal from after they end. In this episode, Shelly shares her personal stories from the 3 main situationships in her 20s, and how she dealt with the ending of them. She also shares do's and dont's for navigating the end of a situationship.
Some highlights and tips from this episode include:

• DONT try to stay friends
• DO go no-contact
• Focus on hobbies and interests you haven't had time for
• Give yourself validation...situationship breakups SUCK!

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This week's episode includes special guests Rowan and Cal, both queer, non-binary and trans, and polyamorous. They share their personal relationship story which began while Rowan was married, and share the unique challenges they've had and discoveries they've made together throughout their relationship.
We dive deeply into the complexities, misconceptions and societal views surrounding polyamorous and queer relationships and identities. We examine the dynamics in both monogamous and polyamorous relationships, and the importance of communication, consent, honesty, and trust in navigating any relationship structure.
Rowan and Cal share their personal journeys with gender, sexuality, and relationship structures, their coming out processes, and how this relationship has helped them each to discover themselves in a deeper way. They offer invaluable insights into maintaining a relationship while undergoing personal transitions, and the need for understanding and support in our lives. Don't miss this enlightening conversation that not only challenges societal norms but also opens up new perspectives on love, identity, and relationships.

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Do you feel like you mask your true self, just to fit in? Are you feeling frustrated and hurt by your dating experiences, but aren't sure how to change them? Join me as I share why letting go of shame is the key to finding a happier, healthier life, and the key to finding your soulmate. I share my experiences from high school, college, and my twenties, and how a sense of shame shaped my relationships and self-image in a negative way. I also share how my recent ADHD diagnosis was the key that unlocked the understanding of why I felt the need to hide my authentic self.
Transitioning from shame to empowerment, I'll recount how I harnessed the power of social media, personal development, and healing. Hear how I confronted my fears head on, creating a support group for sexual assault survivors and an online community to talk about consent and sexual health. I'll explain how I learned to let go of the need to please others, embraced authenticity, and found a partner who accepts me and loves me in a way I never knew was possible. This episode isn't just about my journey, but a beacon of hope and guidance for those going through similar experiences.

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If you take one thing away from this episode, let it be this: PEOPLE CANNOT READ YOUR MIND!
Ever expect your partner to magically read your mind, only to be met with disappointment? You're not alone. Drawing from my personal experiences and advice from my own therapy sessions, this episode covers the importance of communication within relationships and why it's crucial to bravely express our feelings and needs, instead of expecting others to just know them. I talk about how fear of the other's reaction often causes us to hold back, leading to misunderstandings and resentment. I also explore how good communication forms the very foundation of a successful relationship, offering actionable steps to enhance your communication skills.
I share examples of effective and ineffective communication in relationships, and offer advice for how to have better communication in your dating life, whether it's a longterm relationship or a situationship. Learn how to acknowledge and express your feelings effectively, stand up for your needs and transform your relationships through the power of good communication.

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Have you ever considered how alcohol affects your dating experiences? Join me as I sit down with Julia, @that1soberfriend on TikTok and Instagram, for a revealing conversation on navigating dating and drinking in your 20s.
We get honest about how we used to rely on alcohol to mask insecurities and lack of confidence, and how this habit can steer us towards wasted time, energy, and missed red flags. Hear our personal stories of how alcohol played a role in preventing us from being our unfiltered selves and finding authentic connections for many years. We challenge the notion that first dates should be alcohol-centric, and instead suggest a shift towards discovering chemistry, connection, and intimacy with a completely clear mind. We underline the significance of embracing awkwardness and discomfort in dating, and that feeling awkward on a first date is completely normal and doesn't have to be avoided. We question the idea of using alcohol as a confidence booster, and shed light on how this can actually be a sign of insecurity. The episode concludes with a contemplation on dating and sobriety, championing the idea that stepping out of our comfort zones can open doors to authentic relationships and personal growth. Tune in for an enlightening dialogue that promises to redefine your perspective on the connection between dating and alcohol.
Follow Julia @that1soberfriend on TikTok and Instagram
Listen to Julia's podcast: "The Young, Fun, And Sober Podcast"

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