Navigating Dating and Intimacy as a Sexual Assault Survivor

12/17/24 • 16 min

Navigating the world of dating and relationships as a sexual assault survivor presents unique challenges and opportunities for growth. In this episode, Shelly shares how her best advice for navigating dating and intimacy for those of you who have experienced sexual assault. She describes how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, explores the benefits of being single for healing, and how to recognize the difference between feelings rooted in past trauma versus present-day awareness.
Shelly also speaks on how acknowledging and accepting the sexual assault survivor part of ourselves is crucial for genuine self-expression and healing, as well as for building healthy relationships and intimacy. From the complexities of sexual relationships to the importance of quiet moments in fostering intuition, this episode provides a thoughtful approach to embracing all parts of your identity as a sexual assault survivor, and gives tangible tips and advice.

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Situationship to Soulmate - Navigating Dating and Intimacy as a Sexual Assault Survivor

Transcript

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This episode is focused on giving you advice if you are a sexual assault survivor , how to navigate through dating and sex and relationships . So my first piece of advice is there is absolutely no shame in being single . I just want you to know that that is again . There's no shame in that if that's what you need to heal and also if that's what you need to ensure that you are